Do you get horny while writing?

[JaxRhapsody]

Sometimes I might get horny. Not as much as I used to. Eventually you get desensitized to stuff.

 

[Edward Teach]

I often get horny and then write.

 

[Athalia]

To clarify what I wrote a couple of pages ago:

I do my best writing when I'm horny.

I do my best editing when I'm not horny.

Both process are equally necessary to the act of creation.

 

[46n2]

That is absolutely amazing (having read page 1). I’m stunned.

WHAT?!

How can that categorically be a “No, I’m not turned on.”

If I’m not knocking my cock out of the way then something’s wrong here. It canNOT be working for anyone else if I’m not stiff myself. Escaping the first two things I wrote (where I may have got a bit too close to the central subject), I’ve written a deluge of considerations that I’m not even favorable for. Meaning, I like to choose things I might not understand and speak from within there anyway; I like to learn enough to be able to. And if my dick ain’t hard? Then I’m obviously not understanding it none.

How the hell could I ever be affecting if I felt completely removed from what I want the reader to feel?

That’s fucking bizarre to me.

That’s whacky talk.

We’re not writing Shakespeare here. Your TRYING to get someone off.

And if yer not? You’ve lost your way in the library. Go left, and then right, and then maybe left again. Cuz THIS space - is for remarkable librarian boobies that got caught between C4 and D5.

What the fuck? I absolutely slap the shit out of my cock (or used to) while penning those verifiably high-rated stories. It’s a fucking mess. I’ve ruined many a keyboard. Fuckin slime all over my knuckles (though I tend to power through). It’s a mess and I’m all In.

And you know what else? It occurs to me, while I’m just guessing. Maybe your reader wants to know you’re getting off while they read. You’re just seated there with a judgmental cup off ginsing while they whack away at themsleves? This just in: they don’t want that. They don’t fucking want that.

Get invested.

What the fuck?

Honestly, this blows my mind.

And should NOT ever be exposed to the general reader. Horrendous. Yuck on you all.

 

[windar]

That’s whacky talk.

We’re not writing Shakespeare here. Your TRYING to get someone off.

And if yer not? You’ve lost your way in the library. Go left, and then right, and then maybe left again. Cuz THIS space - is for remarkable librarian boobies that got caught between C4 and D5.

Hold on a sec there guy. I haven't read your stuff and perhaps you write stories that are more or less one sex scene or several strung together. That's fine, but that isn't mostly what I write.

I'm not Shakespeare by any means, but I write novella length stories in which I have plenty of plot and character development along with the fucking, so a goodly number of chapters don't have much stroke material. A great many readers are happy with that; those who aren't look elsewhere.

 

[46n2]

Not to be defensive (or argumentative) on this but for the record I don’t write simple stroke stories. It might take 6-10 hours in a sitting while I’m edging myself silly for a good majority of that time (in general). That may continue on for several days until it’s finished - with a day or so in between, though I tend to lose the mojo if I allow for that. Once I dive in, I’m pretty much dedicated to going deep in there.

The stories themselves normally birth from a sudden impulse. If a concept lingers long enough that I’m compelled to put my hands to the keyboard, as that’s the only way to solve a now necessary “question”, then I map it out. I might scrawl out a central scene to determine if it plays well on paper but then I map it out. If that appears erotic and deep enough a rabbit hole I can build something enjoyably dynamic within - then the process begins a fever and I’m mostly just channeling it through. Picking it apart at points but doing my damndest not to “get in the way” of it all too much.

Since I first began doing this sort of thing it has evolved enough where I’m pretty flexible on where and what pieces to address and when. But in that regard I’m somewhat streamlined and tend to prefer a real-time execution (if not linear).

The only thing certain is I will not know the End until I get there.

And that’s the most rewarding aspect (for me).

Cuz when I get there. I will then know what I had not prior.

-Also for the record I’ve not made any money off this sort of thing so you can take all that with a grain of salt. Although, I’ve received enough reaction (under some other pen names) to assure me it ain’t garbage in the least. What I’ve done was always worth doing and never for myself as much as someone else, eh.

That much is assured.


But anyway, carry on - do what works for You or don’t even bother with it at all, eh.

-peace

 

[46n2]

I should also perhaps point out:

When it's NOT Erotic Writing? I need to know the End before I begin it at all. Completely different mindset.

