Get her in the mood

[Guy23456]

At the risk of sounding greedy, my girlfriend doesnt have sex with me as much as I'd like to. Of course as much as I'd like to is around twice a day. (I know thats a little unrealistic and I'd be willing to compromise for at least 3-4 times a week.) My girlfriend has a very low sex drive and after one time she might not be in the mood again for another week or so. Is there any way to get a woman really turned on, despite not being in the mood at all. For women reading this....what could a guy do to you to make you go from nothing to horny in an instant? Thank you for your help.

 

[Eilan]

Welcome to Lit.

So, tell us more about you two.

How old are you?
How long have you been together?
Do you live together? Any children?
Do you two have outside stressors, such as work, school, etc., that might be an issue?
What was her upbringing like (in other words, was she raised to view sex negatively)?
What have her past sexual experiences (other than those with you) been like?

Sorry to be so nosy, but it does help if we have a little more info to work with.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

If she feels pushed to have sex, she will push the other way.

Is she on any medication?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Sexual incompatability can destroy a relationship in a multitude of ways. If the two of you haven't had some lengthy and serious talks about this then you should. If you have had those talks and this isn't going to change, well ... stay at the risk of your own long term dissatisfaction.

Good luck.

 

[Justme99]

Once a week would be a fantastic improvement for myself, and for many people. Have you tried politely and gently asking?

 

[curlygirly32]

Is she a very loving person (outside of sex?)

I have been with men who only seemed to be be "nice"...either verbally or physically, if they wanted to have sex right THEN. It got very tiresome and predictable. If she's the the type of woman who enjoys physical affection (outside of sex), maybe you could start that way. Hugs, back rubs, touching that isn't overtly sexual, compliment her. Make sure when you are having sex, that she is getting satisfied as well as you. Get her to tell you what she wants sexually, and make sure she gets it.

 

[Eilan]

Resentments or conflicts outside the bedroom often manifest themselves in the bedroom.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

I think he posted and ran ...

 

[bgft24]

First post !

Lets see what I like to do , is start with a nice shoulder rub. Make sure you do a good job, just dont be fast at it, start slow.

As you work the shoulders , start kissing the back of her neck, and ears. Just nice and soft, be sure to also trail your fingers lightly up her neck as well, be sure to softly touch the little soft diviot at the bottom of her neck.

Move on down, rubbing the arms, and sides, massage her arms, hands, lower back. at the same time keep rubbing the shoulders, and lightly touching her with your finger tips.

anyway, this has worked for me in the past.

 

[Eilan]

I think he posted and ran ...

Yeah, I was starting to think so last night.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Yeah, I was starting to think so last night.

His wife is probably a Litster and she found him out