Foreplay with men

[EroticCuriosity]

Hi,

I'm rather inexperienced with men and wondered what you guys like from a woman (apart from the obvious!). I'm thinking along the lines of kissing, necking and ear nibbling, that kind of thing. What do you guys like? Descriptions would be good.

 

[StrapFantasy]

Hi,

I'm rather inexperienced with men and wondered what you guys like from a woman (apart from the obvious!). I'm thinking along the lines of kissing, necking and ear nibbling, that kind of thing. What do you guys like? Descriptions would be good.

As a general rule, guys don't need foreplay in the way most women do. If he's stiff, he's probably ready to go. Some men do, at some point, see the value in foreplay, however. It prolongs the experience so it is more than three wacks and a spurt in under 30 seconds. It allows him to be intimate, to prolong and enjoy the time with her, and perhaps be teased or even edged to the heights of desire.

For me, foreplay for her is the best - rather than having her do things to me. Hopefully that makes sense. I mean, I like getting her revved up better than her nibbling my ear. Having said that, my nips are damn sensitive and she does some things that just drive me wild... but it doesn't take long before I need to move on to the next level.

The best way to find out what he likes is to ask him! Second best? Try things and see how he reacts!

 

[E's Toy]

Hi,

I'm rather inexperienced with men and wondered what you guys like from a woman (apart from the obvious!). I'm thinking along the lines of kissing, necking and ear nibbling, that kind of thing. What do you guys like? Descriptions would be good.

just tease his cock, works for me play with his balls also, end never forget the kisses and maybe dirty words. Also have fun in bed

 

[Retrieval]

There seems to be a lot of women coming here asking advice about their men instead of just asking him. Any women out there care to explain this?
Is there something that prevents you from asking or is it just a women thing?

 

[M's girl]

There seems to be a lot of women coming here asking advice about their men instead of just asking him.

Well, vice-versa too. It's always best to talk to your partner. If we all did that, would there be Lit?

 

[SweetErika]

Well, vice-versa too. It's always best to talk to your partner. If we all did that, would there be Lit?

Definitely. Someone's gotta give me advice on washers and dryers.

 

[StrapFantasy]

Some of the things that go on in our minds is the stuff that changes relationships forever. I think it is natural to fear rejection - especially from someone close - or worse, damaging our relationship. Here we can find others who have traveled the road we're contemplating and get advice. Or, sometimes what we're seeking is courage to actually approach our SO.

I will never argue against comunication with your SO as the best way to bring fantasy to life, to pleasure him/her better, or to solve problems. But I can also understand the tendency for people to seek advice, information, and encouragement before going ahead with whatever it is that's on their minds.

 

[EroticCuriosity]

Just so you know, I don't have a guy yet. But when I do, I don't want to be in a position where I feel like I know nothing about what generally turns men on (apart from the obvious!), it's kind of like the finer details to foreplay and making love and that is what I'm trying to get some idea about. Anyone can tease a dick... I think.

Although, I would definitely ask the guy what he likes, but I think when you are still getting to know a guy in that department, it can be a little daunting, at least for me anyway.

 

[rydia57]

Just so you know, I don't have a guy yet. But when I do, I don't want to be in a position where I feel like I know nothing about what generally turns men on (apart from the obvious!), it's kind of like the finer details to foreplay and making love and that is what I'm trying to get some idea about. Anyone can tease a dick... I think.

Although, I would definitely ask the guy what he likes, but I think when you are still getting to know a guy in that department, it can be a little daunting, at least for me anyway.

From my experiences a couple of years ago, it is embarrassing not knowing what turns them on, but it is fun to learn by just trying, the whispering, who isn't turned on by a whisper? Nibbling their nipples, they seem to like it as much as we do? Oh yes, and the dirty talk. I had to take aspecial class for that one!

 

[Weird Harold]

Just so you know, I don't have a guy yet. But when I do, I don't want to be in a position where I feel like I know nothing about what generally turns men on (apart from the obvious!), it's kind of like the finer details to foreplay and making love and that is what I'm trying to get some idea about. Anyone can tease a dick... I think.

The classic answer to what men need as foreplay is, "Show up naked with a six-pack of beer."

However, I think you'll find that every man is different and many will find a direct approach intimidating -- even if they won't admit it.

What you term "teasing a dick" -- dressing sexy, kissing, nibbling, etc -- is probably something that will work on 90% of men; just let him know that you're willing and let him set the pace from there.

 

[human_male]

I'd say whatever you like doing to you he'll like too. Just a bit more firmly.

