CarolineOh
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I'm sory that you had to be treated so shabbily, but look on the bright side; at least you found out what this guy was truly like before you got more involved with him.
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kiwiwolf
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Yep you had a pretty shitty day.
The guy you had a crush on doesn't deserve a lady like you. He deserves a swift well aimed kick to the bollocks. What a complete and utter wanker.
I have read a lot of your posts and believe me honey you are beautiful. I don't give a big rats ass what Dickless Tracey said to you today... you are beautiful.
It is hard for truly cosmetically challenged (the new politically correct term for ugly bastards) folk like me to be confronted by the beautiful people day in and day out. But at the end of the day I can console myself with the knowledge that I will still be cool in the morning, and the bulk of them won't.
Tomorrow you will still be a lovely person with a beautiful fun outlook, and he will still be a wanker. You will progress to new heights of magnificence and he will sink in the mire of assholedness... don't bother looking, it aint in the dictionary.
LDWAH... you are a top lady in my book. It is his massive loss, and your huge gain. You can come away from this knowing that you are the far superior human being. As a treat to yourself, why not go out tonight and slash his tires?
Shane
The guy you had a crush on doesn't deserve a lady like you. He deserves a swift well aimed kick to the bollocks. What a complete and utter wanker.
I have read a lot of your posts and believe me honey you are beautiful. I don't give a big rats ass what Dickless Tracey said to you today... you are beautiful.
It is hard for truly cosmetically challenged (the new politically correct term for ugly bastards) folk like me to be confronted by the beautiful people day in and day out. But at the end of the day I can console myself with the knowledge that I will still be cool in the morning, and the bulk of them won't.
Tomorrow you will still be a lovely person with a beautiful fun outlook, and he will still be a wanker. You will progress to new heights of magnificence and he will sink in the mire of assholedness... don't bother looking, it aint in the dictionary.
LDWAH... you are a top lady in my book. It is his massive loss, and your huge gain. You can come away from this knowing that you are the far superior human being. As a treat to yourself, why not go out tonight and slash his tires?
Shane
LukkyKnight
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Well said, kiwi
The guy's got such a narrow mind I'm sure it's been years since any new thoughts could squeeze in there. Anybody that immature is bound to be judgemental, it's a reflection of their own fear not a portrait of you.
Personally, I don't know that I can add a lot to what others have said, but in your place I'd be tempted to arrange to meet him alone someplace public, a coffee house or something along those lines, ask him if he'd buy you a cup of coffee, don't buy your own... once he has ask him, quietly, leaning in close, if he recalls what he said to you about not dating. Yes? *slap* his face and leave.
But that's just me.
The guy's got such a narrow mind I'm sure it's been years since any new thoughts could squeeze in there. Anybody that immature is bound to be judgemental, it's a reflection of their own fear not a portrait of you.
Personally, I don't know that I can add a lot to what others have said, but in your place I'd be tempted to arrange to meet him alone someplace public, a coffee house or something along those lines, ask him if he'd buy you a cup of coffee, don't buy your own... once he has ask him, quietly, leaning in close, if he recalls what he said to you about not dating. Yes? *slap* his face and leave.
But that's just me.
T.H. Oughts
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Thats it ! I'm on my way to Scotland to kick him under his kilt where the sun don't shine. His spron will not be sitting straight by the time I have finished with him. I'll mince him up into hagis that the pigs down on the moors will not even touch !!!!!
He's a jerk that's for sure. Damn I would have decked the guy for sure... but becaues you are such a beautiful person you did not
Sending big hugs honey. Tell him to go buy glasses next time you see him. Cause he an't seeing straight, he is missing out on a beautiful lady
We Love You Honey
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He's a jerk that's for sure. Damn I would have decked the guy for sure... but becaues you are such a beautiful person you did not
Sending big hugs honey. Tell him to go buy glasses next time you see him. Cause he an't seeing straight, he is missing out on a beautiful lady
We Love You Honey Just The Way You Are
Wave_Rider
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Almost Embarrassed to be a MAN......
Halo........
First off,,,,,,, I'm new to the Bulliten Board, though I chat in the Lounge and Hot tub with a different name "Sir_Lanced_Alot" . A few days ago was my first "foray" into the board.......though a friend of mine "Morgaine" told me a few months ago that there were "good people here". Anyway, I found your humor and wit to be wonderful........thank your for that.
