Everyone else but me

[icy_cold_beer]

Ok im 19 and the only virgin (ive posted this before) in my group of friends. My closest friends always knew kinda that i was a virgin but since my other close-ish friends found out ive been coping shit about it since. That worries me but is not the main reason im writing this post. I have posted about being a virgin before and i still am. But whats really gotten on my nerves is the fact that everyone is having sex except me!

Ive only ever kissed two girls(both randoms will we have both been drunk at nightclubs). In the past year of going out to nightclubs/pubs etc my record is not terrible compared to my mates. I am probably last yet not by a long strech. But thats only in going out, my mates have met girls though work/uni/tafe. Im very shy and rarely talked to a girl at high school and this has continued at uni (but that has to do with the fact my computer science course has about a 1:15 ratio of girls:guys).

Despite being a virgin/being behind my mates in the # of girls weve picked up it hasnt bothered me tooooooo much. But the last week my mate has made it look very easy. We went out 4 times in 6 days and he has picked 6 times, including sex with one. Two of the other chicks he has picked up only requires a phone call to get in bed with them. YET he doesnt want to! One chick he doesnt want to fuck because her friend is hotter yet she is still pretty hottt. That chick was almost pleading for him to come out tonight.

This makes me feel very small. Ive never had sex and would take any (any!) oppurtunity (from a decent looking girl) and at least pursue it. Yet he isnt gong to bother, he is going to knock it back. In my state of mind i cant comphrend the thought of knocking back no stings attached sex when that is what you are looking for. I know im only 19, still young and my time will come. But i cant stop thinking about what im missing out on.

How can it be so unfair that someone will knock back good sex yet im deseperate for any oppurtunity what so ever??? even just a kiss.


I know this post sounds really desperate, and thats the way i feel right at this moment. Howver i try hard not to act like this when i go out. This is a vey honest assement of where im at that i havent shared with any one else before.

 

[Chicklet]

I think one of the great things about this forum is that you can vent things you wouldn't want to vent in real life.

I personally use it to bitch a lot about my relationships, because I don't want to say bad things about people I like to my friends and possibly turn them against my partners.

However, I think it might be enfuriating not to get any solid advice on how exactly to solve your 'problem' - all we're going to be able to say is that patience is a virtue, or something.

Your time will come. Some people are virgins a lot longer than 19 years... and even once you do have sex, you're going to be frustrated by something or other. The girl you want doesn't want you, the girl you don't want wants too much of you. You can get sex but not a relationship, you're in a relationship and she doesn't want sex. You've found the perfect woman and she won't go down on you. You've found the perfect woman and she was born a man. Etc etc.

Good luck. Don't be afraid to rant, but please don't be too frustrated with the natural course of your life. Keep doing what you're doing, don't change for anybody, don't let go of your identity, and don't let sex drive you totally nuts. Maybe a little nuts, but not completely. k?

 

[artsmom]

I hear your frustration. But don't lose faith...my husband was a virgin when I met him and he was 24. He was shy like you, too. Besides, random sex with a stranger cannot compare with sex with someone special. Now, that said, I know you are dying to do it just to see what it feels like. However, I would hate to know that you gave your virginity to someone who did not value how special that first time is going to be.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Ok im 19 and the only virgin (ive posted this before) in my group of friends. My closest friends always knew kinda that i was a virgin but since my other close-ish friends found out ive been coping shit about it since. That worries me but is not the main reason im writing this post. I have posted about being a virgin before and i still am. But whats really gotten on my nerves is the fact that everyone is having sex except me!

Ive only ever kissed two girls(both randoms will we have both been drunk at nightclubs). In the past year of going out to nightclubs/pubs etc my record is not terrible compared to my mates. I am probably last yet not by a long strech. But thats only in going out, my mates have met girls though work/uni/tafe. Im very shy and rarely talked to a girl at high school and this has continued at uni (but that has to do with the fact my computer science course has about a 1:15 ratio of girls:guys).

Despite being a virgin/being behind my mates in the # of girls weve picked up it hasnt bothered me tooooooo much. But the last week my mate has made it look very easy. We went out 4 times in 6 days and he has picked 6 times, including sex with one. Two of the other chicks he has picked up only requires a phone call to get in bed with them. YET he doesnt want to! One chick he doesnt want to fuck because her friend is hotter yet she is still pretty hottt. That chick was almost pleading for him to come out tonight.

This makes me feel very small. Ive never had sex and would take any (any!) oppurtunity (from a decent looking girl) and at least pursue it. Yet he isnt gong to bother, he is going to knock it back. In my state of mind i cant comphrend the thought of knocking back no stings attached sex when that is what you are looking for. I know im only 19, still young and my time will come. But i cant stop thinking about what im missing out on.

How can it be so unfair that someone will knock back good sex yet im deseperate for any oppurtunity what so ever??? even just a kiss.


I know this post sounds really desperate, and thats the way i feel right at this moment. Howver i try hard not to act like this when i go out. This is a vey honest assement of where im at that i havent shared with any one else before.

Virginity is precious. You should find yourself a nice older woman, go out on a few dates, then let her deflower you. That way, you´ll have a first time with someone special, she´ll have the benefit of "corrupting a younger man", and the bothof you can move on with your lives.