Does your writing turn you on?

[ElectricBlue]

I need to be in a certain mindset to really get revved, and if I let that slip in when I'm writing, that becomes the main driver of the writing and that's not helpful to me at all.

More opposites! It's when I let my arousal/horniness creep in that my writing goes to the next level, and my sex scenes start smoking. I have to edit hard in the morning to correct typos and doubled up words, that type of thing, but I try to keep the rawness, raw.

All this waffle about crafting perfect sentences, finding the exact word, it's bollocks. Our job as erotica writers is to turn readers on, help them get off. They don't care about the fancy literary shit, they just want us to get on with it, give them the fuck sexy woman, the hard horny man. Pile on the intimacy, that's a bonus!

 

[FannieSpanker]

Like…?

Heavy petting, dirty talk, spoken roleplay, swimming with someone else, having one's ears pierced, trying on outfits with someone else, toe sucking, armpit worship, wrestling, nude sunbathing, strip poker...

You have an imagination, I'm sure if you used it you could come up with some yourself.

 

[Alwaysthesun]

More opposites! It's when I let my arousal/horniness creep in that my writing goes to the next level, and my sex scenes start smoking. I have to edit hard in the morning to correct typos and doubled up words, that type of thing, but I try to keep the rawness, raw.

All this waffle about crafting perfect sentences, finding the exact word, it's bollocks. Our job as erotica writers is to turn readers on, help them get off. They don't care about the fancy literary shit, they just want us to get on with it, give them the fuck sexy woman, the hard horny man. Pile on the intimacy, that's a bonus!

a good story line or theme is always a winner, read many well written novels that where just not very good. Take reader on a journey with a good story, win win

 

[FannieSpanker]

Like…?

Heavy petting, dirty talk, spoken roleplay, swimming with someone else, having one's ears pierced, trying on outfits with someone else, toe sucking, armpit worship, wrestling, nude sunbathing, strip poker...

You have an imagination, I'm sure if you used it you could come up with some yourself.

Oh! Also,

A game of Twister, (watching/reading/viewing/listening to) a (movie/book/work of visual art/song) together that you is (romantic/favorite/new) for all of you, sharing secrets with each other, confessing your love to one or more crushes, confessing your sins to a priest, getting a haircut from someone you like...

And. Y'know.

Sharing the erotica you've written with others.

 

[Voboy]

Oh! Also,

A game of Twister, (watching/reading/viewing/listening to) a (movie/book/work of visual art/song) together that you is (romantic/favorite/new) for all of you, sharing secrets with each other, confessing your love to one or more crushes, confessing your sins to a priest, getting a haircut from someone you like...

Point being, anything can be made to be arousing? This was part of what I meant earlier when I pointed out that the dialogue and flirting often got me steamed up more than the Actual Sex Parts. If I'm into the characters and I want them to get intimate, nearly any interaction will get me excited whether I'm a reader or a writer.

And. Y'know.

Sharing the erotica you've written with others.

Absolutely. Knowing it's going to be read by strangers is often pretty fucking titillating.

 

[StillStunned]

Sometimes I'll write a particularly pleasing phrase - get the rhythm just right, find the right words with the right sounds, come up with a pithy turn of phrase - and I'll think to myself, "You, good sir, are such a sexy beast!"

And before anyone asks, yes, it happens in my professional editing too.

 

[CXHarlotXD]

I hope so or I wouldn’t be here

 

[TheExperimentalist]

When I am writing, I always put myself in the situation inside my head, I get so into the story that I am always turned on and definitely unable to write in public. I'm just wondering if this is common with other authors?

Worse, I find that I have to be just the right amount of turned on. Too desperate and I can't think enough to write the scene realistically, and I rush the action. Too unaroused, and I lack... let's call it 'inspiration', if you will...

Maintaining that balance for long enough to make significant progress is a challenge.

 

[Duil2]

I find I can write a sex scene without being 'turned on', but oftentimes when I come to edit it, it'll need more work to bring it along to something I think others might find arousing. I only become aroused myself by my own writing if I really allow my characters to have the same arousal triggers as me. Then, yes, definitely, writing in private is preferable. Sometimes, the anticipation of what I might or could write, has more of an effect on me, than the actual writing. Truth be told, if I'm too 'turned on' by the scene to write it, then... eh... ahem... I'll likely be doing something else.

 

[bobbyfitz]

When I am writing, I always put myself in the situation inside my head, I get so into the story that I am always turned on and definitely unable to write in public. I'm just wondering if this is common with

 

[bobbyfitz]

When I am writing, I always put myself in the situation inside my head, I get so into the story that I am always turned on and definitely unable to write in public. I'm just wondering if this is common with other authors?

I must admit that when I wrote Seduced by a silver fox and the Seduced by a grandaddy chapters in my previous series of stories. I needed some alone time in the shower after I'd finished writing them.

 

[OddLove]

When I first got into writing erotica I ended up getting a UTI after a couple of weeks of always having a leaky weiner.

So now when I write a sex scene in the evenings I'll chug water and go use the bathroom to make sure my pee hole doesnt have precum in it while I'm sleepIng.

 

[consistentlyrepudiated]

It turns on me.

 

[MaudeBlack]

Generally not, as I get too much in my head over the whole process of writing and whether it's any good or not.

That being said, with my last two 'Personal' stories, I have felt turned on, even to the point I had to take a break to masturbate when writing about losing my anal virginity. It brought back such great memories of being young and discovering my sexual desires.

My most recent story about visiting a sex club also turned me on, and I think that was both to do with the actual experience itself and the thought of sharing it with the reader.
Double win!