 

[SweetErika]

Just so you know, I don't have a guy yet. But when I do, I don't want to be in a position where I feel like I know nothing about what generally turns men on (apart from the obvious!), it's kind of like the finer details to foreplay and making love and that is what I'm trying to get some idea about. Anyone can tease a dick... I think.

Although, I would definitely ask the guy what he likes, but I think when you are still getting to know a guy in that department, it can be a little daunting, at least for me anyway.

I think it's wonderful you're trying to learn and are so enthusiastic about pleasing future partners. By the way, have you gone through "The Blank Manual" and "FAQs Before Posting" stickies at the top of the main How To page? The BM is packed with info and ideas, and the FAQ covers the forum, including instructions on how to search effectively with the forum search and Google (there have been quite a few threads on foreplay, tricks/techniques and male turn-ons in the past).

In my experience, men have been very willing to tell me and/or experiment to find out the finer details of foreplay and what really gets them going. While I have yet to encounter a partner who doesn't thoroughly appreciate quality oral and manual techniques, some don't care for those types of stimulation, so I never assume. The "one size fits all/most" approach definitely doesn't work for nipple, testicle, or anal play; some hate them or won't even entertain the ideas. What one partner's loved, another has found a turn-off, and even things I expected to be fairly universal have not been at all, so asking and trying a variety of things (with constant communication) is really the only way to go.

A good, open, enthusiastic style; willingness to be naughty (whatever that means) and talk dirty when appropriate; kissing proactively (again, specific moves depend on each partner, their style, feedback, etc.); showing my extreme desire and arousal for them; running my fingers through their hair, nails lightly scraping the scalp and back; and kissing/nibbling/sucking/flicking my tongue on the earlobes and neck (watch this, some people--like me--HATE even the thought of ear play), have been big hits with most of my partners. Think about what you (would) like, too, because a lot of the erogenous zones and techniques aren't gender-specific.

 

[Luke_25]

Hi,

I'm rather inexperienced with men and wondered what you guys like from a woman (apart from the obvious!). I'm thinking along the lines of kissing, necking and ear nibbling, that kind of thing. What do you guys like? Descriptions would be good.

hey there..thought i would give you my 2 cents on what I love from my gf..I absolutely love to lie on the bed and for my gf to very slowly undress me...taking it nice and slow..as she starts to peel my clothes off, i love it when she starts licking me ever so gently all over....licking my neck, from ear to ear is absolutely great...licking my nipples is a big turn for me and very enjoyable too...once she gets done giving me an ever so pleasurable tonguie bath, i love her to get the masage oil out, and start massaging me nice and slow....now this may go a bit too far if you have not been with a guy for long..but i absolutely love it when she massages my butt and slips a finger or two deep inside.....anyways, hope this helped...

Luke

 

[lik_m_ade]

SweetEricka and Luke_25 seem to have covered the how-to's better than I ever could. So let me contribute my $0.30 for "why" men like foreplay but don't always show it. (gotta cover inflation, so $0.02 doesn't cut it)

I learned this solely through total self interest (à la Adam Smith). I simply cannot get enough of a woman's body when I'm with her, loving to nibble, lick, caress and all the other good stuff in my sig.

Extreme arousal is the result of foreplay in my case, and I've never known any woman who didn't respond in some fashion to what I was doing (nails across my skin, kisses, talk-dirty or not, fondling and caressing that made me crazy) in order to "complete the circuit" between us as it were. So by giving good foreplay I got to learn what receiving great foreplay feels like. And yes, when a woman initiates with me, I definitely "complete the circuit".

Some men seem hesitant or anxious simply because of fear-fear that they have to "always be in charge" or that they don't know how to do it "right". Or that letting go and enjoying themselves will look silly to their SO (or fb for that matter).

If a woman wants to initiate foreplay that a man will love, she makes sure there's lots of time for it (hours suggested), clearly communicates with her words and body what he's doing right and how it makes her feel, and listens/watches him as she tries things and asks questions, and keeps copious notes on the responses (in her *head*, lol), she'll have a man who loves to give/receive caring and attention, and who appreciates her for her foreplay (and likely *midplay* between rounds)

So EC, look, listen, touch and enjoy.

Cheers,

Lik

 

[Eilan]

There seems to be a lot of women coming here asking advice about their men instead of just asking him. Any women out there care to explain this?
Is there something that prevents you from asking or is it just a women thing?

Um, men do this just as often as women do. Stick around and you'll see.

My husband would kick me if I even thought about touching his ears. Or his feet, for that matter.

 

[phoenix1224]

I can only speak for myself, but...

