Do you have a fuck buddy?????
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Re: Re: Re: Bump....
You would think so..but alas....
Afraid that is me too....stroking, stroking.....
MizTabby said:that resembles me too, DK, bummer really
you haven't got one tho'
you'd think somebody'd be having a fucking good time
on hump day
You would think so..but alas....
Afraid that is me too....stroking, stroking.....
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First, to emeraldman, there is lust and there is love. A good fuckbuddy has to be able to separate the two. Can one fall in love with a fuckbuddy? Yes. Can some of us have fuckbuddies and not fall in love with them? Yes. It is all a matter of perspective and that is what both have to keep in mind.
Warmslide, I think it is already a personal in a way. But the good thing is that it is also a place where people can come and discuss the issue of fuckbuddies.
*Waves at Nightdive*....hey.
Warmslide, I think it is already a personal in a way. But the good thing is that it is also a place where people can come and discuss the issue of fuckbuddies.
*Waves at Nightdive*....hey.
How right you are MM
There is definately a differance between Love and Lust. However the nature of physical intimacy between sentient beings makes emotion natural. If you didn't care how your fuck buddy felt they might as well be fucking a blow up doll. And visa versa. Cause the same old emotionless sex is all you would be getting. A good fuck buddy will care to look into your eyes and enjoy the pleasure that they are giving you and will see you enjoy the pleasure you are giving them. If it isn't exciting and fresh and pleasurable why do it? Naturally and sometimes unfortunately that care can be extended too other emotions. If someone told me they could care less about their fuck buddy I would tell their fuck buddy it's time to start looking for someone else.
There is definately a differance between Love and Lust. However the nature of physical intimacy between sentient beings makes emotion natural. If you didn't care how your fuck buddy felt they might as well be fucking a blow up doll. And visa versa. Cause the same old emotionless sex is all you would be getting. A good fuck buddy will care to look into your eyes and enjoy the pleasure that they are giving you and will see you enjoy the pleasure you are giving them. If it isn't exciting and fresh and pleasurable why do it? Naturally and sometimes unfortunately that care can be extended too other emotions. If someone told me they could care less about their fuck buddy I would tell their fuck buddy it's time to start looking for someone else.
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Re: Re: Re: Bump....
You know, it's funny. I show off on here and on Yahoo and most of the time the immediate reaction "Wow, with a cock like that you must get laid all the time!" Well, no. I mean it's not like I can go around with it sticking out or even pass around pictures without getting slapped. So it pretty much remains a secret except here.
MizTabby said:that resembles me too, DK, bummer really
you haven't got one tho'
You know, it's funny. I show off on here and on Yahoo and most of the time the immediate reaction "Wow, with a cock like that you must get laid all the time!" Well, no. I mean it's not like I can go around with it sticking out or even pass around pictures without getting slapped. So it pretty much remains a secret except here.
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Just found this place......
Yes i have a fuck buddy.......unfortunatley i've fallen for him and im more fucked up than i ever thought i could be.....never again i swear.
Yes i have a fuck buddy.......unfortunatley i've fallen for him and im more fucked up than i ever thought i could be.....never again i swear.
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Re: How right you are MM
There is no such thing as emotionless sex. Because that is beyond bad sex in my opinion. What I am trying to say is that while I can care deeply for my fb, that doesn't mean that I have marriage in mind.
I do enjoy both the pleasure gotten and the pleasure given. There is nothing better. But it also doesn't mean that I have to give my fb a "either or or" decision. I just meant that I can keep my emotions under my control and if I feel it is getting beyond what WE want, then I can feel free to slow the situation or stop if need be without it getting nasty.
Nightdive said:
There is no such thing as emotionless sex. Because that is beyond bad sex in my opinion. What I am trying to say is that while I can care deeply for my fb, that doesn't mean that I have marriage in mind.
I do enjoy both the pleasure gotten and the pleasure given. There is nothing better. But it also doesn't mean that I have to give my fb a "either or or" decision. I just meant that I can keep my emotions under my control and if I feel it is getting beyond what WE want, then I can feel free to slow the situation or stop if need be without it getting nasty.
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this is the issue! I assert like nightdive that falling for your fuck buddy is a GOOD thing, and that intense emotion is the deal!!!
Also, that one can say, ok we are sex pals, love pals and this is all good! think about it, if I say I love you, does that mean marriage, forever, faithful till death??? tell me your thoughts?? Sex without love? thats the rub, Im just raising the issue, but from my experience, love-sex is the best and the wildest ...... what do you all think??
kisses
Also, that one can say, ok we are sex pals, love pals and this is all good! think about it, if I say I love you, does that mean marriage, forever, faithful till death??? tell me your thoughts?? Sex without love? thats the rub, Im just raising the issue, but from my experience, love-sex is the best and the wildest ...... what do you all think??
kisses
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emeraldman said:this is the issue! I assert like nightdive that falling for your fuck buddy is a GOOD thing, and that intense emotion is the deal!!!
