"Femdom"... for real..?

[NoTalentHack]

You know, I started to type up a whole response to this, then I thought, "Why?" You have written no stories, published no notable critiques, have neither favorites nor follows on your account, and seem to exist almost entirely (at least on these forums) to pat yourself on the back about how right and just every one of your opinions is. I've got shit to do.

But one minor point.

Finally, I congratulate you on your apparent belief that publishing stories here is some kind of feather in your cap. This sheds some considerable light on what value there is in the arguments you deploy... and also, dare I say it, on your choice of username.

No, you dork. I'm saying that you're attacking me as a "guardian of virtue" when I actually have written about these various forms of noncon, i.e., I have some skin in the game. You know, unlike you, keyboard warrior. Reading comprehension: get some. But practice it with someone else, since you're being ignored now.

 

[000zing]

It is not me who needs to "chill".

They're neither "my stories", nor have I asked any "questions"... but unlike you I can appreciate that the OP was well within his rights to pose a challenge to those who insist there are such things in reality as cuckqueans and "femdom". All too predictably, he gets landed on by the self-appointed worthy brigade who decide that this is a good opportunity to parade their false self-righteousness before what they fondly imagine to be an adoring public. I've got news for you: nobody much is bothered.

I see no "asking for real world examples" on the part of the OP. I see merely a request for confirmation. He seems quite content with trusting members' veracity... an exceedingly dubious move on here, if you ask me. You are putting words into his mouth to support your hyper-critical stance.

Whether any responses are "unlikely" is also a speculative matter which lies entirely outside the issue at hand. The OP will have to put up with what he gets and it isn't your place or mine, on the basis of that likelihood, to deny his right to put the challenge.

I applaud the OP for having the nerve to question the real-life existence of these things. He wasn't looking for story ideas. I suspect he, like more than one of us, has wondered whether the mountain of stories based on what are, at heart, simple arrangement-type voluntary fetishes, has not reached absurd proportions, not justified remotely by what happens in reality if such things are to be taken literally.

Finally, I congratulate you on your apparent belief that publishing stories here is some kind of feather in your cap. This sheds some considerable light on what value there is in the arguments you deploy... and also, dare I say it, on your choice of username.

Thanks SP but I'm a big boy and can fight my own battles.

As I said earlier, I was surprised to see the thread revived after ten days of fading. I'd already obtained via the posts and a couple of PMs what I needed to know. Indeed I was not looking for story ideas but as a contributor to SI like yourself for a number of years felt I was reasonably entitled to query the actual existence of these things and get a discussion going - especially since an increasing number of story ideas seem to be based on them.

I should have remembered how much the Hard-of-Understanding love to pounce in such situations. My bad.

Again, like yourself I'm sure, you have to giggle at the totally ludicrous obsession some have with "favourites" and "follows", as if "publishing" (yes, right) on here is any kind of achievement. One can only imagine it produces orgasms. The blank refusal to comprehend that quite a few of us only come on Lit. to share thoughts and make suggestions is a concomitant, it goes without saying.

Oh yes... and "shit" probably sums up pretty well what such types "have to do", right? Decidedly honest of them to admit it.

 

[CuttingEdge]

I'm talking real, honest-to-goodness unasked-for but successfully carried-out domination of the male by the female...

... IF such a thing really exists...

I know of two examples of this, and previously explained them; a friend of my girlfriend has a marriage like this, as well as my brother and sister-in-law.

There is no question this situation arises... a lot, since it is just a poor mixture of personalities. What your question does not specifically ask, is how long do these relationships last? That is another matter entirely.

In the two cases cited above; they are past 30 years of marriage.

 

[NoJo]

Marriages where the woman dominates the man is common in Jewish culture, to the extent of becoming a stereotype (which makes it no less true), and the subject of a lot of Jewish humour (and a cause of some pride for Jewish women). It's probably why I'm attracted to dominant women -- it's part of my Jewish DNA.

 

[MetaBob]

I'd be fascinated to know whether true femdom has been encountered by anyone here among people they've encountered. Perhaps it's possible to imagine a couple where the guy is not just mentally weaker, which tends to be something of a prerequisite, but also perhaps physically.

Met in real life. Don't believe anything "shared" in the murky world of online.

These sentences seem mutually exclusive.

That said, the closest I've seen in real life was in an airport. A very large woman was yelling at a much smaller man, standing over him while pinning him in his seat as she berated him. She was probably twice his weight. Was she stronger than him, pound for pound? Maybe not, but there was a lot more of her than of him, and if he truly objected, he could have run at any point when she wasn't actively restraining him. I assume that meant that at some level, her behavior toward him was consensual. I didn't ask.

Most of my stories have FLR elements. In one, The Dog Whisperer (see my sig, below), one of the female characters is accustomed to being able to physically dominate men. She is tall, strong, and has martial arts training. She isn't quite able to do so with that book's MMC, who is unusually strong and athletic, but this is a teachable/learnable moment for her. She gets more martial arts training.

Most men are taller and faster and physically stronger than most women, but there's a continuum. These nonspecific overlapping bell curves help to illustrate it:



Some women and men enjoy their difference from the norm. Julia Child was *MUCH* larger than her husband Paul. He was a fourth-degree black belt in judo. Does any of that matter? Not to me. What they might have done behind closed doors is none of my business, but they both seemed very happy with whatever it was.