First time with anal

[An Awful Cad]

After 4-5 years of dating/marriage, my wife finally discovered, or more like finally admitted to herself, that she loves anal play. We did not begin engaging in anal penetration on a regular basis until maybe 8-9 months ago; over the past month or so we have had LOT of anal sex, at least five times a week.

You're married, she lets you fuck her at least five times a week - in the ass no less. Doesn't compute for me. Next you'll be telling us she and her supermodel sister both give you blowjobs on demand. You're either a liar or the luckiest man alive.

 

[TBKahuna123]

You're married, she lets you fuck her at least five times a week - in the ass no less. Doesn't compute for me. Next you'll be telling us she and her supermodel sister both give you blowjobs on demand. You're either a liar or the luckiest man alive.

Hey, no one said that alll married women are friggid. My wife would have sex every night if we could and I've been married ten years. Marriage doesn't mean the end of sex.

I'll admit though, he does sound prety damn lucky.

 

[human_male]

Does anyone ever have a kind of gooey stuff come out? Sorry to gross everyone out, but I had an enema this evening, and I just farted and noticed this goo with a slight brown colour to it come out. Does that sound normal?

I always have anxiety about my ass.

Edit: By the way, I'm serious.

 

[gottohaveit]

anal

lube, lube, lube, lube....let him watch you insert the dildo / butt plug in your ass. This will give him an idea of the of how slow it should in. No rush. Push a little at a time. Go Slow... so he gets the idea. Keep the plug in for awhile to get used to the feel. Good luck.

 

[angelicious]

I would recommend you being in control of the initial insertion for the first time... LUBE LUBE and more lube... you can never have enough down there for your first few times.

I now dont use lube however, I am still not a pro at this yet! But learning now that I have a very anal loving man!

Patience and dont just try to slam it in... it I am sure will sting a bit when the head is being inserted... let it sit there and when your ready a little farther.

then slow motions at first... and its a way different feeling!

 

[DanHarr]

i recommend you stick with the pussy and mouth

 

[TBKahuna123]

Does anyone ever have a kind of gooey stuff come out? Sorry to gross everyone out, but I had an enema this evening, and I just farted and noticed this goo with a slight brown colour to it come out. Does that sound normal?

I always have anxiety about my ass.

Edit: By the way, I'm serious.

Not sure if this is a correlation or not, but I've had this before, clear to slgihtly discolored. I discovered that I had some internal hemmerroids that I didn't know where there. After having those removed I haven't had this once, so I'm assuming they were the cause. If it keeps happening it might be worth a checkup.

BTW, catch em soon and they can be removed without surgery. That surgery was a fucking bitch!!!

 

[Guest]

Try spooning and having anal sex... less 'matter' there too

 

[human_male]

Not sure if this is a correlation or not, but I've had this before, clear to slgihtly discolored. I discovered that I had some internal hemmerroids that I didn't know where there. After having those removed I haven't had this once, so I'm assuming they were the cause. If it keeps happening it might be worth a checkup.

BTW, catch em soon and they can be removed without surgery. That surgery was a fucking bitch!!!

Oh shit. Did it happen regularly and under what circumstances? Did you feel pain? It happened to be only after I'd had an enema. I assumed it was just some water left up there.

 

[Filling_KK]

You're married, she lets you fuck her at least five times a week - in the ass no less. Doesn't compute for me. Next you'll be telling us she and her supermodel sister both give you blowjobs on demand. You're either a liar or the luckiest man alive.

Uhh, yeah, I just made all of that up just so I could post it here and impress a bunch of strangers and make a few others jealous.

I'm not lying and we don't have sex five times a week EVERY week and it isn't always anal, it's just been that way for the past few weeks, and no, I am not complaining. If it matters to you, we didn't have anal sex last night. But I will tell you this, even if she isn't in the mood for sex she almost always offers a handjob or a blow job, both of which are exceptional......and I don't always take her up on that offer, although that is a rare occasion

I do feel lucky and my wife is one helluva woman whom I dearly love.......and am thankful that she has become such the little anal queen!

Oh, by the way, she doesn't have a sister and I have no interest in her brother. God, some people are such ass clowns.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Uhh, yeah, I just made all of that up just so I could post it here and impress a bunch of strangers and make a few others jealous.

I'm not lying and we don't have sex five times a week EVERY week and it isn't always anal, it's just been that way for the past few weeks, and no, I am not complaining. If it matters to you, we didn't have anal sex last night. But I will tell you this, even if she isn't in the mood for sex she always offers a handjob or a blow job, both of which are exceptional.

I do feel lucky and my wife is one helluva woman whom I dearly love.......and am thankful that she has become such the little anal queen!

See, marriage ain't all bad guys!

 

[Eilan]

Uhh, yeah, I just made all of that up just so I could post it here and impress a bunch of strangers and make a few others jealous.

I'm not lying and we don't have sex five times a week EVERY week and it isn't always anal, it's just been that way for the past few weeks, and no, I am not complaining. If it matters to you, we didn't have anal sex last night. But I will tell you this, even if she isn't in the mood for sex she always offers a handjob or a blow job, both of which are exceptional.

I do feel lucky and my wife is one helluva woman whom I dearly love.......and am thankful that she has become such the little anal queen!

*applause*

 

[Eilan]

My husband wants to try anal. I finaly said yes, and we have bought some lub and a dildo made for first time anal. Now my only problem is that I'm afraid the dildo will come out of me covered in brown. Is that a reasonal fear? Is there a best time to do anal? like so many hours after you have had a bm? Am I just over thinking this? Help.

Since your husband is the one who wants this, I suggest that you let HIM be the one to "test" the lube and dildo first. Seriously. (Sorry, TBKahuna123.)