But I've never sold any of that either so... Salt AND Pepper for ya?

 

[Sir_Fuchs]

If I allow myself to get carried away I have a difficult time finishing (sigh)

If anybody has some experience at naturist resorts or camps would luv to be contacted - I have only been to beaches.

I am thinking of setting one in a camp and would luv to hear what types of facilties and social activities you experienced or witnessed.

Am thinking of a fun social atmosphere maybe activities coordinated or integrated with the camp's own social media app.

I'd be more than happy to help, visited a few naturist venues, camp site, saunas, beaches sort of thing.

 

[WhoNeedsAUsername]

I must be unusual, because I always get horny when I write porn. Not, “omg I’m going to cum soon” horny, but kind of a low-grade erotic buzz. I touch myself too. Not continually, but when I pause to think about a passage I might brush my fingers across my nipples or between my legs.

I particularly do it when I’m editing. I’ll play around with sentence structure and word choice, trying to figure out what delivers the biggest erotic punch. I know I’ve got it right when it turns ME on … .

I'm exactly the same way. It's the main reason I started writing erotica. When the story gets me to want to touch myself, I know I'm onto something.

 

[tenyari]

Not so much when I write. When I read it back to myself I will, and if I don't, I rewrite until that happens.

I've often got too much story and not enough stroke in my first few drafts.

 

[SemiStraight]

That's probably when I write the best. If I'm not just a little horn it becomes more rote which isn't good IMO

 

[Sir_Fuchs]

If I allow myself to get carried away I have a difficult time finishing (sigh)

If anybody has some experience at naturist resorts or camps would luv to be contacted - I have only been to beaches.

I am thinking of setting one in a camp and would luv to hear what types of facilties and social activities you experienced or witnessed.

Am thinking of a fun social atmosphere maybe activities coordinated or integrated with the camp's own social media app.

Hello, happy to share my experiences of naturist camping and public nudity

 

[ChloeTzang]

When I'm writing most of the story, no, but when it comes to the sex scenes that buzz adds to the writing experience and gives it an edge because I'm visualizing in my mind as I write. If I don't get that buzz its not hot enough. I have one story I'm working on right now that's lost that edge for me and I know I'm going to have to go back and rework it..... oh well

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I do when I write the first draft. Then when I read it back to do content editing I do as I am tweaking the sexy parts to make them better. It's all my own fantasies being out to text so if they aren't arousing me they won't arrouse anyone else.

But when I do grammar checks and non structural editing for final clean up...not at all. That is the least sexy thing ever. I feel like I am back in grade school underlining the subject and verbs of each sentence.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

It's weird. You'd think I'd get horny writing all this sex stuff, but I don't.

I guess I'm too preoccupied trying to choose the right words, use proper grammar and punctuation, and generally figure out what the hell is happening next.

I also can't write while horny. I gotta get it out of my system before so I can focus on the story.

I'm certainly not knocking on anyone who maybe gets off to their own stories or anything. But I also find it funny that once a story is done, I don't dwell on it too much.

I think, for the first story I wrote, the ideas were a MASSIVE turn-on, so much so I just had to get them out and into a story, BUT, the writing itself becomes a huge exercise in problem solving, description, pacing, narrative misdirection, character development but with sex being the core thing moving it all forward.

So no, you’re not weird at all.

 

[GrantBricksly]

It's weird. You'd think I'd get horny writing all this sex stuff, but I don't.

I guess I'm too preoccupied trying to choose the right words, use proper grammar and punctuation, and generally figure out what the hell is happening next.

I also can't write while horny. I gotta get it out of my system before so I can focus on the story.

I'm certainly not knocking on anyone who maybe gets off to their own stories or anything. But I also find it funny that once a story is done, I don't dwell on it too much.

Absolutely. I find that my best writing comes from my best fantasies. And if the fantasy doesn't turn me on, is it really worth writing about?

And my hope when writing a story, is to turn on my readers. So as I write, I try to keep that in mind. As a result, if it isn't turning me on, I naturally worry that it isn't going to turn on my reader either. I choose my words carefully to try to evoke the feelings and emotions that I want to evoke.

There are times that it takes me several days to finish a story, because I will get so turned on by the story that I have to stop and 'take care of business'. But in the end I have a story that I am proud of.

