First Time

sonicx0 said:
I'm a virgin, and I may be having an opportunity to have my frist time soon. Here's the thing, I have always wanted to have some sort of recorded memory of my first time (wether it be, pictures, video, anything really, suggestions welcome), since it's so special and all. I need some advice, should I do this? If so, How do I go about it? How do I ask the girl without completely freaking her out and turning her off to the whole idea?

I don't have too much to offer. My first time was crap, lol...

I guess you'd better to be relax, don't go too direct when you are asking for sex to the girl, try to make it like a nature part of your relationship.
 
sonicx0 said:
I don't mean "How do I do this?" as in how do I ask for sex. I mean how do I talk to her about making a recorded memory of it.
To me it would matter a great deal WHY you wanted to do this. If it were me and it was a guy I was very much in love with and I knew he felt the same I would think the idea was cute and great although at the time I would have been very shy about it. What age are you and what age is she? Is it her first time too?

Are you in a relationship with her already or is it just a girl who you assume to 'get lucky with' sometime soon? What are your plans with her afterwards? Is it probably just going to be sex? If that was the case and if I were her you would totally freak me out with a request like that because I don't like being 'used' for sex and YOUR kicks alone and for you to have pictures to brag to others with - who would probably totally assume I was some easy chick or something.

If she is 'just' a kinky slut anyway she would probably not mind at all but the question then is..... do you want to have sex with someone like that (and be number x on her list)? :eek:
 
Don't ask. :rolleyes:

Simply remember it like everyone else, perhaps after pull out a camera and get a cuddle picture of both of you. Pictures and videotaping is almost always a recluse of the people who have been there done that or want to get a little more famous, think Paris Hilton there. :rolleyes:

Since this is your first time whenever it is she says fuck me, I doubt she is one of those been there done that people, and you have to be somewhat famous to begin with to get a little more famous so videotaping is right out the window for a while. ;)

Also, wait for her to come up with the videotaping idea, otherwise you will be asking to videotape for years. :devil:
 
Do you really think that it will be so fantastically spectacular that it will even be worth watching afterwards..? I don't know what your relationship with the girl is like, but if speaking from personal experience I can say the following things:

1. Chances are, you're going to be nervous. It's not the same for all people, true, but it's going to be your first time. No matter how you feel about it now, it WILL be a different feeling when you're actually at it. And having a camera taping it right next to you will only tense you up even more.

2. It's not all going to be action. If it's actually going to be a ROMANTIC occasion, then there will be plenty of time spent on kissing, snuggling and cuddling, before and afterwards. Nothing record-worthy, in my opinion.

3. I've been having sex for quite some time now, and I'm still not sure what I would think about doing it in front of a camera even now. In fact, I'd probably be against it. Fuck knows what the girl would think about it. Especially if she's a virgin as well.

I suppose the best decision you could make that wouldn't freak her out would be to casually take a picture of you two lying together after sex, in a sort of "extend your arm holding a digicam and do something cute" manner that would be more funny and romantic than "recording legendary moment"-like. You could do the same with recording videos, too. Just don't do it too suggestively. She won't have anything against that, most probably. And if that's not enough for you, then I really don't know what else to suggest.
 
Dontdoit

but that's just me.

As stated above - it'll blow (NO pun intended) the ROMANCE, she'll be SO happy when she sees herself on YOUTUBE, GOOGLEMOVIES etc etc etc etc etcetc.

Trust me. If it's your first time you'll remember EVERY move, smell, texture and DUMBASS move you make throughout the entire adventure. I still do and that was many, many mooons ago. I suppose in that light the video could be turned over to a sex education site for things NOT to do during "first time sex" - like make a film of it.
 
Mr.G said:
but that's just me.

As stated above - it'll blow (NO pun intended) the ROMANCE, she'll be SO happy when she sees herself on YOUTUBE, GOOGLEMOVIES etc etc etc etc etcetc.

Trust me. If it's your first time you'll remember EVERY move, smell, texture and DUMBASS move you make throughout the entire adventure. I still do and that was many, many mooons ago. I suppose in that light the video could be turned over to a sex education site for things NOT to do during "first time sex" - like make a film of it.

I was going to say what Mr. G said, but he said it first and better. Listen to him.
 
sonicx0 said:
I'm a virgin, and I may be having an opportunity to have my frist time soon. Here's the thing, I have always wanted to have some sort of recorded memory of my first time (wether it be, pictures, video, anything really, suggestions welcome), since it's so special and all. I need some advice, should I do this? If so, How do I go about it? How do I ask the girl without completely freaking her out and turning her off to the whole idea?
This is clearly just my opinion, but, NO, I don't think you should ask to have pics/video or whatever of your first time. Unless you do something foolish like get drunk beforehand, you will remember it just fine without any mementos.

If a guy asked me if he could record or take pics because he wanted to remember his first time, I'd find it very creepy, and wouldn't have sex with him at all. It strikes me as, 'I may never/rarely have sex again, so I want to have every detail of this preserved for posterity,' and/or 'I'm too immature to rely on my memory like everyone else does -- I need proof to show my friends and masturbate to' which doesn't get me all hot and bothered.
 
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