I might take a different avenue than the others.....if I may. It goes without saying that this "friend" of yours fails in all the basic traits of friendship, so I won't even address him.
YOUR supposed friends however are what bothers me. From your short comments about them........tells me that they treat you as a "hockey puck" or second class member of the group. Does ones weight or the shape of their nose have anything to do with friendship? I think not........for friendship is built on Trust, and honesty, the ability to lean against other friends when you need to, and be there for them when its their turn. From what you mention, these friends would let you fall down.
Lastly, re-read all the others comments in here.............take in their opinions and smile. For the ability to love one's own self, for whom they are, and what they convey to others, tells me that your Inner beauty is apparent to many here. Take a deep breath and smile........Halo...........there are far toooooooo many people who are ugly where it truly counts: in their hearts and soul.
<The Beach Boy tip toes away>
Halo........
First off,,,,,,, I'm new to the Bulliten Board, though I chat in the Lounge and Hot tub with a different name "Sir_Lanced_Alot" . A few days ago was my first "foray" into the board.......though a friend of mine "Morgaine" told me a few months ago that there were "good people here". Anyway, I found your humor and wit to be wonderful........thank your for that.
I might take a different avenue than the others.....if I may. It goes without saying that this "friend" of yours fails in all the basic traits of friendship, so I won't even address him.
YOUR supposed friends however are what bothers me. From your short comments about them........tells me that they treat you as a "hockey puck" or second class member of the group. Does ones weight or the shape of their nose have anything to do with friendship? I think not........for friendship is built on Trust, and honesty, the ability to lean against other friends when you need to, and be there for them when its their turn. From what you mention, these friends would let you fall down.
Lastly, re-read all the others comments in here.............take in their opinions and smile. For the ability to love one's own self, for whom they are, and what they convey to others, tells me that your Inner beauty is apparent to many here. Take a deep breath and smile........Halo...........there are far toooooooo many people who are ugly where it truly counts: in their hearts and soul.
<The Beach Boy tip toes away>
LDWH,
Write him off! Thank the lord you didn't get involved with him further. I can only imagine how he would have treated you once he was more comfortable with you. I can't believe a person would say that to someone. I've been around some real humps in my life, but not that bad. As soon as I read your post, I wanted to run to the atlantic, swim across it(I hate flying), track his ass down and throw him a serious ass whoopin'!! He certainly gives a bad name to the male species. Every woman has a certain beauty to them. Inner, outter, it doesn't matter. DO NOT let this piece of crap get you down for one second. I've seen some of your posts, not many, but you give off a beauty and kindness in them. Stay that way.
1HJ
Write him off! Thank the lord you didn't get involved with him further. I can only imagine how he would have treated you once he was more comfortable with you. I can't believe a person would say that to someone. I've been around some real humps in my life, but not that bad. As soon as I read your post, I wanted to run to the atlantic, swim across it(I hate flying), track his ass down and throw him a serious ass whoopin'!! He certainly gives a bad name to the male species. Every woman has a certain beauty to them. Inner, outter, it doesn't matter. DO NOT let this piece of crap get you down for one second. I've seen some of your posts, not many, but you give off a beauty and kindness in them. Stay that way.
1HJ
JennyOmanHill
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Hugs Halo!
I felt your hurt as I read your story. I don't think there is anything I could say to make the hurt go away.
I, too, had grown up "outside" of different groups, mainly because I felt I really didn't "belong", and was grateful when others would show me any attention.
Well, that was then... this is now!
In my 40s I found myself amongst another "group" of friends, male and female mixed. Because I had finally learned to feel good about myself, I allowed myself to really take an active part of the group instead of dragging myself along in the rear!
I did have a crush on one guy, but he's good enough of a friend to be honest with me without making me feel foolish; we're still very good friends, and he was able to help me find my own beauty.
There's a "comfortableness" in a group atmosphere, and of the ladies in my particular circle, I am the oldest and the BIGGEST! The other ladies are curvy and beautiful and know the art of teasing and flirting, but they NEVER made me feel they were "better" than me.
Unfortunately, there have been times when some of the guys would discuss these other "sexy" ladies in front of me, and I would start to feel I must be another sex entirely! They never meant it as an insult directly at me, but I did hear words similar to those that hurt you.
