Does Authenticity Matter Here?

[SpicyBean99]

I don't want to see 'perfect'. I want to see normal everyday people. I want to see those tummys. To appreciate those people putting themselves out there, whether they are proud of their bodies or like you looking for appreciation and validation in how they look. To know those people are genuine and feel vulnerable putting themselves out there makes me feel for them and to open up myself to them.

By the way @ScarletDaisy you are 'perfect' in my eyes

I second this.

 

[graysilver]

If I’m chatting with someone and it’s superficial, looking for a thrill, and in any way misleading (a pic that is misrepresentative *) - not interested.

* suggesting it’s ‘live’ and it’s not

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

You don't have to scroll on these forums for long to see that this is a place of fantasy. A "playground" for adults to come and have fun without any real world judgements or ramifications. That being said, you also don't have to scroll very long to see that there are real people on here looking for real connections. To to this I say, play responsibly. Catfishing/stealing pictures is not a new phenomena. This is the internet and we are all adults here.

I've had my fair share of negative interactions on Lit, but I don't think I should be able to cry foul because I got my feelings hurt. And I am opposed to any and all forms of litmus tests because somebody got catfished on the internet.

Lit and all the people here (reguardless of their intentions) helped this shy, anxious little church mouse embrace her sexuality and become a more confident self-assured person in real life. I want Lit (for all its faults) to remain a place where people can engage in their wildest fantasies without fear and shame.

And again, (I cannot stress this enough) play responsibly. There ARE real people with real feelings looking for connections here. Playing with other people hearts is messed up. So is stealing pics. Don't do that.

 

[CuriousCat89]

Part of me knows hope is an except where people can be their actual true selves. But since they don’t live their acres true selves (it’s not always possible), it’s inauthentic.
I’ve been very fortunate with my time on lit over the years and screen name identities to make meaningful friendships (and more), but that’s easiest if you’re honest with who you are vs who you want to be.
Trying on personas on lit ultimately causes some people to get hurt.

 

[SpicyBean99]

@Nutsky

Thoughts on this?

 

[OralAllOver]

A challenge well said!

The most evocative region of the site, here in forum/bulletin, where folks open in heartfelt ways about sexual practices, experiences and lessons learns. Some folks are at a loss and need good input. Others share because sharing is valuable. (I make too many jokes -- working on it).

Authentic, giving and brave

 

[sammyIammy]

For me, I started posting here to explore parts of my needs/desires/personality that scared me. I always say I’m one of those people who needs a really good idea of how something is going to play out before I commit to it, which made opening our marriage to explore my bisexuality VERY challenging. Especially since years of jist seeing myself as “mom” had hurt my sense of my body and attractiveness.

Coming here and being able to talk with real people about it helped IMMENSELY. being able to post photos and get positive feedback about my looks helped IMMENSELY.

i know Im not sharing my whole self on here, and who I am on here is much more aggressive than I present in real life. But it’s all parts of me.

So yeah, if bugs me when people I have been sharing honest parts of myself with turn out to not just be curated facets of themselves but total fabrications. Every time it happens it turns me off this place a little more. I wish people didnt do it.

For the record, people questioning their sexuality or gender identity IRL using here to explore is fine with me. I get that. Don’t steal other women’s photos for yourself because that’s cruel and criminal. But if John is seriously exploring becoming Joan, I will chat with Joan all the live long day and help her get where she needs to be. If John is pretending to be Joan to get fap bait? Fuck that.

Well said

 

[SpicyBean99]

A challenge well said!

The most evocative region of the site, here in forum/bulletin, where folks open in heartfelt ways about sexual practices, experiences and lessons learns. Some folks are at a loss and need good input. Others share because sharing is valuable. (I make too many jokes -- working on it).

Authentic, giving and brave

Thankyou for saying so!

I agree with the latter.

When people share experience, stories, their own sexual or not “learning curves”, rather than just fantasy, it creates a feedback loop of constant learning and reassurance for everyone perusing which is ultimately a very different dynamic from passive consumption..,

Jokes always have a place

 

[graysilver]

For me, I started posting here to explore parts of my needs/desires/personality that scared me. I always say I’m one of those people who needs a really good idea of how something is going to play out before I commit to it, which made opening our marriage to explore my bisexuality VERY challenging. Especially since years of jist seeing myself as “mom” had hurt my sense of my body and attractiveness.

Coming here and being able to talk with real people about it helped IMMENSELY. being able to post photos and get positive feedback about my looks helped IMMENSELY.

i know Im not sharing my whole self on here, and who I am on here is much more aggressive than I present in real life. But it’s all parts of me.

So yeah, if bugs me when people I have been sharing honest parts of myself with turn out to not just be curated facets of themselves but total fabrications. Every time it happens it turns me off this place a little more. I wish people didnt do it.

For the record, people questioning their sexuality or gender identity IRL using here to explore is fine with me. I get that. Don’t steal other women’s photos for yourself because that’s cruel and criminal. But if John is seriously exploring becoming Joan, I will chat with Joan all the live long day and help her get where she needs to be. If John is pretending to be Joan to get fap bait? Fuck that.

Well stated! If someone wants a quick exchange - sexual stimulation - ah . . . No! Getting to know each other and opening up (with thought and care) is what I’m interested in. Disingenousness and flightiness and inauthenticity - not interested.

