Does Authenticity Matter Here?

[lilmissdarling]

Yes, but how much probably depends on each person.

Adult sites like Lit tend to blur things a bit. People explore different sides of themselves seperate from their everyday reality. I think it’s more important to decide what level of authenticity you need and set that boundary for yourself.

For me, I’m pretty quiet and professional in real life. On here, I’m more playful, flirty, and a little bratty. It’s still me though. People who know me see both, but others might decide who I am off of posts alone.

I’m not advocating for zero authenticity. There’s no reason to be dishonest or misleading about who you are. But I do think there is a BIG difference.

 

[alba_sun]

I’m afraid it matters so much to me that I’m going to insist on your credit card details and pin number just to be absolutely sure.

 

[JimDee676]

I also want to challenge my own question a little, because I think there is a valid counterpoint....

Lit has always involved persona, fantasy and selective self-presentation and like...even those of us who are “real” are still curating what we show. We choose which photos to post, which stories to tell, which parts of ourselves to emphasise. In that sense, there is always some level of performance here. For some users, that performative element is part of the appeal, I KNOW that they are not necessarily looking for verifiable authenticity and are instead looking for immersion, interaction, banter, roleplay. For them, the fact that someone may not be fully anchored to an offline identity does not automatically diminish the experience. (I don't express that I understand this often enough).

It is also fair to say that interactivity, not strict realism, may be what separates Lit from static porn sites....The ability to comment, flirt, respond and build a dynamic exchange can exist even within stylised or ambiguous personas... obviously.

So perhaps the issue is not as binary as “real versus fake.” As with everuthing there is so much nuance... There may be a spectrum between privacy, fantasy and deliberate misrepresentation.

So, maybe the more useful question is not simply “Does authenticity matter?” but “How much authenticity is necessary for this space to function in a way most of us are comfortable with?”

I’m genuinely interested in where others draw that line....Open for as much discussion as it warrants. I would love to hear thoughts.

Great question. The. three stories I've written and posted here are from my imagination. But when I've gotten involved in questions on the board here, I've always been authentic. I don't know about anyone else, but my sense from reading various postings and/or responses is that many here are authentic. Just my .02 cents.

 

[OralAllOver]

IMHO the critical skill is to fake authenticity

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[CuriousCat89]

Did you just Bing us??

 

[MisterChillax]

You can fake personas, but you will never be able to escape/hide/misrepresent character. Is always revealed in one way or another.

 

[base10]

In a one off interaction, I don’t think it matters a whole lot. But if you want to have an ongoing conversation/relationship with someone, it starts to matter just like in the rest of the world

 

[EvaLane]

I sort of wish it mattered more than it seems to

 

[nock]

I also want to challenge my own question a little, because I think there is a valid counterpoint....

Lit has always involved persona, fantasy and selective self-presentation and like...even those of us who are “real” are still curating what we show. We choose which photos to post, which stories to tell, which parts of ourselves to emphasise. In that sense, there is always some level of performance here. For some users, that performative element is part of the appeal, I KNOW that they are not necessarily looking for verifiable authenticity and are instead looking for immersion, interaction, banter, roleplay. For them, the fact that someone may not be fully anchored to an offline identity does not automatically diminish the experience. (I don't express that I understand this often enough).

It is also fair to say that interactivity, not strict realism, may be what separates Lit from static porn sites....The ability to comment, flirt, respond and build a dynamic exchange can exist even within stylised or ambiguous personas... obviously.

So perhaps the issue is not as binary as “real versus fake.” As with everuthing there is so much nuance... There may be a spectrum between privacy, fantasy and deliberate misrepresentation.

So, maybe the more useful question is not simply “Does authenticity matter?” but “How much authenticity is necessary for this space to function in a way most of us are comfortable with?”

I’m genuinely interested in where others draw that line....Open for as much discussion as it warrants. I would love to hear thoughts.

So what you postulate now is authenticity with a tolerated, probably deliberate "margin of error" that makes sense to me

 

[BornNorCal]

I get that there are people here who are trying things on, like a coat to see if it fits them right. There is room for that when the fashion show is authentic and called what it is. For more empathic people it takes extra energy to peel back the layers of acting to find the actual person and that can be exhausting and can come with a cost.

If the day comes when I feel that there is no longer the possibility of genuine interaction here I will pack up. This thread can give all of us some hope. Authenticity still matters to the people that may matter to you.

 

[env789]

I agree with the sentiments that there should be a baseline of authenticity, while allowing people room to play. I don't think the two are even necessarily exclusive. But being authentic and assuming a different persona requires a level of transparency that might be challenging to navigate. Might break the illusion for for the one adopting a persona.

As a lifelong RPG enthusiast, I have no issue with a person presenting differently from what they are, but in that context it is known. Without that knowledge, the other people interacting with the persona could feel lied-to and possibly betrayed if/when the truth comes out, and that has damaging ripple effects. It's an odd context to bring up consent, but I think that's the concept I'm getting at. The other posters did not consent to participate in what is essentially a roleplay.

So yes, authenticity matters, a LOT, and I think in the interest of maintaining social safety, some transparency is reasonable to expect if a poster is adopting a persona.

 

[Jeanie99]

I made the mistake of thinking it did. That what seemed sincere might have actually been sincere. Now I understand its all just a game.

 

[BornNorCal]

I made the mistake of thinking it did. That what seemed sincere might have actually been sincere. Now I understand its all just a game.

The children are welcome to their games of make-believe. The adults here who desire connection don't have time for that nonsense.

 

[Happyfun1]

Yes, authenticity matters very much to me. Sometimes it takes a little while to figure out if people are really authentic. But if you mean it, and your sincere and authentic gives you a lot of credibility and respect being authentic make sure we are as people. It is hard to find people that are truly authentic these days. It’s hard to know what to believe what peoples motivations are and are you a computer are you a bot etc.