Do you tell your lover when you're cumming?

I do a reverse announcement. I go absolutely silent for a few minutes beforehand.

Then when i hit it, you'd have to be across town not to notice.
 
Not usually. In the beginning of a new sexual relationship, I’m a lot more likely to tell a partner that I haven’t orgasmed.

As I reach my peak, I tend to start saying “no” repeatedly and trying to get away, because it feels so intense that part of me panics. Most new partners assume I’ve orgasmed at that point and stop stimulation, which usually leads to ruined orgasms. So I usually have to remind them gently that I did tell them that doesn’t mean I’ve cum and that “no” isn’t my safe word.

Once they feel comfortable continuing stimulation on a woman who’s yelling “no,” and I get all the way to orgasm, they see a pretty big difference. I thrash and scream and undulate and throw pillows/whatever else I can reach. It’s not something that goes without notice once someone knows what to expect.

However, I do sometimes have psycholagnic orgasms—those that occur without physical stimulation—, and they’re a lot more subtle. They can just look like a little shudder. I do tell my partners after those.
 
Absolutely I love to announce. Especially when I get a reaction like "Oh yeah cum inside me" of "Cum on my (fill in the blank)"

When announcing becomes a conversation itself...hotness
 
I do mention I'm getting close, then she'll tell me to wait if she wants more, or if she wants to cum together at that point she'll tell me to go ahead. I feel like it's important for a man to let a woman know if he's close, as once he finishes the show's generally going to start wrapping up or at least undergo an intermission. My partner doesn't generally tell me, it doesn't seem to be necessary as it's clear.
 
Because I can be practically anorgasmic at times, I will use reverse psychology on both myself and the paramour. If I feel sort of close I will say something like, "You are about to make me cum; Don't you dare!" Sometimes it works, and oftentimes the paramour redoubles their efforts because by then, they want it over with.

I kid, but only just.

Ideally, I do. I am ok with not, but it seems most women feel validated when the dude orgasms. It is usually considered the deminimus that the man get there if one of us does. Sometimes, if they are sufficiently out of it from a combination of being sated and worn out they don't notice either way.
 
Because I can be practically anorgasmic at times, I will use reverse psychology on both myself and the paramour. If I feel sort of close I will say something like, "You are about to make me cum; Don't you dare!" Sometimes it works, and oftentimes the paramour redoubles their efforts because by then, they want it over with.

I kid, but only just.

Ideally, I do. I am ok with not, but it seems most women feel validated when the dude orgasms. It is usually considered the deminimus that the man get there if one of us does. Sometimes, if they are sufficiently out of it from a combination of being sated and worn out they don't notice either way.

This^ reminds me of a gf years ago that liked to make me cum. She enjoyed "making" me cum but also having me scream or yell out when I was cumming. Yes even though it was very obvious by my ejaculation. Now that I think about it, I can see that it was more of a validation on her part. Not only did she want to see the evidence of her being able to make me cum, she wanted a kind of verbal surrender. "OMG you are going to make me cum!"

ES
 
We almost always tell each other. We tell each other also when we are close so we can speed things up or slow them down as desired
 
We almost always tell each other. We tell each other also when we are close so we can speed things up or slow them down as desired

I think this is true for us as well. I think my wife will speed up and try cum with me if I am getting close. So I will tell her if I am getting close first.

At the same time, I think it gives me better orgasms when I announce it. The look on her face, her encouragement, a hand here, a caress there all lead to a great orgasm. I do the same for her if I know she is cumming. I try to get an extra bit of stimulation, loving words, to help her through a great orgasm.

In fact, I think I even announce my orgasm when I am masturbating by myself!

ES
 
I beg for permission to cum :cattail:

Thank you Violet.....I might get placed in some wierd catagory for this but I usually want my partner to ask before they cum. That way I can get into my permissive, denial , go head and cum thing which usually makes it more intense:devil: ....as for me. I believe they can usually tell better when i come than when i dont :D:rose:
 
Seems like it would feel fake for someone to say their cumming. Like they are in a hentai or something. The women all say their cumming in those, it’s pretty ridiculous.
 
Seems like it would feel fake for someone to say their cumming. Like they are in a hentai or something. The women all say their cumming in those, it’s pretty ridiculous.

I can see how it would seem fake in a Hentai movie. In real life I enjoy it when my partner announces her orgasm, especially when I can watch or feel her body reactions.

ES
 
Hi, long time lurker, infrequent poster. Got a question for the lovely ladies and studly gents of Lit. How many of you tell your lover when you're cumming?

Only when receiving oral, and only because she doesn't like cum in her mouth.
 
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