Crushes are painful, and I can only suggest as the others did here to really work on feeling better about YOU! Your words on these threads indicate what a beautiful and sensitive person you are.
Just recently I have fallen in love with someone who is also in love with me. What a marvelous sensation! When you least expect it, someone will fall in love with your beauty too. It's our souls that hold the real us and where our beauty lies.
I felt your hurt as I read your story. I don't think there is anything I could say to make the hurt go away.
I, too, had grown up "outside" of different groups, mainly because I felt I really didn't "belong", and was grateful when others would show me any attention.
Well, that was then... this is now!
In my 40s I found myself amongst another "group" of friends, male and female mixed. Because I had finally learned to feel good about myself, I allowed myself to really take an active part of the group instead of dragging myself along in the rear!
I did have a crush on one guy, but he's good enough of a friend to be honest with me without making me feel foolish; we're still very good friends, and he was able to help me find my own beauty.
There's a "comfortableness" in a group atmosphere, and of the ladies in my particular circle, I am the oldest and the BIGGEST! The other ladies are curvy and beautiful and know the art of teasing and flirting, but they NEVER made me feel they were "better" than me.
Unfortunately, there have been times when some of the guys would discuss these other "sexy" ladies in front of me, and I would start to feel I must be another sex entirely! They never meant it as an insult directly at me, but I did hear words similar to those that hurt you.
Crushes are painful, and I can only suggest as the others did here to really work on feeling better about YOU! Your words on these threads indicate what a beautiful and sensitive person you are.
Just recently I have fallen in love with someone who is also in love with me. What a marvelous sensation! When you least expect it, someone will fall in love with your beauty too. It's our souls that hold the real us and where our beauty lies.
I am disgusted.
I've read through the input, and concur that this dude is a real DICK. Who in their right mind would be so insensitive?
You've got to stand up against this guy and make sure he knows that you aren't his friend anymore. Friends don't talk to each other that way, no matter what. Be strong and take control.
Tell him that you were offended by his shallow, superficial, unsolicited comments about your appearance and that it is not his place to speak to you that way, no matter what he thinks.
It isn't like you asked what he tought of you, and if you did, a simple... "you're not my type" would be sufficient.
What a peice of shit.
I've read through the input, and concur that this dude is a real DICK. Who in their right mind would be so insensitive?
You've got to stand up against this guy and make sure he knows that you aren't his friend anymore. Friends don't talk to each other that way, no matter what. Be strong and take control.
Tell him that you were offended by his shallow, superficial, unsolicited comments about your appearance and that it is not his place to speak to you that way, no matter what he thinks.
It isn't like you asked what he tought of you, and if you did, a simple... "you're not my type" would be sufficient.
What a peice of shit.
RisiaSkye
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I agree with what Starfish and others have said here:
1) That guy is a piece of shit. Nobody, and I mean nobody, deserves to be treated like that.
2) NOBODY has a right to tell you how you *should* look, no matter what. It's flat out none of their business.
3) It goes without saying that you deserve better, but I'll say it anyway.
4) Tell the fuckwit off; don't let him get away with that kind of hideous behavior. He'll only inflict his hurtful shallowness on someone else. At least give him cause for pause, before he does it again.
5) If your friends truly treat you as less because of how you look, no matter *how* you look, they aren't friends either, and shouldn't be considered friends.
6) Don't give anyone the power to break your spirit. Nobody.
~ ~ Feel better, love. Tomorrow's *got* to improve, days don't get much shittier than yours.
1) That guy is a piece of shit. Nobody, and I mean nobody, deserves to be treated like that.
2) NOBODY has a right to tell you how you *should* look, no matter what. It's flat out none of their business.
3) It goes without saying that you deserve better, but I'll say it anyway.
4) Tell the fuckwit off; don't let him get away with that kind of hideous behavior. He'll only inflict his hurtful shallowness on someone else. At least give him cause for pause, before he does it again.
5) If your friends truly treat you as less because of how you look, no matter *how* you look, they aren't friends either, and shouldn't be considered friends.
6) Don't give anyone the power to break your spirit. Nobody.
~
~ Feel better, love. Tomorrow's *got* to improve, days don't get much shittier than yours.
Rhys
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Rubyfruit said:Halo,
Unless social customs are quite different in Scotland than the U.S., I have to say I'm shocked at your "friend's" behavior.
