Nowadays I consider carefully before I tell even a partner about my fantasies. I've had too many guys want to tweak them to suit their own kinks, and it just ruins it for me.
Maybe try telling some girls then. Kidding. Kind of.
I agree -- careful consideration is in order. Having said that, I tend to get in this foggy loose-lipped state of lust-haze and I just blurt, for better or worse.
Makes for a decent litmus test though.
But! I do wish my ex had been more open about his fantasies. He kept most to himself and ultimately it took a toll on our relationship. So don't stay too tight-lipped.
Oh, I don't mean the stuff I actually want to do, I'm open about that. I mean the dirty stuff tucked away in my spank bank.
Maybe try telling some girls then. Kidding. Kind of.
I agree -- careful consideration is in order. Having said that, I tend to get in this foggy loose-lipped state of lust-haze and I just blurt, for better or worse.
Makes for a decent litmus test though.
But! I do wish my ex had been more open about his fantasies. He kept most to himself and ultimately it took a toll on our relationship. So don't stay too tight-lipped.
Sometimes I might tell a close friend part of a fantasy. It's fun when they know me well enough to pick up the ball and run with it in a direction they're pretty sure I'll like. Anything that puts me at the center of attention is a safe bet to start with!
Finding someone trustworthy is the key.
But when you do, and you give them the green light to take you for a ride, it can be quite an adventure.
....
Yikes...
I don't know if this counts as kinky or idiotic (I'm going with idiotic) but when I was ** (Not as old as I am now) I decided to take the old wet/dry vac out for a spin.
As soon as I turned it on and that hose wrapped around me with a tight, terrifying seal I knew it was a tragic mistake.
It was probably the longest 7 seconds of my entire life trying to find the OFF button.
No damage was done, but my entire sexual future flashed before my eyes and, for that brief moment, the outlook was not good.
Kinkiest fantasy? I think I mentioned it before.
At least that's one of them anyway
More kink.
Probably the 'weirdest' thing I've ever done is sounding with a makeup brush handle. Also used a cucumber as a toy once or twice. I tried them both out of curiosity, not a huge turn-on, but it's fun to experiment.
The most rewarding kink by far has been D/s related. Being instructed by a man halfway across the world to perform a task, doing it, and seeing his reaction. That's what really gets me. The sound of his voice when I tell him, 'Okay, i did it,' and then again when the pictures as proof come through on his end. ACK.