 

[Nutsky]

@Nutsky

Thoughts on this?

I think as with anything its exactly what you make it right, like if you looking for a genuine connection, obviously the worst thing you can do is be too attracted to fantasy and miss obvious signs someone's not real, but if you can take a moment and think most of the people you meet here are searching for a way to connect and if lit gives them that, why lie. being an actual person everyone wins something and for the weird fake accounts that are just ai generators im not sure how they gain anything other than some fleeting attention. If anything I wish lit would be better at finding them

 

[EvaLane]

My authenticity pulls them in, my tits and ass seal the deal

 

[JennyCapricorn]

My authenticity pulls them in, my tits and ass seal the deal

Tits and ass will save your life…

 

[metrifonate]

My authenticity pulls them in, my tits and ass seal the deal

Like a Siren luring the hapless victims

 

[metrifonate]

Tits and ass will save your life…

And finish off others

 

[ScarletDaisy]

My authenticity pulls them in, my tits and ass seal the deal

And now I'm singing Tits & Ass

 

[SpicyBean99]

@CallMeMacaroni

- would you like to divulge on the subject? If not could you pleaseee tell me why you think it’s funny regarding people posting AI images and support of @ScarletDaisy feeling disparaged because of it?

 

[CallMeMacaroni]

@CallMeMacaroni

- would you like to divulge on the subject? If not could you pleaseee tell me why you think it’s funny regarding people posting AI images and support of @ScarletDaisy feeling disparaged because of it?

I really would not know as I have not ever used AI nor even know how to do so.

 

[SpicyBean99]

I really would not know as I have not ever used AI nor even know how to do so.

You left a laugh reaction beneath a message in support of another poster here, I wondered why that was.

 

[CallMeMacaroni]

You left a laugh reaction beneath a message in support of another poster here, I wondered why that was.

Because someone said something that was funny. Are you tracking every comment and emoji I make?

 

[SpicyBean99]

Because someone said something that was funny

If you’re reacting publicly, I assume you have a position.

Which argument are you disagreeing and laughing about?

The point about fabrication or the impact it has on real women posting?

 

[CallMeMacaroni]

If you’re reacting publicly, I assume you have a position.

Which argument are you disagreeing and laughing about?

The point about fabrication or the impact it has on real women posting?

I only see a laugh emoji on one post from bluesky about me "Simply get topless, cover yourself in oil, and bounce around a bit while holding a post it note with your name written on it in one hand and todays newspaper with the date clearly visible in the other. Very simple! That ought to silence the naysayers"

and then one from you because I found your example of yourself as looking autbhentic to be pretty funny and egotistical

 

[sammyIammy]

My authenticity pulls them in, my tits and ass seal the deal

You’d be a draw with charm alone. So I hear

 

[SpicyBean99]

I only see a laugh emoji on one post from bluesky about me "Simply get topless, cover yourself in oil, and bounce around a bit while holding a post it note with your name written on it in one hand and todays newspaper with the date clearly visible in the other. Very simple! That ought to silence the naysayers"

and then one from you because I found your example of yourself as looking autbhentic to be pretty funny and egotistical

You finding me inauthentic doesn’t really change anything for me.

There are people here who’ve met me. People who’ve spoken to me off-site. People who’ve video called me. I’m not some floating concept that exists only in your interpretation….

What I find funny is that you took me describing myself as “authentic” and decided that was egotistical. Being comfortable enough to own who I am, which includes the fact I enjoy attention and validation… isn’t ego.

I don’t post my pictures here because I think I’m superior, I post because I like how it makes me feel. I’ve always been open about that. Incredibly so. I enjoy the gratification. Crave it, in fact. It’s just who I am! I also enjoy the attention. But I don’t pretend otherwise

If that reads as inauthentic to you, I’m genuinely curious what standard you’re measuring it against.

 

[ItsMe87]

Yeah, I’d say authenticity is important here.

The world feels like it’s becoming increasingly inauthentic - at least that’s how I’m experiencing it in 2026 - so a place like this where groups of people feel comfortable being themselves and sharing themselves is mostly a good thing.

Having said that I think this place requires a degree of faith because you can’t really know what someone is telling you is authentic or not, but you can say that about real life too lol.

If I wanted fake nonsense I could sign up to any social media site, so for me authenticity isn’t just important it’s essential.

I’m not entirely sure I’ve answered the question properly, but a little waffle never hurt anyone!

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

My 2.5 cents, authenticity matters less to me than purpose and intent. You wanna use AI or photoshop to smooth out some things you’re insecure about, it’s not really any different to me than plastic surgery or Ozempic. There’s larger questions about whether we think a healthy society promotes and encourages those things but I’m not gonna tell any particular person to not do what they need to do to get through the day.

You wanna create alts, that’s fine. If you’re sad and lonely and think you’re boring so you wanna create a personality for yourself outta whole cloth, I don’t think it’s particularly witty or amusing but I can sorta get it. I'm probably not the target audience and I won’t engage but I won’t call you out for it either.

The problem, for me, arises when the purpose is manipulation of me (or the target audience) into behavior that’s damaging and unhealthy to them. That’s the ill intent that I don’t like. Is it a judgement call? Absolutley. Such is life.