What bothers me even more, however, is that he felt comfortable saying this to you in the first place and that you allowed him to continue on with it. That, to me, says an awful lot about your self-esteem sweetheart.
You should have been able to deflect his first comment with a look of death that told him he had way over-stepped his bounds and if he didn't keep his mouth shut, he'd get it slapped off.
I am so sorry you had to go through such a hurtful experience, Halo. Please learn from it and don't ever allow others to speak to you with such disrespect again, ok?
What Ruby said Halo...
I know some beautiful people and they are duller than dishwater.
You are beautiful. Because *I* said so. You tell yourself that, and get some new friends...
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lemme make a call
i'm sure my people, have a few people over there.... they wont hurt him too badly... he will have a permanent hobble is all ... A little reminder for our friend Halo... Do they have baseball bats in Scotland?
Hey... Don't let this jerkoff get to you.... in the long run.. he will get his... most likely not by you, but he will feel the same pain he has caused you tenfold
i'm sure my people, have a few people over there.... they wont hurt him too badly... he will have a permanent hobble is all ... A little reminder for our friend Halo... Do they have baseball bats in Scotland?
Hey... Don't let this jerkoff get to you.... in the long run.. he will get his... most likely not by you, but he will feel the same pain he has caused you tenfold
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I'd just like to say that I'm much more disgusted than anyone else here, and if you box this lout up and ship him to me UPS I will make him my personal bitch and send you back photos for your own personal enjoyment.
PS: please include a three or four week supply of haggis cuz I ain't paying to feed the goon.
PS: please include a three or four week supply of haggis cuz I ain't paying to feed the goon.
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Halo
I'm sorry to hear that ass treated you like that..
I can't say anything that hasn't been said already
Hope things get better for you soon
I'm sorry to hear that ass treated you like that..
I can't say anything that hasn't been said already
Hope things get better for you soon
Nigel
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LDWAH:
I have read your postings...and thought I don't "know" you (not even in the biblical sense!), I DO know some things about you. I know your kindness and sensitivity to others. I know your insight and depth of feeling. I know just some of the beautiful inner you - that you think doesn't make up for the outside of you.
I am an actor by profession. I see pretty faces and bodies on men and women in the entertainment business all the time. And some of them, like your "friend" are the ugliest people I've ever met. Rude. Obnoxious. Self-centered. Mean. Hurtful. Then there are the "non-pretty" people. People such as myself who are not fair of face, nor beautiful of bod. To be nice, the industry calls us "character actors." These people are some of the most beautiful people I've met in my life. They have a sense of humor. A quick wit. A kind word. A listening ear. A tear-proof shoulder to cry on. Lovely, lovely people. I'd spend time with them over "leading men and leading women" any day of the week, and twice on Sundays.
I used to do what you do - hang out with people...."friends"....who belittled me and made jokes at my expense. They whispered about me behind, and in front of, my back. I hung around them because I felt that way about myself - and they validated that belief - they "made me right" about myself. And one day.....and I'll tell you the circumstances privately, if you wish....I said "enough!" I knew there was more to me than a fat guy who made others laugh at him, not with him. I hope that soon, you can discover this about yourself....and get away from those who put you down.
Halo....I don't know what you look like...and I don't really care. I've seen you...in your wit....your sexiness...your supportiveness of friends and people who are down. THAT is your beauty. This sack of skin and flesh and bone that surround us is merely the means of transport for our souls and spirits on this earth. Do what you want and can to your physical self to make YOURSELF feel good about you - and to hell with what anyone else thinks.
A very wise man once told me, "Your life is your movie - you're the star, the director, the producer, and the casting director. Let people into your life that will make your movie the best that it can be....and if someone comes into your movie and isn't right for the part....or for the movie as a whole, fire them." I would say that your asshole "friend" needs to find someone else's movie to ruin....and make your movie the best that it can be for you.
With warm hugs....
Nigel
I have read your postings...and thought I don't "know" you (not even in the biblical sense!), I DO know some things about you. I know your kindness and sensitivity to others. I know your insight and depth of feeling. I know just some of the beautiful inner you - that you think doesn't make up for the outside of you.