I like having my neck nibbled/bitten.

I like having my nipples played with (kissed/licked/pinched/nibbled/bitten).

I shave my head and I like having my head played with (rubbed/lightly scratched).

That's all I can think of for now. *shrug*

 

[robmcg]

What I like

As I've got older I increasingly like women to take the lead and to have more mutual foreplay as opposed to getting it on straight away. What I like - being kissed, stroked, having her rub her body and nipples all over me, having her lick and then suck my nipples, having my nipples gently bitten. Having my penis sucked etc

Frankly it is all good and reciprocating is fantastic - it's all about being loved and loving her. Penetration is great but without the foreplay it's somewhat mechanical - wish I'd realised this years ago LOL

 

[human_male]

Not that anyone ever pays any attention to anything I say, ever... but that there sounds good. Neck kissing is great. All kinds of kissing and touching is great. The main things you should keep in mind is you can probably be a bit firmer than what you as a woman might like, we're not quite as sensitive and it doesn't have to be as gentle. And be confident. Act like you know what you want and you know what you're doing. Try not to be all tentative and unsure.

Above all... enthusiasm. Act like you're enjoying it as much as he is.

 

[HardToForget]

I guess i will chime in.
I am not a big fan of attention to my neck... just isn't that great.
I love my ears bitten licked, and having a tongue stuck in.
(me and my girl are opposites on those two points)
I love having my nipples played with in any form.
I love being touched by any/all parts if her body, and encouraged to indulge in their taste and texture
I love any attention to my member, but also love attention to its two southern friends, and even their southern... you know.
spankings can be fun... for both of us.
I enjoy my feet and toes touched, licked, ext... (she's not into feet, I however adore her feet and enjoy them very much)...not a problem.
obviously there is nothing better than nice, soft, wet, long kisses; and lots of them

well those are the things I can think of off the top of my head... not including the things that I would feel deprived of if I was not able to do them to her. I think most guys would agree that it is as much fun to give as it is to recieve.

i hope that helps a little, either way i had fun thinking about it...

 

[robertearl]

Absolutely the best thing you can bring with you is enthusiasm. You have that you have it all.

 

[EroticCuriosity]

Thanks folks.

Just wondering how guys like prostate manipulation? If you've tried it, what did it do for you? How did it feel?

 

[rthnck]

Ready to Rumble

Just wondering how guys like prostate manipulation? If you've tried it, what did it do for you? How did it feel?

If EroticCuriosity is ready to go down this path then there is no advice that isn't already here that can make it better for her guy. She has all the tools she needs.

1. Enthusiasm
2. Willingness to try new things
3. Willingness to read about and explore new sensations
4. Desire to please

It's my experience that women respond so much better to instructions from their mates. "More of this, touch me there, do it like this, etc.". Men seem to take it as a criticism of their prowess while women respond by redoubling their efforts and do their best to do what feels good for their partner. The flip side of that is that many women seem to have trouble communicating what they like but that's a discussion for another thread.

I for one love any sex activity that is long, slow and lingering. Give me an agonizingly slow BJ anyday over a quickie and prostate massage is right up there. If your partner is willing to let you master this technique he will be putty in your hands.

 

[muscles525644]

I didn't read all the replies so if this is a repeat sorry.
Personally I really like when my girlfriend plays with my ears, blowing on them or biting them something along those lines. Foreplay is important to me though, the longer your guy is hard the better sex will be. and if you're kinky like my girlfriend and I and like him to cum on you he'll have a lot more stored up the more you tease him. Personally I really like the anticipation, slowly stripping for him is a surefire way to get him going, but just make sure that you don't jump right into sex, tease a little. Hopefully this helps a little, but don't let people fool you, at least in my experience foreplay is always good, you don't want sex to become, "well lets go" drop pants and do it, lol.

 

[Mazuri]

Just wondering how guys like prostate manipulation? If you've tried it, what did it do for you? How did it feel?

I'm sure it depends on the guy. Have you asked him about this? It's a major fantasy of mine but there's no way in hell hubby would ever let me venture that far south

 

[only_more_so]

Hi,

I'm rather inexperienced with men and wondered what you guys like from a woman (apart from the obvious!). I'm thinking along the lines of kissing, necking and ear nibbling, that kind of thing. What do you guys like? Descriptions would be good.

For me, one of the things that turns me on the most is when the woman is clearly turned on. This includes things like rubbing her crotch against my leg while we're kissing (and coincidently rubbing against my cock), dragging her nipple across my chest or dropping it in my mouth. Although I have to say ear nibbling and neck kissing work just dandy too.