You might be overthinking things, but that doesn't mean your fears are unfounded.

My experience has been that if I've had a BM that day, I don't have any noticeable mess. However, my husband and I have noticed a little "staining" on occasion (not a full-fledged Shitsicle or anything). It bothers me more than it does him; he just cleans himself off, and that's something he always does after anal, anyway.

If you're really worried about "cleanliness," you can always use an enema beforehand. I've tended to find the prospect of an enema more daunting than the possibility of a little bit of a mess after anal, so it's not something that I do. Some couples, however, incorporate the enema as part of the whole anal sex experience. It's up to you and your husband.

Good luck and welcome to Lit.

 

[Lady_Prowless]

My husband wants to try anal. I finaly said yes, and we have bought some lub and a dildo made for first time anal. Now my only problem is that I'm afraid the dildo will come out of me covered in brown. Is that a reasonal fear? Is there a best time to do anal? like so many hours after you have had a bm? Am I just over thinking this? Help.

just make sure you use the bathroom first.and if you are afraid of that then maybe you should reconsider.

 

[An Awful Cad]

God, some people are such ass clowns.

Actually, I'm hopeful of someday becoming an ass clown. Right now, I'm more of an ass monk.

 

[FreakyBytch]

problem solved.

Ok,i have found someone that i want very much to please sexually ANY way possible.We both have enormous sex drives ,but I think he has tried more things than I.Anyway,he has mentioned anal.He said only if i want to and he would stop the second it hurt too badly.I have NO idea on what to do here.Please offer me words of advice.I am guessing we should shower first and be relaxed.Other than that,,,i feel clueless,Would it be easier if we had some kind of sex before we do?would this help relax anything?I am looking forward to sharing this with him.....i just dont know what to expect or do really.I have never had any type of anal play before either.ALSO,,his cock is on the bigger side,,,very very thick,,,, tHANKS in advance

Read this. ( go to the site = TNS.BBSSM.com ) Problem solved.

 

[SweetErika]

Read this. Problem solved.

Honestly, what, if any, is your affiliation with the store you're recommending in your guide?

Have you looked at any of the advice here, such as that in The Blank Manual sticky?

In my opinion, your advice to 'keep going no matter what' is flawed; the anus/rectum is a delicate, injury-prone area that doesn't heal well, so if someone's experiencing pain, they certainly need to stop and investigate the problem, be it lack of lube, hemorrhoids, over-stretching, or possibly tearing the rectum.

I suppose I'm just confused as to why you post this link with seemingly little consideration of the situation, bump zero or one-response threads that contain the link, etc. Perhaps it'd look like there's less of an ulterior motive if you re-wrote and submitted to the How To story section, or posted the text on a good anal thread for inclusion in The Blank Manual.

 

[TBKahuna123]

In my opinion, your advice to 'keep going no matter what' is flawed; the anus/rectum is a delicate, injury-prone area that doesn't heal well, so if someone's experiencing pain, they certainly need to stop and investigate the problem, be it lack of lube, hemorrhoids, over-stretching, or possibly tearing the rectum.

Absolutely right! Pain is an indicator that something is wrong. I think a little initial stinging from the stretch MIGHT be normal, but it goes away almost instantly. If it doesn't, then as Erika said, something's not right. Usually that's just not enough lube or going too fast, but in any case back off and take a breather before trying again.

There's another reason too, though it's a bit selfish from the guy's point of view. If you keep going even though it hurts, then you aren't going to like anal sex. You will always associate this with pain and you will eventually want to stop, no matter how much you want to please your lover. It's all about communication, you have to tell your lover what is happening and he has to listen. If you don't, someone's going to get hurt, either their feelings or their ass, but something's getting hurt. That's not the point at all, is it?

 

[FreakyBytch]

well...

Well in all honesty, I have nothing to do with the store mentioned, and the guide wasn't written by me. I just came across it and found it really helpful in what it helped me to achieve so I like to let others experience what I have.

Also, the guide does NOT suggest that pain is good in any way. It says that you must realize the difference between pain and stretching, just as if you were exercising. When you bend down to touch your toes and keep your legs straight that is stretching, but slight discomfort, but you know your limits and how far you should go. Same with this. If it hurts as a pain, and is not minor discomfort from stretching, then indeed you should definately stop. There is no pain involved in the method the guide suggest, it's just some people like to rush things and take it a step further a bit early.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'm a firm believer is stretching before a big game, but pre anal sex? Does this mean I should stretch afterwards too, like I do when I work out?

 

[DarkLover]

Anal question

Last night was my lucky night. My wife came right out and said she wanted to try anal sex!

After I pinched myself to see if I was dreaming (and I wasn't), we talked about it for a while. I already have the book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, by Tristann Taoromino. I have a question, though, for more experienced anal players here.

I know you don't (usually) start out right away by penetrating with a penis. Most people have to work up to it.

When you get to the point of using a penis though, is it best to use a condom? If I don't use one, am I risking getting an infection in my penis?

Thanks,

DarkLover

 

[INeedLove]

Best I recall, yes-you could get bacteria if you go condom-less.

Have you tried sliding a lubed finger into her? It might be a nice start, especially if you are pleasuring her orally.

Have fun!!

 

[pink]

Lots of lube, and go in slowly.

 

[BLACKWELL]

unless you have open sores on your penis you should be fine..

however.. if you plan on going back to vaginal sex then use a condom for the anal part.. because you may take the batireia out of the anal cavity and into the vagina

 

[SweetErika]

We always use a condom just to be on the safe side and for simple clean up. Sensitivity/lasting has never been an issue, so we really don't see a reason not to use condoms.