I am an actor by profession. I see pretty faces and bodies on men and women in the entertainment business all the time. And some of them, like your "friend" are the ugliest people I've ever met. Rude. Obnoxious. Self-centered. Mean. Hurtful. Then there are the "non-pretty" people. People such as myself who are not fair of face, nor beautiful of bod. To be nice, the industry calls us "character actors." These people are some of the most beautiful people I've met in my life. They have a sense of humor. A quick wit. A kind word. A listening ear. A tear-proof shoulder to cry on. Lovely, lovely people. I'd spend time with them over "leading men and leading women" any day of the week, and twice on Sundays.
I used to do what you do - hang out with people...."friends"....who belittled me and made jokes at my expense. They whispered about me behind, and in front of, my back. I hung around them because I felt that way about myself - and they validated that belief - they "made me right" about myself. And one day.....and I'll tell you the circumstances privately, if you wish....I said "enough!" I knew there was more to me than a fat guy who made others laugh at him, not with him. I hope that soon, you can discover this about yourself....and get away from those who put you down.
Halo....I don't know what you look like...and I don't really care. I've seen you...in your wit....your sexiness...your supportiveness of friends and people who are down. THAT is your beauty. This sack of skin and flesh and bone that surround us is merely the means of transport for our souls and spirits on this earth. Do what you want and can to your physical self to make YOURSELF feel good about you - and to hell with what anyone else thinks.
A very wise man once told me, "Your life is your movie - you're the star, the director, the producer, and the casting director. Let people into your life that will make your movie the best that it can be....and if someone comes into your movie and isn't right for the part....or for the movie as a whole, fire them." I would say that your asshole "friend" needs to find someone else's movie to ruin....and make your movie the best that it can be for you.
With warm hugs....
Nigel
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Halo,
I know I don't really know you but I was just so shocked when I read this. I am soooo sorry. He doesn't even deserve you as a friend. People like him make me sick. I'm a big girl at the moment.
I hope that someday soon you will find someone that treasures you for who you are. I am sure you are beautiful woman. Some of the most sensual women I know are a bit overweight.
Please try not to let him get you down. He's just another (insert choice of words here) that is insensitive and doesn't deserve a good woman. I hope he finds a vain woman that treats him like shit.
I know I don't really know you but I was just so shocked when I read this. I am soooo sorry. He doesn't even deserve you as a friend. People like him make me sick. I'm a big girl at the moment.
I hope that someday soon you will find someone that treasures you for who you are. I am sure you are beautiful woman. Some of the most sensual women I know are a bit overweight.
Please try not to let him get you down. He's just another (insert choice of words here) that is insensitive and doesn't deserve a good woman. I hope he finds a vain woman that treats him like shit.
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{{{Halo}}} I was horrified when I read your post. I won't say anything that hasn't already been said here, just letting you know that no one deserves to be treated that way. The man is obviously some sort of slug.
I hope that you're feeling a little better about yourself now, after reading all of these posts. There are people out there who will love and respect you for who are you are inside and not what you look like outside.
-Sunny
I hope that you're feeling a little better about yourself now, after reading all of these posts. There are people out there who will love and respect you for who are you are inside and not what you look like outside.
-Sunny
DntWkeTheNghbrs
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What the...?????
I was just saying today I don't post enough here, but I felt inspired to add my response to this thread, even if just to say I agree with everyone else here. The guy is an asshole.
I think I've read enough of your posts to honestly say you are too good for him. Find a better guy to have a crush on. We're not all jerks.
I was just saying today I don't post enough here, but I felt inspired to add my response to this thread, even if just to say I agree with everyone else here. The guy is an asshole.
I think I've read enough of your posts to honestly say you are too good for him. Find a better guy to have a crush on. We're not all jerks.
VanB
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LDWAH
He's an absolute tosser for being so thoughtless, unpleasant and shallow. He should, therefore, be beneath your contempt.
Do you remember how we first started talking and it resulted from the posts on BBW thread? Re-read what I said - it's very true.
Let me tell you - you're a beautiful person whether you like it or not.
He's an absolute tosser for being so thoughtless, unpleasant and shallow. He should, therefore, be beneath your contempt.
Do you remember how we first started talking and it resulted from the posts on BBW thread? Re-read what I said - it's very true.
Let me tell you - you're a beautiful person whether you like it or not.
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LittleDevilWithAHalo said:
I hope it took him at least a day to wake up and the black eye lasts forever.
Your friend is an insensetive ass and you should have decked him.
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