Fake Orgasms

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

My wife was masturbating with me earlier and we had a bit of a time crunch. Faster than normal she came pretty hard which was sexy and then she mounted me and made me cum so hard I hit my beard! After I told her it crossed my mind that maybe she faked it in order to be able to be ready for a friend who was coming over. She told me she didn’t and I believe her as she was a bit shaky and really wet afterwards. I then asked if she had faked orgasms with men before me and she said she had for a variety of reasons. It was an interesting notion to process. I’m just wondering how many women have or haven’t done this and what the thinking was behind it? Such an interesting world! Cheers

 

[RustyRedheadSpitfire]

I think many women have, at least once, and not always for the reasons men assume.


Sometimes it’s because they don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Sometimes they’re tired and know they aren’t going to get there. Sometimes they’re trying to end an encounter that has gone on much longer than they expected. Occasionally it’s because they feel pressure to “perform” rather than simply enjoy themselves.


None of those reasons are ideal, of course. To me, they usually point to a communication problem rather than a sexual one.


Personally, I’m going to say, I’m enjoying this, but I’m probably not going to orgasm tonight,” and not put on a performance. That requires trust from both people.


As for your wife, the details you shared don’t strike me as particularly persuasive one way or the other. The more important part of your story is that you asked her directly, she answered honestly, and you believe her. That’s a much healthier foundation than trying to become a detective after the fact.


One thing I find interesting is that many people seem to treat orgasm as the only measure of whether sex was successful. I don’t really see it that way. Good intimacy is about feeling connected, desired, relaxed, and understood. An orgasm can certainly be part of that, but it isn’t the only metric that matters.


Your conversation afterward probably tells me more about your relationship than the orgasm itself. The fact that the two of you could talk about it openly is, in my opinion, a very good sign.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I think many women have, at least once, and not always for the reasons men assume.


Sometimes it’s because they don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Sometimes they’re tired and know they aren’t going to get there. Sometimes they’re trying to end an encounter that has gone on much longer than they expected. Occasionally it’s because they feel pressure to “perform” rather than simply enjoy themselves.


None of those reasons are ideal, of course. To me, they usually point to a communication problem rather than a sexual one.


Personally, I’m going to say, I’m enjoying this, but I’m probably not going to orgasm tonight,” and not put on a performance. That requires trust from both people.


As for your wife, the details you shared don’t strike me as particularly persuasive one way or the other. The more important part of your story is that you asked her directly, she answered honestly, and you believe her. That’s a much healthier foundation than trying to become a detective after the fact.


One thing I find interesting is that many people seem to treat orgasm as the only measure of whether sex was successful. I don’t really see it that way. Good intimacy is about feeling connected, desired, relaxed, and understood. An orgasm can certainly be part of that, but it isn’t the only metric that matters.


Your conversation afterward probably tells me more about your relationship than the orgasm itself. The fact that the two of you could talk about it openly is, in my opinion, a very good sign.

Appreciate your insight and thoughtful remarks. She said much of what you did. I agree that orgasms aren’t all there is by a long shot and I actually prefer holding them off as long as possible as often they can signify the “end” of all the juicy closeness and play that leads up to them, particularly for the male though I’m always excited when the play continues. I’ve had many exciting encounters where I didn’t end up cumming. Thanks for taking the time to give your thoughts. It’s appreciated.