Do you keep the fact that you are bi/gay from your most trusted & intimate friends?

[Mistress K]

ANGELINA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I saw her first, she's mine!!!!

I love Angelina she is very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very HOT!

 

[maleorfemale]

Know one knows other then my wife and the people we have shared our bed with.
Having only acted on my bisexual urges after 40 years.There is
no way I could talk to anyone in my family about it,they could never begin to understand it.they could barely understand me before that.
Besides it is really none of their buisness how I conduct myself
sexually,I am still the same person they always knew before.

It has changed me in ways they could never comprehend,for me
I accept it and am enjoying myself as is my wife

Yes it would be great to be able to open and honest with
everyone but in the world I live in it is just not possible.

 

[arljjc]

Much like maleorfemale I have begun to express myself in my early forties, so family does not know. My wife and a very small circle of friends know about me, although I am still finding out more about myself with each day.

 

[Etoile]

It occurred to me that one's most trusted friends may not be that trusted if you can't reveal your sexuality to them. Yes or no?

 

[arljjc]

It occurred to me that one's most trusted friends may not be that trusted if you can't reveal your sexuality to them. Yes or no?

Yes, I would agree. My "Trusted" friends, of which I can count on one hand know. There are other people who are friends in that we see each other from time to time that I do not feel comfortable sharing personal informaiton.

 

[Pookie]

It occurred to me that one's most trusted friends may not be that trusted if you can't reveal your sexuality to them. Yes or no?

I agree. I've lost some friends after they found out I was bisexual, a few that I thought were close friends. You really do find out who your true friends are.

 

[angela146]

It occurred to me that one's most trusted friends may not be that trusted if you can't reveal your sexuality to them. Yes or no?

Hmmm... there are aspects of my sexuality (SM for example) that I haven't yet revealed to anyone other than my husband (and my anonymous friends here at Lit). SM just gets into some extremely personal stuff for me.

On the other hand, I'm more comfortable with my close friends knowing aobut my bisexuality. My "closest and most trusted" friends all know but there are a few "almost that close" friends who only "soft of know".

In particular, I have a good friend who just isn't comfortable talking about sexuality. In her case, I haven't told her outright but I'm reasonably sure that she has drawn the conclusion.

 

[Bitchslapper]

My family doesn't know I'm bi-curious, but I don't really feel I'm keeping it from them or anything. I just don't want to deal with all that right now and besides, it's really none of thier business. Only one person knows I'm bi-curious, and that's my girlfriend. She's bi herself, so it wasn't an issue.

Anyway, the main reason I've kept it under wraps is that IMO, if more than one or two trusted people know, the more likely the word would get out and it might ruin my chances of having the career I'm planning for.

 

[Bitchslapper]

It occurred to me that one's most trusted friends may not be that trusted if you can't reveal your sexuality to them. Yes or no?

I was wodnering if anyone was ever going to make that point.

 

[pegasuswrites2]

I'm totally new to Literotica and am here because I am bi-curious. I was born and raised in the south eastern part of the U. S. I am a bit over 50 now and I've been married to the same woman for 30 years. I love her and don't wish to endanger our marriage, but still... I must admit that the whole concept of bi-sexuality has held my interest for most of my life. Even so, all of my bi-encounters, a mere handful, occurred long before I got married- between the onset of puberty and when I was in about my 2nd year of college. So it has been a long time, but I have fond memories of almost all of them.

At this point in my life my bi-sexual curiosity is limited to a strong desire to share memories of long past experiences with other married men close to my own age, to discuss our desires even though I don't anticipate fulfilling mine, and to share our fantasies- both hetero sexual as well as bi-sexual one. And I want to do so only through email and perhaps IM. I may eventually take it to the level of some phone sex, but that is uncertain for now.