Xx

 

[CalBishForNow]

Generally not, as I get too much in my head over the whole process of writing and whether it's any good or not.

It takes all sorts. I've said since I started writing here that one of the two or three biggest reasons I write erotica is because it's easy to tell if it's good enough and what to do with it when I'm done with it.

With non-erotic fiction it's too hard to stop editing it and polishing it and making happy-to-glad edits and adding more and more characters and plot twists, and once I'm finally sick of that, I have to figure out if it's worth trying to publish in some serious way somehow. With erotica, it's simple: Is it good enough to jerk off to? If yes, then hit Publish and get out the hand lotion!

 

[Leopold_Cleland]

"Write what you know," certainly, but even more important is "write what you want". Mumble years ago, while watching the oh-so-disappointing first episode of a TV show I had wanted to like, I was throwing popcorn at the screen and shouting "I could write this shit!" when it occurred to me that maybe I could. Or better yet, write it better. A few years later I'd got to the point that publishers would pay me to do just that.

In some situations I'm flexible about what counts as pay. In this genre I write what turns me on and that counts.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I haven't written in a while, but when I did...
I would put myself in every story... And my best writing came about while I was already mildly aroused..
But that arousal became more intense as I wrote the story!!

My favorite story, SEXXY TEXXY aroused me the most to write!

 

[Abramelin123]

When I am writing, I always put myself in the situation inside my head, I get so into the story that I am always turned on and definitely unable to write in public. I'm just wondering if this is common with other authors?

I find getting hard as I write enables me to prolong my writing and my edging transfers to my characters.

 

[Abramelin123]

Generally not, as I get too much in my head over the whole process of writing and whether it's any good or not.

That being said, with my last two 'Personal' stories, I have felt turned on, even to the point I had to take a break to masturbate when writing about losing my anal virginity. It brought back such great memories of being young and discovering my sexual desires.

My most recent story about visiting a sex club also turned me on, and I think that was both to do with the actual experience itself and the thought of sharing it with the reader.
Double win!

Xx

Generally not, as I get too much in my head over the whole process of writing and whether it's any good or not.

That being said, with my last two 'Personal' stories, I have felt turned on, even to the point I had to take a break to masturbate when writing about losing my anal virginity. It brought back such great memories of being young and discovering my sexual desires.

My most recent story about visiting a sex club also turned me on, and I think that was both to do with the actual experience itself and the thought of sharing it with the reader.
Double win!

Xx

relieving the sexual tension created by writing the story would kill the momentum of writing for me. I’d have to finish the story and THEN masturbate

 

[bobbyfitz]

Currently working on a make up sex scene after Harshie and Sam have a very heated argument, about Sam's professional wrestling opponent 'Slick Ricky' Robinson, who had been flirting with Harshie before a wrestling match.
I thought I would do a bit of role reversal, where Harshie gets quite feisty and dominant.
Methinks I will be needing some alone time in the shower again!!

 

[liliput1]

It hasn’t in general but my entry into @EmilyMiller ’s last writing prompt got me squirrelly.

I suspect the effort of writing a story detracts from, or perhaps mutes, the overall experience but when you’re writing a scene, well, is it really that different than when you start spinning a story in your head while having some alone time?

I’m starting to wonder if I want that to change how I’m writing. Do I want to do one pass where I’m writing dialog and “have the camera pan away” and then come back and write the intimacy when I can focus on that? Maybe.

 

[WendyTrilby]

Absolutely. Probably more than it should.

I only write from experience. Those experiences began in high school and, let’s just say, I’ve lived a very active life in a very active industry. Along the way, I documented nearly every encounter in journals.

So when I write, I’m really retelling moments from my own life, even if I transplant them into new settings with fictional characters.

But the one thing that’s always true in my stories is the erotica itself.

If I describe a moan, it probably happened.

If I write about wincing in pain, that happened too.

When I’m writing, I often get pulled so deeply into those memories that I lose focus entirely. At some point I have to break out Steely Dan, and no, not the band, just to get past the distraction and back to the keyboard.

I think that’s part of why I continue writing these stories. The journals are overflowing, and revisiting the pleasure, embarrassment, intensity, and sheer chaos of those encounters feels deeply personal and endlessly exciting.

Memory is a dangerous aphrodisiac. Mine just happens to come with footnotes.

 

[Randemtask]

I have lived what some may call a morally corrupt life, but I didn't have the confidence or experience to indulge myself until later in life. I missed out on so many opportunities when I was younger that I wish I'd taken. These unfulfilled fantasies and taboos are the basis of my writing, along with the factual events that I add in with additional seasoning. I'm always turned on when writing, but then again, I'm a very sexual person, so maybe it's just coincidence

 

[Erozetta]

So, I've been thinking about this more and have come to the conclusion I write better when mind numbingly aroused.

But I also can't write much more than a vignette in that state

So maybe I'm just good at writing short, intense sex scenes. Going purely by scores (which means fuckall) the vignette I wrote recently while completely lost in mental arousal is quite well-liked, which is good because I quite liked writing it and the dialogue at the end was stolen directly from a friend. They were very impactful words for me.

 

[Voboy]

So, I've been thinking about this more and have come to the conclusion I write better when mind numbingly aroused.

But I also can't write much more than a vignette in that state

So maybe I'm just good at writing short, intense sex scenes. Going purely by scores (which means fuckall) the vignette I wrote recently while completely lost in mental arousal is quite well-liked, which is good because I quite liked writing it and the dialogue at the end was stolen directly from a friend. They were very impactful words for me.

I definitely write better when aroused, but it's a chicken/egg thing.

Does my own writing arouse me? Or do I choose to write because I am predisposed to be aroused?