How to DM first ?

[immojtabalm]

Hey guys, I am looking for finding a goonette friend here and even maybe more anyway, I am wondering how should I send message for the first time to the girl I like?

I mean opening message, because saying hello, how are you, what's up is borning to many of them, so I have no idea what should I send at first , if any girl or boy has any idea how should I start dm at first, i will be so glad to she or he help me
Thank you so much

 

[barefootgirl69]

Do NOT start with "What's up?" Or "How are you?"

Be detailed. Tell them what caught your attention, was it something they said on the forum or in their bio?

Did you see that you share an interest of theirs? Tell them! Ask if they'd like to chat about it.

Then, tell them to have a great day.
Go into it with Zero Expectations in getting a reply. Many times that happens so don't get discouraged.

 

[Samdesu]

As someone who is a serial standard greeting before getting to the message with little to no returns, I can say don't do that. lol

While I'll always been an old letter style writer (I miss sending ACTUAL letters sometimes) that's just not the way of the world anymore, especially on here with how many DM's get thrown around here.

 

[nottee_1]

IMO, be very respectful to the person you want to DM and ask them in the open thread if you can message them. Briefly say..

"Hello,. I'm very interested in getting to know you.. May I please DM you?"

If they're open to messaging.. They'll say sure...

 

[immojtabalm]

Do NOT start with "What's up?" Or "How are you?"

Be detailed. Tell them what caught your attention, was it something they said on the forum or in their bio?

Did you see that you share an interest of theirs? Tell them! Ask if they'd like to chat about it.

Then, tell them to have a great day.
Go into it with Zero Expectations in getting a reply. Many times that happens so don't get discouraged.

I got it, thank you so much for the tips, I'll try my best to do it

 

[immojtabalm]

As someone who is a serial standard greeting before getting to the message with little to no returns, I can say don't do that. lol

While I'll always been an old letter style writer (I miss sending ACTUAL letters sometimes) that's just not the way of the world anymore, especially on here with how many DM's get thrown around here.

Yes exactly, you're right, I always want to start first with some old fashioned but it doesn't work
Thanks you so much for the advice

 

[immojtabalm]

IMO, be very respectful to the person you want to DM and ask them in the open thread if you can message them. Briefly say..

"Hello,. I'm very interested in getting to know you.. May I please DM you?"

If they're open to messaging.. They'll say sure...

I'll keep it on my mind thanksss a lot friend

 

[BelowAverage]

Next time you’re in the bathroom, take a pic of your cock. Make sure the toilet is visible. It’s a bonus if you have dirty clothes all over the floor, it shows her that you’re not a bot. Favorite it in your photo gallery so its easy to find. Send your photographic masterpiece to any lady that you think might even be remotely interested. Guaranteed to separate you from all the other dudes who are too shy. If you don’t hear back, keep sending until she wants to meet up or blocks you.

 

[MasterDarcy]

I've never ever initiated contact, here or anywhere else.

Be resoectful, tell her about you as well as your intentions. Be honest and truthful. No lies. Don't act like you're something or someone you aren't. Be authentic and don't censor yourself. Be honest about what you're looking for and what you aren't.

Take time to write a long message.

Time is previous, dedicating your time to another person is perhaps one of the most genuine and earnest compliments that one can make.

No text talk, no small talk ("how are you?", no memes, no dick pick, no disrespect, no abuse and acting like she owes you a reply, no copy and paste messages.

If she likes what she reads then you might receive a reply. If not, move on. She doesn't have an obligation to say "Thanks but no thanks," and even when they do, the pride of the guy usually gets hurt and the inssults begin.

Don't be that guy.

Best of luck.

 

[EmilyMiller]

How to DM first ?​

Dear Emily,

I can’t believe what a talented writer you are. Here is a list of my top ten favorites of your amazing stories:

1. […]

I update it every time you publish a new one.

I’d love to talk to you about your use of litotes as a humorous device.

Respectfully,

Thirsty H. Dude

[the H. is for Horny]

 

[have_you_met_ted]

I try not to send a random unless I really think there could be a connection.
There’s ladies here who don’t mind them but won’t initiate conversations due to some behavior they’ve been exposed to in the past.
Echoing what’s already been said check out some posts, be sure to read their profile and it’s a big plus if your message has something to say.
My inbox is always open but not everyone shares the same mindset.

Oh I will add it’s good if you have a profile that says something about yourself. That could be a determining factor in receiving a response.

 

[maybenotacreep]

Next time you’re in the bathroom, take a pic of your cock. Make sure the toilet is visible. It’s a bonus if you have dirty clothes all over the floor, it shows her that you’re not a bot. Favorite it in your photo gallery so its easy to find. Send your photographic masterpiece to any lady that you think might even be remotely interested. Guaranteed to separate you from all the other dudes who are too shy. If you don’t hear back, keep sending until she wants to meet up or blocks you.

All great advice, but Pro tip. Don't take a direct picture. Make sure to take the picture in a dirty mirror. The smudgy distortions will add an air of mystery.

