Does your writing turn you on?

"non-consent fantasies in which the “victim” receives no thrill or enjoyment from the acts" are not allowed. So i have to rewrite that my bf in the story is aware and enjoys that I'm cheating.
Aren't there a ton of cheating stories in Loving Wives in which the victims hate what happened?
 
I only write stories that turns me on or I used to fantasized about. Once the fantasy is written, I stop thinking about it. I think about other stories.

The writing part never leads to a need to relieve myself. Too much focused on the writing and I am never the MMC. May be if I could shave 20 or 30 years
Nice to see you 😍
 
"non-consent fantasies in which the “victim” receives no thrill or enjoyment from the acts" are not allowed. So i have to rewrite that my bf in the story is aware and enjoys that I'm cheating.
You're misreading or misapplying the guidelines. There are plenty of stories here where someone is cheated on or otherwise wronged and doesn't enjoy it. The rule you quoted applies to R/NC stories where the victim of a sexual assault doesn't enjoy it at all.
 
You're misreading or misapplying the guidelines. There are plenty of stories here where someone is cheated on or otherwise wronged and doesn't enjoy it. The rule you quoted applies to R/NC stories where the victim of a sexual assault doesn't enjoy it at all.
Yeah that's what I thought too. I already changed a few lines in one of my chapters to have the victim of the cheating enjoy it lol
 
Sometimes. It's more likely to make me cry though.

Beta-reading is the worst though. You're trying to give useful feedback, be critical about what you're reading, but you're either squirming in your seat or reaching for a tissue because the screen is all blurry (or both at the same time - side-eye at @bi_cathy who just ruined my morning in the very best way).
I am so indescribably pleased (relieved? pleased?) to learn that before you’ve tortured me with your plot devices, you’ve already tortured yourself.

As above, so below.
 
You can bill the tissues to yourself. I maintain that this was not my fault.

alright now, fellas
Now, what’s cooler than being cool?
bi_cathy^W ice cold!


Wrapped up in this moment that’s consuming my brain but that’s so comfortable and so delicious. It’s the best feeling.

An idea that’s been forever living rent free in my brain is the notion of having to write something down to get it out of your brain. When I’m writing non fiction that’s absolutely been the case, too many times. This thing/argument is eating up a third of my attention and I need to get it out to get some peace and work on something else. Including sleep. Which also means I can’t stop when it’s 90% done. I guess I’m staying up until 1:15 to finish this, fuck.

I haven’t written enough fiction to know yet if that’ll be the case. The demons I usually am exorcising infest other haunts than fiction usually does.

But once in a while I can bargain for sleep on a promise to get up early to continue. I’ve never under any circumstances seen 5 am the “right” way ‘round however. <shudder>
 
When I am writing, I always put myself in the situation inside my head, I get so into the story that I am always turned on and definitely unable to write in public. I'm just wondering if this is common with other authors?
Yes, sometimes. For me it’s the combination of a sexy fantasy and the thrill of being creative - a double stimulation. The mechanical process of writing it down is less thrilling, but it has its moments.
 
It sort of depends.

On the assumption that you mean a sex scene, it is a factor of the rest of the story. If it’s a couple finally finding each other after mishaps and misunderstandings, I’m more likely going to be sniffling. If the story is more about the sex, then if I’m not excited myself, no one else will be.

But I can also get into a sort of lyrical trance with some sex scenes, especially if they carry emotional weight. When I’m like that, I’m much more focused on the words than the copulation.
Yes, for me I was talking about the whole story because mine usually involve some kind of taboo situation and the excitement surrounding it. Not to mention the eventual indulgence.
 
alright now, fellas
Now, what’s cooler than being cool?
bi_cathy^W ice cold!




An idea that’s been forever living rent free in my brain is the notion of having to write something down to get it out of your brain. When I’m writing non fiction that’s absolutely been the case, too many times. This thing/argument is eating up a third of my attention and I need to get it out to get some peace and work on something else. Including sleep. Which also means I can’t stop when it’s 90% done. I guess I’m staying up until 1:15 to finish this, fuck.

I haven’t written enough fiction to know yet if that’ll be the case. The demons I usually am exorcising infest other haunts than fiction usually does.

But once in a while I can bargain for sleep on a promise to get up early to continue. I’ve never under any circumstances seen 5 am the “right” way ‘round however. <shudder>

I am such a fucking dork. You know how in the movies when the character says, “well at least it’s not raining,” and it starts raining? I just spent three hours vomiting out a draft for a story I had no intention to write.

Dramatic irony.

For the record I did not get to the hot parts but I got to the panic parts and I definitely felt that.
 
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"non-consent fantasies in which the “victim” receives no thrill or enjoyment from the acts" are not allowed. So i have to rewrite that my bf in the story is aware and enjoys that I'm cheating.
That seems an odd interpretation of no-consent. If he doesn't know about it, consent is irrelevant. Maybe I'm misunderstanding you.
 
But I mean “sleepy” not as bored, but in the best way possible. Slightly turned on and on some sort of euphoric, transcendent, peaceful wave. Wrapped up in this moment that’s consuming my brain but that’s so comfortable and so delicious. It’s the best feeling. And one of the reasons I write so slowly. I keep falling asleep 🤣 Then, when I’m in a high-inspiration phase, I wake up at like 5AM because I need to continue writing.

And to answer the 2nd part of the question, I’ve written on planes, trains, during boring meetings, at home, while waiting in line, whatever. Forget sleepy pills. Writing can put me to sleep on any short- or long-haul flight and it’ll be the best sleep of my life.
I am definitely going to try this.
 
During the writing process, no. That's very clinical and even if I'm describing something wildly arousing, I'm focused on sentence structure and grammar and punctuation, and it sort of kills the mood.
But the editing process ... oh yes.
I'm almost the opposite. I actually rarely get all that turned on by my own writing in any capacity, but when it comes to editing, it is just not even remotely there. The focus on structure and grammar and punctuation at hyper-critical levels (spend 10 minutes debating a single not-that-important sentence), that the sex itself is almost incidental to the arrangement of words and their place within the story.

I get slightly turned on, I guess, given I'm a pantser and find novel erotica more interesting than re-reading. But given that I'm writing, my focus is less on the erotica aspect and more on the creative process. I need to be in a certain mindset to really get revved, and if I let that slip in when I'm writing, that becomes the main driver of the writing and that's not helpful to me at all.
 
When I'm writing a sex scene that's closer to author-insert wish-fulfillment fantasy, yes. When it's not, not so much. And I can totally be analytical and comfortable in my pants writing straightforward plot or dialogue, even if it's hot people being flirtatious; it's just the sex scenes.
 
When I am writing, I always put myself in the situation inside my head, I get so into the story that I am always turned on and definitely unable to write in public. I'm just wondering if this is common with other authors?
I can't write unless I am turned on. If I accidentally comes during writing, my mind says, "Hmm, what's the point? Let's pack up and do something more interesting."
 
I find a lot of my ideas when I'm laying in bed, I run through the next part of my story, thinking of what's going to happen and that is also very much a turn on.
 
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I often am very turned on when writing, particularly if its an idea that has flashed into my head from a kink prompt or a solution to a scene that had drizzled out to nowhere..If i see myself in it or i can visualise the action clearly in my head then it will definitely be arousing.
I've written in public, in cafes, bars, offices, planes forever and never had trouble doing so...doesn't mean that I had to be careful where and when i stood up
 
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