Also, that one can say, ok we are sex pals, love pals and this is all good! think about it, if I say I love you, does that mean marriage, forever, faithful till death??? tell me your thoughts?? Sex without love? thats the rub, Im just raising the issue, but from my experience, love-sex is the best and the wildest ...... what do you all think??
kisses
Unfotunantley falllling for your fuck buddy is the worst thing.....i have gone thu 3 weeks of hell and still it goes on, i fell for someone i couldnt have and it hurts so much....x
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trixie, Im sorry baby, that is the dilema, falling for your sex buddy..... perhaps it points to your (and mine!) real dilema, our marriage partners. I can ONLY speak for me, but thats my issue !!
and the sex, the touching, the wild, free love, is the gasoline on the flame!!
kisses and my thought are with you, be guided by your heart, unless there are real issues in the way, i.e. kids, obligations, money that muddies the water...... now we are getting to the rub....
perhaps we can separate our fb and our other mate.
what do you all think?
and the sex, the touching, the wild, free love, is the gasoline on the flame!!
kisses and my thought are with you, be guided by your heart, unless there are real issues in the way, i.e. kids, obligations, money that muddies the water...... now we are getting to the rub....
perhaps we can separate our fb and our other mate.
what do you all think?
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emeraldman said:
I don't understand the question that you are asking here emeraldman. You should always separate the fb and your mate. There is something missing with the mate that causes the looking for a fb. Even if it is just the "spice" that is missing or the conversation.
Therefore there should always be a separation of the two.
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I agree with you Nightdive.
But it is not necessarily that something is wrong with the mate. It is that something is wrong in the relationship.
But it is not necessarily that something is wrong with the mate. It is that something is wrong in the relationship.
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Thank you Nightdive.
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Bump....
DK, there's a whole lot more to each of us than just genitals,
of course a goodlooking cock like yours does motivate the
imagination, which in turn would have an effect on someone
who is really interested in the fuckhalf of FB; on the other
hand, the buddy part is what needs to be addressed in a more
careful way. It's like MMeds said there is no "emotionless
sex", so when the fuck meets the buddy, and both parties are in
agreement as to what this "special arrangement" signifies to
them both, then there should be nothing left but to enjoy each
each other to the fullest, love-sex as
emeraldman so nicely put it
Mind you, because there is emotion in sex, for me anyway, there
is the chance that feelings, other than those being shared at the
offset, might arise, then what? So, like most things in life, it's a
risk, take it and deal with the consequences? or deprive yourself
of something you're yearning for so badly and then go on moping
about a fuckless life?
*Nightdive how one presents one's gem will get one laid?
well DK ought to be all laid up lol (bad pun,
sorry) give me the piece of coal, I'll polish it up and extract my
diamond, I just loooove lingering over the coals, might just start
a spark, all that friction between coal and lips
Slide, personal attention is always a good thing
Dietrich K. said:
DK, there's a whole lot more to each of us than just genitals,
of course a goodlooking cock like yours does motivate the
imagination, which in turn would have an effect on someone
who is really interested in the fuckhalf of FB; on the other
hand, the buddy part is what needs to be addressed in a more
careful way. It's like MMeds said there is no "emotionless
sex", so when the fuck meets the buddy, and both parties are in
agreement as to what this "special arrangement" signifies to
them both, then there should be nothing left but to enjoy each
each other to the fullest, love-sex as
emeraldman so nicely put it
Mind you, because there is emotion in sex, for me anyway, there
is the chance that feelings, other than those being shared at the
offset, might arise, then what? So, like most things in life, it's a
risk, take it and deal with the consequences? or deprive yourself
of something you're yearning for so badly and then go on moping
about a fuckless life?
*Nightdive how one presents one's gem will get one laid?
well DK ought to be all laid up lol (bad pun,
sorry) give me the piece of coal, I'll polish it up and extract my
diamond, I just loooove lingering over the coals, might just start
a spark, all that friction between coal and lips
Slide, personal attention is always a good thing
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I agree, there is something missing from the realationship, or that we have changed and our mate has not, ..... and leaving is hurtful or or not an option, or just hasnt happend yet,
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Bump....
Honey as a woman I can truthfully tell you that for me it isn't the size of the ship but the knowledge of the captain. If a man doesn't let me know that he knows what he is doing, it really doesn't matter the package that he is packing.
It could also be the women that you are actually meeting as well. Maybe you are trying to hard, or moving to fast for them. You see, we women for the most part, have gotten really picky the last few years.
Dietrich K. said:
Honey as a woman I can truthfully tell you that for me it isn't the size of the ship but the knowledge of the captain. If a man doesn't let me know that he knows what he is doing, it really doesn't matter the package that he is packing.
It could also be the women that you are actually meeting as well. Maybe you are trying to hard, or moving to fast for them. You see, we women for the most part, have gotten really picky the last few years.
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emeraldman said:
That is what is sad to me emeraldman. If you have tried to communicate that to the mate, and it isn't working or they don't see your point of view that something is missing then it is time to go. Leaving is always hurtful to someone, but staying can be much worse.