 

[TunnelKing089]

Most of the time I just try to respect boundaries,keep my mouth shut,and don't bother people.

That seems to be the most important thing to do here until you really get to know someone by interacting.good luck.

 

[ICantLeafYou]

Next time you’re in the bathroom, take a pic of your cock. Make sure the toilet is visible. It’s a bonus if you have dirty clothes all over the floor, it shows her that you’re not a bot. Favorite it in your photo gallery so its easy to find. Send your photographic masterpiece to any lady that you think might even be remotely interested. Guaranteed to separate you from all the other dudes who are too shy. If you don’t hear back, keep sending until she wants to meet up or blocks you.

Can't believe you forgot the most important part: Needs to be a floater in the toilet.

 

[immojtabalm]

Dear Emily,

I can’t believe what a talented writer you are. Here is a list of my top ten favorites of your amazing stories:

1. […]

I update it every time you publish a new one.

I’d love to talk to you about your use of litotes as a humorous device.

Respectfully,

Thirsty H. Dude

[the H. is for Horny]

omg, I love this so much haha, thank you so much xD, the next question is, what if she had not any stories published xD?

 

[immojtabalm]

Next time you’re in the bathroom, take a pic of your cock. Make sure the toilet is visible. It’s a bonus if you have dirty clothes all over the floor, it shows her that you’re not a bot. Favorite it in your photo gallery so its easy to find. Send your photographic masterpiece to any lady that you think might even be remotely interested. Guaranteed to separate you from all the other dudes who are too shy. If you don’t hear back, keep sending until she wants to meet up or blocks you.

lmao this is like high risk / high reward situation, maybe i get called freak and creep but I can be rewarded with someone more freakier than me haha

 

[immojtabalm]

I've never ever initiated contact, here or anywhere else.

Be resoectful, tell her about you as well as your intentions. Be honest and truthful. No lies. Don't act like you're something or someone you aren't. Be authentic and don't censor yourself. Be honest about what you're looking for and what you aren't.

Take time to write a long message.

Time is previous, dedicating your time to another person is perhaps one of the most genuine and earnest compliments that one can make.

No text talk, no small talk ("how are you?", no memes, no dick pick, no disrespect, no abuse and acting like she owes you a reply, no copy and paste messages.

If she likes what she reads then you might receive a reply. If not, move on. She doesn't have an obligation to say "Thanks but no thanks," and even when they do, the pride of the guy usually gets hurt and the inssults begin.

Don't be that guy.

Best of luck.

wow man, I liked your reply so much, me myself loves to be like this, like literally honest about everything, not based on show ups and trends, just a few girls rreponding to messages for this but this is at least a good thing i believe is right, thanks a lot again man

 

[immojtabalm]

I try not to send a random unless I really think there could be a connection.
There’s ladies here who don’t mind them but won’t initiate conversations due to some behavior they’ve been exposed to in the past.
Echoing what’s already been said check out some posts, be sure to read their profile and it’s a big plus if your message has something to say.
My inbox is always open but not everyone shares the same mindset.

Oh I will add it’s good if you have a profile that says something about yourself. That could be a determining factor in receiving a response.

wow thanks for your advice, yes that is a really important things to consider what she likes or not and compare it with my oen interests to see if we can get any connections
i will try to update some stuff about my profile

 

[EmilyMiller]

omg, I love this so much haha, thank you so much xD, the next question is, what if she had not any stories published xD?

Why would you want to sext with a woman who doesn’t have any stories published ?

 

[PennyThompson]

 

[EmilyMiller]

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[immojtabalm]

Why would you want to sext with a woman who doesn’t have any stories published ?

Sometimes, first try, sounds soo interesting you know but of course experienced ones are better

 

[Britva415]

lmao this is like high risk / high reward situation, maybe i get called freak and creep but I can be rewarded with someone more freakier than me haha

Or creepier

 

[Profligateous]

When someone asks advice about initially DMing someone, often I see responses advising: "Do not start with How are you." And I wonder why. Asking "How are you" is a courtous way of starting a converstaion. What is offensive about being courteous?

Personally, I chat a lot, and usually begin the converstaion with "How are you?" If I get a negative response, or no response at all, this tells me that this is someone I don't want to talk to in the first place.

 

[Britva415]

When someone asks advice about initially DMing someone, often I see responses advising: "Do not start with How are you." And I wonder why. Asking "How are you" is a courtous way of starting a converstaion. What is offensive about being courteous?

Personally, I chat a lot, and usually begin the converstaion with "How are you?" If I get a negative response, or no response at all, this tells me that this is someone I don't want to talk to in the first place.

There’s nothing wrong with “how are you,” but if that’s all the message says, it’s too empty to get anyone’s interest. Either a hella dry response or none at all shouldn’t be any surprise. Why make them do the work? They aren’t the one who wanted to start a conversation.

There’s also a difference between chat and DMs. An empty how-are-you in DMs is just about worthless.