Does shame turn you on?

[liqueur]

If so, I'd love to talk about it. What your experiences with shame have been like, why you think it's a turn-on, anything else you'd like to share about it. Here or in private, as you wish.

And please, can we keep this a thread for conversation? Save the porn links for those kinds of threads.

 

[Austbiman]

I have DM you

 

[liqueur]

Bump

 

[Emma_O]

You mean do I like to be "shamed"? Seems little different than being humiliated. Or to try to embarrass me?

Either/or, no, it wouldn't turn me on. Not at all. I'd defend myself, and it would cause me to withdraw, 'fold up my tent'.

Edited to add: And it wouldn't be something I'd do to someone else. Then I really would feel shameful.

 

[rachaelwillguideyou]

If so, I'd love to talk about it. What your experiences with shame have been like, why you think it's a turn-on, anything else you'd like to share about it. Here or in private, as you wish.

And please, can we keep this a thread for conversation? Save the porn links for those kinds of threads.

I know certain kinds of humiliation can be a turn-on to some people. A subtle or not so subtle comment on how naughty, for lack of a better word, someone is dressed or behaving can work.

 

[JFoxxo]

When combined with my other kinks, ya, humiliation is a huge turn-on. Shame and humiliation are closely related to power-themed kinks, which tons of people have.

My kinks revolve around women growing and men shrinking. Humiliation is often one of the things that facilitates said exchanges. Honestly can't get enough of it.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

There’s something about feeling used sexually that can be a turn on. Shame for me gets into silly abrahamic garbage that is disempowering and malevolent but I get the gist!

 

[BongoGal]

Shame seems like something too sad to be erotic for me. Embarrassment can be a big turn-on, though.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Shame seems like something too sad to be erotic for me. Embarrassment can be a big turn-on, though.

Like being walked in on?

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Shame seems like something too sad to be erotic for me. Embarrassment can be a big turn-on, though.

Indeed. You play bongos? Maybe i asked you before. I love playing the bongos and play conga bongos in a dope band. Cheers.

 

[Gone_and_Back]

Shame holds some appeal or at least did in my past. A couple of times I hooked up with friends of ex's and the potential scandal of people finding out was part of what made it hot.

 

[ChuckWolf]

Not usually when it's happening, but have had a few sexually-charged instances.

Back in the day, once had three female coworkers surprise me when I was buying physical porn in an adult shop during my lunch hour (they'd seen my car in the parking light).

Here's the story, if anyone is interested:

https://forum.literotica.com/thread...set-outed-caught.1585311/page-2#post-97502682

At the time, very embarrassed and shamed, but after, became one of my top 5 real world spank bank memories.

 

[Ramone45]

The shame I feel when my wife makes love to another man is part of the turn on. I am unable to satisfy her due to intractable premature ejaculation. She needs another man for her sexual gratification.

 

[BongoGal]

Like being walked in on?

Yes, that could do it. For me, though, I’m more likely to be turned on by someone else’s embarrassment.

You play bongos?

No. Bongo was my kitty, and I was his gal.

 

[Emma_O]

"...Shame seems like something too sad to be erotic for me..."

Indeed.

 

[zzzzbzzzz]

I have huge shame for wanting to see my mom’s big ass fucked but I can’t shake the fetish

 

[BillyWalrus]

I have mentioned this incident before but it is pertinent to the thread.

When we were talking about what food we like, my trans gf said to her niece (in front of me), "He likes to eat Filipina sausage."

We all laughed but I was ashamed and humiliated knowing that her niece knows I like sucking her aunt's dick. But the other part of it is, I liked it and now when I think about it, it is a turn on.

 

[rachaelwillguideyou]

Shame seems like something too sad to be erotic for me. Embarrassment can be a big turn-on, though.

Shame, humiliation and embarrassment can be very closely related. People may differ on interpretation.

 

[BongoGal]

Shame, humiliation and embarrassment can be very closely related. People may differ on interpretation.

I feel as if it’s all a Venn diagram. I can imagine scenarios that involve all three, and I can imagine others that are mostly one without the others being involved much at all. For instance, if I were out with a handful of friends, and I had a wardrobe malfunction that exposed my boobs, I might feel embarrassed, and there might be some humiliation (but not much, if any), but there would be zero shame. People from other cultures might feel much more humiliation and shame. If my hypothetical wardrobe malfunction happened on live TV, my humiliation might increase, but there would still be no shame. I don’t think that I would feel shame unless I was caught doing something morally wrong on purpose.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Yes, shame can be very sexy. I have done some shameful things and I have one left to do that I often share in private when people use the forum messenger service to explore fantasies with me in more useful detail than I would feel conformable writing about here in open public discussion.

 

[Mystories189]

My husband lost me betting a few times. One time, the guy was so nasty it made him cry. I was so turned on

 

[BillyWalrus]

My husband lost me betting a few times. One time, the guy was so nasty it made him cry. I was so turned on

Wow. "The Mayor of Casterbridge".

 

[Mystories189]

Wow. "The Mayor of Casterbridge".

Don't know that one

 

[BillyWalrus]

Don't know that one

Classic novel by Thomas Hardy in which the main character sells his wife at the opening of the novel.

 

[Mystories189]

Classic novel by Thomas Hardy in which the main character sells his wife at the opening of the novel.

Lol no it was more a night with me than forever