I said all of that to say this. I could never admit to my wife or even my closest friends that I am bi-curious and certainly not that I have had bisexual experiences that I still look back on with much fondness. They simply could not deal with it. There is no doubt in my mind about that. I mean we are talking deep south, Bible belt, relatively small town of only 50-60,000 people with a church on 3 of every 4 corners of every intersection!

My wife and I have had a great sex life and it isn't bad even now, except for the frequency. But there isn't a bi-bone in her body. Believe me, after 30 years with the same person, you kinda get a feel for these things. If I were to so much as allow one toe out of the closet, all hell would break loose!

I'm happy for all of you who are able to enjoy open or relatively open relationships with your spouses, but it can't happen in my situation. But I can deal with that because there are so many other things about our relationship that are so good. So I'll just content myself with searching for another bi-curious guy who is in a somewhat similar situation and who can be content with a somewhat clandestine cyber (perhaps occasional phone?? ...not sure about that myself!) relationship.

Call me a whimp if you feel you must, but call me a whimp who recognizes his circumstances.

...Pegasus

 

[Etoile]

Wow, Pegasus, thanks for introducing yourself! I don't think you're a wimp at all - you alone know what you can and can't do. Congratulations on 30 years of marriage, by the way! Feel free to post in the GLBT Personals forum to try to find a guy to chat with.
Welcome to Lit!

 

[Hajar]

My mother has some ideas, she's pretty open, so it doesn't really bother her, but as I'm married I think, that it's her belief that I got it all out pre vows.
My other family members hell no!!!!!
never!
My husband knows and he's very supportive, but like someone before said my bdsm/bi lifestyle would shock some people that know me, I'm from an island, in the last week it forced me to delete a journal and start a new one, and I live thousands of miles away, but I still have my mother and son living there that would face the back lash from my choices.
As for friends, about 5 (all either gay or really open) know that I'm bi, from my telling them, others from the rumor mill (as I said small island), but as for my full sexuality I think only two people know, my husband and one female friend who is alot like me, and doesn't judge.

 

[yaspis]

With me it depends of friend. Some have narrower mindsets, some are more like me. I have friends that have "ideas" about my sexuality, but I'd never bring the subject up if they didn't find the guts to ask.

About a sturdy quarter of my friends are those people who are clearly afraid of broadening their views. I love them dearly and would never risk the relationships by shoving their face into something I know would confuse our interraction. I've come to justify this to myself thusly: If they love me the way that I'm now, in all my weirdness, why should I create a gap between us? If they do not act openly intolerantly towards sexual minorieties, I have no need to correct whatever ideas they might have of my sexuality or the sexuality of others. It's a bit naïve, I know, but it has been working until now and probably will, too, in the future.

 

[Hajar]

well I had an intresting talk with my dad this weekend, we were talking about what's going on in Cali, with the gay marriages and I said I would have no problem being a surrogate mother for a couple, after I've had my own kids and if my husband didn't have a problem with having a child to give it up, my father who doesn't know I'm bi, threatened to kill me if I acted on it.
Well this might sound bad to some but he's 68 and smokes a pack a day, so he die pretty soon, and I won't miss him that much, with his closed minded ideals.
Sorry but it's the truth.

 

[MzChrista]

It occurred to me that one's most trusted friends may not be that trusted if you can't reveal your sexuality to them. Yes or no?

Thats the way I see it and thats why I am maybe a bit too much in peoples faces when I first meet them. Id rather have the people who have a problem with it walk away from the get go.

 

[rickayster]

There is no way I would keep the fact that I'm gay from any of those close to me. If they are close to me then they can handle it, and if they can't handle it, then they don't deserve to be close to me.

I wish it were so easy I am married and 2 kids later I am just sharing it with myself. Let alone anyone else!! I am over 40 and want to discover this whole other side of me that has been aching to get out. Everyone in my circle would be mortified to know and truly there is no reason to share.

 

[mellian]

all of my friends knows about me.

-mellian

 

[rickayster]

u are lucky I guess