Dom looking to teach/explore

[chelleb]

Very well written posts, which is not easy to find here on Lit. Sounds very close to what I'm looking for. You also seem to be a actual, real person, not just someone pretending...it's very refreshing to find that here.

I have an ad written up that expresses what I'm looking for much better than I can replicate here. Please take a look and message me if you are interested, the link is in my signature.

~Chelle

 

[LovestoTeach]

Bump.

Back searching again.

 

[LovestoTeach]

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[yellow_zinnia]

If I didn't already have a Dom that I was collared to and absolutely adored, you would be just what I was looking for. I've enjoyed reading your posts. Good luck in your search.

 

[LovestoTeach]

If I didn't already have a Dom that I was collared to and absolutely adored, you would be just what I was looking for. I've enjoyed reading your posts. Good luck in your search.

Thank you.

I'm glad you have found someone.

 

[LovestoTeach]

Monday morning bump.

 

[LovestoTeach]

Bumpity bump.

 

[LovestoTeach]

Almost the weekend bump.

 

[LovestoTeach]

Weekend bump.

 

[Anita89]

question

What is a DaddyDom?

 

[sereneone4u]

A bump for a great personal

and yes, what exactly is a DaddyDom?

 

[jdsgirl]

I, too, enjoy your posts and appreciate your viewpoint on D/s relationships. I have only recently discovered my submissiveness, and it is a relief to be comfortable with it. I am taken (long distance), but your ad would pique my interest if I were available - and if it didn't contain the word "Daddy." I love to submit, but associating sex with a Daddy figure is a huge turn-off for me. I hope you find what you're looking for. (On a side note, I might be your only reply who is, in a fact a "master of the English language.") Good luck, Sir!

 

[LovestoTeach]

What is a DaddyDom?

A bump for a great personal

and yes, what exactly is a DaddyDom?

I, too, enjoy your posts and appreciate your viewpoint on D/s relationships. I have only recently discovered my submissiveness, and it is a relief to be comfortable with it. I am taken (long distance), but your ad would pique my interest if I were available - and if it didn't contain the word "Daddy." I love to submit, but associating sex with a Daddy figure is a huge turn-off for me. I hope you find what you're looking for. (On a side note, I might your only reply who is, in a fact a "master of the English language.") Good luck, Sir!

http://vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

I would suggest reading this article on DaddyDoms. It does a good job explaining the DaddyDom/little girl relationship.

It's not "Daddy" in an incestuous way.

 

[Cinner]

This is an extremely intelligent thread! I have enjoyed reading your ad and all the discussion that has followed. I wish you and your adherents well.

 

[Teaser_Girl]

He is a wonderful teacher. I would know. Anyone would be lucky to be his student.

 

[Anita89]

Thank you I appreciate the response, alas I still find the term Daddy Dom to be somewhat of a turnoff. Though I do no understand it's not ment to be Father. It sounds like, and I may be projecting, that there is a fair bit of personality modification in the Daddy/little girl relationship that I'm not sure would be Right for me. I do also understand each Dom will be different and have their own expectations of their partner.

 

[LovestoTeach]

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[jdsgirl]

To me, being a DaddyDom is all about the feelings. I love having someone to teach, train, nurture, protect, care for, guide, and help. I love having someone come to me for all that. I enjoy seeing them grow and learn. My sub becomes an extension of me. She is there to please me and make me happy. When she is happy, I am happy. When she fails, I fail.

I swell with pride when she succeeds either as my sub or in her regular life. I want her to be the best sub for me and the best person possible for everyone else. I will encourage, support, help, and be there for her whenever she needs me. I'm there to make her a stronger person. Someone to show her just how special and great she can be. I fear disappointing her as much as she fears disappointing me.

I'm not saying this is exclusive to DaddyDoms only. But I believe there is a far more nurturing and protective aspect in the D/lg relationship.

There is nothing better than to reach down and pet my sub's head as she kneels at my feet or to be strict, stern, sadistic, impose my desires, wants and needs on someone who wants nothing more in this world than to see me happy. There is something so powerful about that. It becomes addicting wanting to feel that power and control over someone and to know that they have such trust and respect for me to be able to do anything I want to them as long as it pleases me. And to see them smile afterwards because I said, "good girl". Nothing else is as fulfilling or satisfying.

What you've explained here makes a lot of sense. I did read about "DaddyDoms" and it sounds to me like an integral part of that is the dynamic of Man/little girl, and that is the part I would have trouble with. I am a submissive woman, and I want to be treated as a grown woman. I understand the "cherished" aspect. Of course, a man is far more educated, wise, and experienced than a little girl. I want to submit myself to my partner's desires, but I'd like to be treated as an intellectual equal. I have spend 1/2 my life with someone who has verbally abused me, controlled me, and treated me as an inferior child. (This is not a D/s relationship, merely a very unhealthy vanilla marriage.) My resentment over this treatment is overwhelming. Finally, I have found someone who absolutely respects me as an equal, and I can't give myself to him enough. I don't feel like a little girl; I feel like a smart, sexy woman who is loved and desired by a strong, dominant man who knows what he wants and what I need and helps me push my boundaries.
My apologies if I've said anything that offends your ideal. That said, I know there are lots of women out there looking for "Daddies." I just think you might be limiting yourself a bit by using the "DaddyDom" term. You don't REALLY sound like you're looking for a "little girl" in your explanations - are you sure you don't want a confident woman instead? Just a thought.

 

[LovestoTeach]

You don't REALLY sound like you're looking for a "little girl" in your explanations - are you sure you don't want a confident woman instead? Just a thought.

Who said they are two different people?

I have had many a little girl who was smart, strong, confident, and I never treated her as anything less.

I think you are getting too hung up on the labels. It's about the feelings. It's not about being a certain age or being treated as such just because she calls me Daddy and I call her little girl. I don't want a sub who acts like an actual little girl. I want a sub who will act her age. But at the same time I want her to feel the warmth, protection, care, and even love that I have to offer.

If I said I was a Dom and looking for a "little one", would you have a problem then?

There is a good thread in the BDSM section about DaddyDoms:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=102500

If anyone is interested.

 

[jdsgirl]

If I said I was a Dom and looking for a "little one", would you have a problem then?

There is a good thread in the BDSM section about DaddyDoms:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=102500

If anyone is interested.[/QUOTE]

No, I think that would be MUCH better - but that's my opinion. I just could NEVER call a sexual partner "Daddy" because of course my father has that title. I doubt you would want to call your partner "Mommy." "Little one" I can sort of understand because "little" can refer to so much more than age. I found the story "Culture Shock" to be astoundingly erotic, and that was His title for her.
As for my hang up on labels . . . I'm brand new at this. I've only recently realized I'm submissive, and the whole realm of BDSM is still new to me. I am curious and smart, not to mention an English major, so I am reading about it all avidly and with much analysis. I appreciate your explanations, Sir!

 

[subnovice]

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