Dildo and interracial

[Eilan]

Why not explore the real deal? Having a threesome with a black guy could really spice things up-- even just giving her permission can accomplish the same thing. If you are both emotionally ready for it, why play around with plastic?

I'm not suggesting that you rush into things, but rather keep talking about it, observe how both of your bodies react to the thought. Keep taking it further verbally. You'll know if the time is right for the real thing.

I've never understood people who were afraid to act out their fantasies...

I think there SHOULD be an element of fear/concern when it comes to acting out certain fantasies, particularly those that involve bringing others into one's bedroom. Just because something's a hot fantasy doesn't mean that it will be that hot in reality.

And maybe I'm cynical, but having had a few MFM threesomes, I can think of some reasons why a dildo might be preferable to the real thing. Hubby excluded, of course.

 

[3sum4fun]

I think there SHOULD be an element of fear/concern when it comes to acting out certain fantasies, particularly those that involve bringing others into one's bedroom. Just because something's a hot fantasy doesn't mean that it will be that hot in reality.

And maybe I'm cynical, but having had a few MFM threesomes, I can think of some reasons why a dildo might be preferable to the real thing. Hubby excluded, of course.

Ironically, we started with a dildo ourselves, before moving on to the real thing. We have yet to explore the interracial aspect, since it is difficult enough to find the right sort of man without adding the limiting factor of race into the equation. However, being systematic, taking things slowly, and not making any compromises, we have had very good luck with MMF threesomes. They definitely are not for everyone and there is no room for insecurities or relationship problems. On the other hand, my wife and I are closer than we ever have been, it has only increased our self-confidence (rather than weaken it), and it has done nothing to negatively impact our lives. Yes there are risks, but they can be sensibly mitigated.

 

[caramelgirl_2]

Ironically, we started with a dildo ourselves, before moving on to the real thing. We have yet to explore the interracial aspect, since it is difficult enough to find the right sort of man without adding the limiting factor of race into the equation. However, being systematic, taking things slowly, and not making any compromises, we have had very good luck with MMF threesomes. They definitely are not for everyone and there is no room for insecurities or relationship problems. On the other hand, my wife and I are closer than we ever have been, it has only increased our self-confidence (rather than weaken it), and it has done nothing to negatively impact our lives. Yes there are risks, but they can be sensibly mitigated.

What if you got together with another couple? If you got together with a couple that was equally committed to each other and had the same fantasy (albeit they would be black couple or at least bm/wf couple) perhaps that would decrease any anxiety about the intent of the individual you introduce into this relationship.

 

[huelust]

I was going to say something along those lines myself. Having the same fantasy, it was very erotic for me to see the constrast of his hands on my body, and everything else. :

Blondi84, these are my thoughts too. It's not about the equipment. The fantasy is the physical differences sometimes and how that plays out in your mind. When it comes down to it, cock is cock and pussy is pussy- it's the mind that does the fun stuff. I like your idea about turning down the lights and encouraging the wife's fantasy. Very hot.

Bisexplicit,
I think you are so right hot is hot regardless and that maybe is a generational thing BUT in many sectors it is still taboo. I'm not that much older than you, but I do a see big change from my college days until now. Where you live has a lot to with it also. My bf is not white, but very light and to some he looks white. In major metropolitan areas, it was never a problem that we knew of, but in some of the smaller towns in Pennsylvania and Ohio we did get the look (or maybe I got the look 'cuz I was the only black face for miles).