FLR v Femdom

[eroticspank]

Femdom to me is basically the woman controlling the sex, if there is sex, what acts, how often, and whether the man achieves orgasm or not. In porn, written and visual, femdom is characterized as women doing just what men want them to do, torturing the man or "making" him come, and being "forced" to satisfy her the way he actually desires. The relationship may or may not involve BDSM, pain and punishment, etc. but that would be decided by the woman.

FLR would be the woman controlling basically everything, i.e. sex, financial decisions and control, etc. but it doesn't necessarily mean that the man has to be feminized, degraded or humiliated as part of the relationship. And if either of them is into the pain and punishment, spanking, etc., that reverts to a BDSM lifestyle.

This is also a good description. I would add that when the woman is in charge in the bedroom(Femdom) that some men are surprised at what direction she takes, especially if it is not in alignment with their fantasies. But that is Femdom and submitting to her desires and direction is what you do as the sub.

In a FLR it does not mean the woman has to make the most money or work at all. It just means she runs the overall show.
ES

 

[Dearelliot]

I think a FLR would work, it already does in many marriages. My wife wants me to do this and that and I do it...and she isn't lazy so she is also busy. Unfortunately, she isn't a domme. but if she was it would seem perfect.

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

My wife is not necessarily a dominant woman. We have been exploring the FLR lifestyle. I think it's different for everyone but ours is mostly based around orgasm control. My cock is caged 24/7 and only gets released when she says. In the few short weeks of exploring I have become more helpful around the house. Taking on chores such as laundry, which she has always done for the 20 yrs we've been together. She still helps from time to time with cooking and cleaning but if she tells me to do something I do it. Usually I'm doing it before she asks. We have both also became much more affectionate towards each other. We make out pretty much daily which hasn't been much part of our life for many years. We are communicating better than ever. And of course her pleasure always comes first. We are still fairly new(coming up on a month) in the lifestyle and still trying new things and adapting to what fits our(her) needs the best.

 

[eroticspank]

My wife is not necessarily a dominant woman. We have been exploring the FLR lifestyle. I think it's different for everyone but ours is mostly based around orgasm control. My cock is caged 24/7 and only gets released when she says. In the few short weeks of exploring I have become more helpful around the house. Taking on chores such as laundry, which she has always done for the 20 yrs we've been together. She still helps from time to time with cooking and cleaning but if she tells me to do something I do it. Usually I'm doing it before she asks. We have both also became much more affectionate towards each other. We make out pretty much daily which hasn't been much part of our life for many years. We are communicating better than ever. And of course her pleasure always comes first. We are still fairly new(coming up on a month) in the lifestyle and still trying new things and adapting to what fits our(her) needs the best.

I am very happy for you both. It is wonderful that she has taken on that role for you and enjoyed it. You are living out your fantasies.

I do think because of the sex and sex play you have become closer and more intimate. I believe that is true for most couples. Regular sex is helpful for a couple's physical and emotional health. In my opinion, that can be any kind of sex, including plain vanilla. It's what works for you as a couple.
ES

 

[wifes_fag]

Watching a cockold humiliation video in which husband is allowed to be in bed and masturbate while wife and her lover make love. My wife let me watch but not touch her or her lover. I couldn't help but run my penis and cum. After they finished she would invariably demand I put my penis into her wet cum filled pussy. I do wanted to do that for her but after rubbing and draining my fluid plus the loss of my self esteem I could do anything with my limp little clitty. Often it barely show it's head and she then verbally humiliated me and told me I was not worthy of thinking myself a man. This as her friend lay beside her. I would give up and rub like a girl as they watched. I miss those sexually active days with her and now just rub.
Oh how I loved seeing her flowing with two or three cum loads and his cock and balls covered in their cum, anticipating a chance to perhaps taste them. Any one else enjoy tasting

I love eating other mens cum out of my wife. I jack off and catch it in a shot glass and eat my own cum too because I know other men can fuck her so much better than me.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I love eating other mens cum out of my wife. I jack off and catch it in a shot glass and eat my own cum too because I know other men can fuck her so much better than me.

It's so sexy and I always think of doing it if it's interracial.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Can there be a FLR that has mutual respect and just an alternative lifestyle or is it always BDSM?

Can't speak specifically to FLR. Would like to point out that BDSM in general should have mutual respect or someone could get very hurt. BDSM without mutual respect quickly becomes harassment and abuse.

Any play or way of living that has power exchange would fall under the BDSM umbrella, no whips, chains, leather, pain, etc. required. It's a big umbrella!

 

[rockynook]

We have a FLR marriage for 35+ years. She is 100% in control of everything,and I know my place.

 

[Boat1]

Can't speak specifically to FLR. Would like to point out that BDSM in general should have mutual respect or someone could get very hurt. BDSM without mutual respect quickly becomes harassment and abuse.

Any play or way of living that has power exchange would fall under the BDSM umbrella, no whips, chains, leather, pain, etc. required. It's a big umbrella!

I think you are a VERY wise lady!
KUDOS and Hat-Tip to you!