Fetish Origins

[Thomas_Hardy]

I discovered that submitting to women (and sometimes, men) aroused me by accident, while playing judo. Rolling on the mat with a technically superior female, you end up in holds that can have a sexual edge when you find that you will not get out of them, depending on which body parts are involved.

This prompted me to explore that side of me into the psychological dimensions of submission. Perhaps it also, on a deeper level, links to being spanked by my mother with a wooden spoon as a kid. I am not traumatised by it and at the time, things like that were common in many families around us. So I have gone through life well adjusted, and there is no blame. But I guess bdsm plays an important part in living with where I came from.

 

[subbyclarajane]

Mine came from a sexual assault. I have friends that have similar. Either we do it intentionally to have control over the fetish so it can’t be done TO us, or the adrenaline of a danger memory kicks in, we leave team and enter a state of “now”, which is what happens with most trauma response. While the “now” can be sexually liberating, this particular response can lead to declining mental health and has often left me crying after the sex. Do not recommend.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Mine came from a sexual assault. I have friends that have similar. Either we do it intentionally to have control over the fetish so it can’t be done TO us, or the adrenaline of a danger memory kicks in, we leave team and enter a state of “now”, which is what happens with most trauma response. While the “now” can be sexually liberating, this particular response can lead to declining mental health and has often left me crying after the sex. Do not recommend.

Very sorry to hear that — I've had people force themselves on me too so IKWYM, and it must've led to my submissive and rape fantasies along with my bullying history.

 

[Illgiveitatry1]

Most fetishes have their roots in certain experiences. Do you know where yours came from?

With women I'm very Dom. I expect total obedience and enjoy a woman who I can share, loan or pass around without question.

With guys I'm very sub. I don't have to be attracted to the man, or even like him. I just want to suck his cock and for him to hold me down and fuck me like a slut.

I know (I think) where this came from. When I was a teenager I found out my parents were swingers, firstly by hidden contact mags with some entries underlined or circled (took me a while to figure out what VVWE meant, there was no internet then) and eventually the holy grail, a stack of polaroids of mostly my mother, some with other men.

So with women, I guess, I'm mirroring my dad. With guys, I'm trying to experience what she experienced.

Sounds like your parents were really fun.

 

[jd_sw]

I know where my fetishes originate from. It was my father's VHS porn stash. The film was probably made in late 80's to early 90's. I still remember it quite vividly because this was my favorite.

The story was about a female blond clerk working in a stone quarry. First scene was a group miners ganging up on her in her office. She was handcuffed, stripped naked, fucked in all her holes. The miners then gave her facials then walked her cum covered naked body out to the mining site with a leash attached to her collar.
The next scene is they tied her vertically in spread-eagle position ropes on a face of a stone slab. Then they used modified power tools to make her cum over and over before letting her down.
Last scene was she get tied face down over a stone block getting split-roated by the miners. The all of the miners gave her creampies.

 

[GoodGirlsDeserveFun]

Most fetishes have their roots in certain experiences. Do you know where yours came from?

With women I'm very Dom. I expect total obedience and enjoy a woman who I can share, loan or pass around without question.

With guys I'm very sub. I don't have to be attracted to the man, or even like him. I just want to suck his cock and for him to hold me down and fuck me like a slut.

I know (I think) where this came from. When I was a teenager I found out my parents were swingers, firstly by hidden contact mags with some entries underlined or circled (took me a while to figure out what VVWE meant, there was no internet then) and eventually the holy grail, a stack of polaroids of mostly my mother, some with other men.

So with women, I guess, I'm mirroring my dad. With guys, I'm trying to experience what she experienced.

I think for a long time I wouldn't talk about anything to do with sex.

So exhibitionism is a real turn on to me because it goes against everything I lived growing up. It also goes against what I think is proper or ladylike haha. Not that it's going to stop me recording orgasms, piss audios and showing my tits on the internet. I'm definitely happier knowing myself better now.