I don't have a lot of stories posted here yet, only 9. And most of those are from almost a decade ago. But I still write all the time. Sometimes it's just for me. Sometimes I write for my wife. And I've recently started posting here again.

It is actually not the best method sometimes. Sometimes I will stop because I got turned on. And then when I go back to the story..I've lost my groove..I've got several partial stories that were started and never finished. And worse still, some of them are from years ago and I don't even remember where I was planning to go with the story..

So Yes, I absolutely get very turned on while writing. But, that is not always a good thing.

 

[Rob_Royale]

It's weird. You'd think I'd get horny writing all this sex stuff, but I don't.

I guess I'm too preoccupied trying to choose the right words, use proper grammar and punctuation, and generally figure out what the hell is happening next.

I also can't write while horny. I gotta get it out of my system before so I can focus on the story.

I'm certainly not knocking on anyone who maybe gets off to their own stories or anything. But I also find it funny that once a story is done, I don't dwell on it too much.

Oh, I quite agree. During writing, I do not get aroused for the reasons you mentioned. However during the editing/proofreading stage, I feel I damn well better get aroused, or I'm not doing something right. These are my fantasies after all. If I have to stop and rub one out before I finish going over the work, I feel good about my story. I just hope the readers do as well.

 

[stevesthename]

Fascinating thread - thanks everyone. Limited experience here; I've been writing for years but haven't written much fiction, and I'm still part way through my first erotic story (three parts up on Lit, the fourth is in the process...)

My experience with that story is a strong "Hell yeah!" But that's probably because the leading lady is based on someone I know and fancy, and what's happening is largely stuff that turns me majorly, comprehensively on.

So most of the time I'm typing with a full erection (well, not actually typing with a full erection, that would be tricky) and very much enjoying what's going on - while processing ideas (yes that's probably a euphemism) before going to the keyboard, while writing and while editing.

I usually end a session seriously wishing I could meet my heroine.

Edit: Stroking while typing? No, that wouldn't be practical for me - two hands on the keyboard at all times. I will confess to making use of thinking-between-paragraphs time sometimes but rarely more than a little edge...

 

[Cindy027]

So most of the time I'm typing with a full erection (well, not actually typing with a full erection, that would be tricky)

Like in the old days when you used a dictaphone

 

[stevesthename]

Like in the old days when you used a dictaphone

Dicktaphone, perhaps?

 

[brodieloads]

Recently a friend of mine managed to stumble into one of my WIPs and asked me this question in person.

We may be incredibly close but holy god was that an awkward conversation.

For me, like many others apparently, the actual writing isn't arousing. There's enough to focus on between thinking "Hmm, no I've used that word too many times" and getting irrationally frustrated at whatever platform I'm using for telling my I'm wrong whenever I spell armour, or favourite with a U and recognise with an S.

The time spent planning out the sex scenes though? Or thinking back on a story? Absolutely. I feel like erotica, or writing in general is a lot like cooking. If you don't think it's sexy/delicious, why would anyone else?

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

I'd say Yes. No. Sometimes.

I think this post/thread is a perfect reflection of the amazing and complex influences that drive all human sexuality. Its all happening, all the time, to someone, somewhere.

Its what makes this shit so cool!

< Did I really just say that? >

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

I get horny but as a vagina haver arousal is pretty easy to ignore. I'm not as sensitive as most either so yeah. I get to save the horny for later?

 

[WillyBoyIsHere]

I am new to writing erotica. Did it make me horny - hell yes!
I had an erection throughout, and dribbled so much precum I put a condom on.
Even proof reading made me horny - if I changed a line to what was sexier (in my opinion).
The third or fourth read-through, not so much.

 

[BDSoMmers]

Oh wow, yes.

I would say that it has to do with my creative process which is, and I'm sure I'm not alone in this, to create a mental movie in my mind's eye and then just describe what I'm seeing to the best of my ability. So for me its also what I do when I masturbate, so it's to not unusual for me to be aroused when I write.

The few times that I've been horny enough to stop writing and switch to the other activity is when I've been writing about characters that are based on people I know in real life. Although what gets me excited isn't thinking about anything that I may be doing with the character, but thinking about things the actual person is based on doing them. It's like me knowing a sexy little secret about them, but then I remember it's fiction, oh well.

-B