... get someone to consider "watersports"?

[PreenQueen]

Very unusual for me not to lurk, but I had a question which might sound a bit perverted, yet I was seriously wondering, and ... please don't judge me too harshly.

As the title implies, I'm quite intrigued by quite a special, and possibly controversial, sexual practise, and I'm afraid it might not be shared ; actually, I know it isn't as he had a rather disgusted (but amused) reaction when I mentionned having watched that kind of videos. And of course I wouldn't force him to do anything, but somehow introduce him to the idea of ... well, even just considering it.
We have an open sexuality, no major boundaries : he's okay with soft bondage, spanking... anything that either hurts a little or feels degrading. And what makes me wonder is that he suggested that I may want more, and even though watersports may not have been on his mind, I'd really like to confess I'd want more than just watching that kind of porn or reading related stories on here.
Is there any chance he could understand? Or maybe change his mind, as we're still quite young? I really want to avoid freaking him out...

Any advice, based on experience or not, would be highly appreciated, and thank you for reading all this, I'm sorry I rambled so.

 

[Topher]

Don't push it. The seed is planted. There are many things that used to disgust me that turn me on now, so there may be hope. However, though I think sexual appetites might be a bit elastic, you can only stretch them so far, and it's different for everyone. There might just be a solid wall where watersports is for him.
Whatever the case - again, don't push it.

Btw, I think that non-consentual sex of all sorts is about the only taboo topic here - that and penis size.

 

[PreenQueen]

Oh no, no, no, I certainly wouldn't insist on it, I'm far too grateful for the relationship we have to compromise it for just sex, which is important but still secondary. I'm a bit too horny maybe, but not crazy.

Thanks a lot anyway, for both the advice and that last indication.

 

[Topher]

You didn't say who would be the peeee and who the peeer ;-)

I am paruretic, so I would have trouble being the latter.

 

[Topher]

Oh, and by the way, by "don't push it" I didn't necessarily mean that you would insist on it, I just meant that you might want to consider bringing it up every now and then, but only very, very subtly. That's what I meant by "don't push it" - don't keep bringing it up.

If you do it right, however, you might condition his exposure to it in such a way that it might begin to seem like something he would consider. I couldn't tell you how to expose him to the idea without being obvious about it (without pushing it); it would require some artistry.

 

[PreenQueen]

It sounds a little silly to say, I admit it...
But anyway, being peed on is what intrigues me the most, but then again... maybe I wouldn't be able to handle it anyway, I have so little experience after all.

 

[PreenQueen]

I'm so silly, I hadn't noticed that other post... And it took me ages to realise, what a dumbass!

Anyway, it's something I've only mentioned once in a conversation about porn and silly stuff we had seen, so it really didn't seem like I was bringing it up purposely, with an idea in mind. That's why he has no clue about my silly fantasy...
And you're right about it beign subtle and difficult to achieve, it's not exactly easy to mention while sounding casual... Oh well, being 18 he has time ahead to change his mind, I guess waiting is the only solution sadly...

 

[Ms_Kat]

A lot depends on the framework that you put the issue in. Quite often when I think of watersports, I get the image of people urinating in each other's mouths. Of course, that is only one kind of watersports.

My rather limited experience with this is through a special I saw on wolves. It seems that the dominant wolf uses urine to mark the other members of the pack. This is why they can identify themselves by scent.

Several days later, when my husband and I were alone by the pool, I slipped over and sat astride him and whispered, "I'm going to mark you with my scent." Then I relieved myself on his chest and rubbed it on him. Although I don't normally consider urine to be erotic, it was a turn on for both of us at this time.

Another time I mixed a very small portion of my urine into his cologne. We were going to a party and there's a woman in his office that has a habit of finding ways to hang on him. I thought my scent might change things. Although no one could smell urine on him, the woman did not make a nuisance of herself. Since then, I mix a little bit in every bottle.



Hugs,


Kat

 

[PreenQueen]

That cologne thing is really quite amusing, I'll keep that in mind...

I understand that it could be something to try under very specific circumstances, and certainly not in the middle of a regular intercourse ; I don't think it'd be easy to ask him to do that unexpectedly. That example is quite helpful and encouraging, yet I'm not sure he's ready at all, so it probably requires both the right conditions and time sadly.

I'll still take it as a sign of hope, thank you.

 

[PrincessHoney]

have you tried reading him a few stories??? slip in a "golden" story and see whether it turns him on....

 

[PreenQueen]

Simple yet possibly efficient...
I should have known that, having read so many of those stories here...
Thanks!

 

[PrincessHoney]

i may be bias..... but there is one called Desperation (wrote by me) in the toys and mastr section...


nothing too wild but migth be a good opening

 

[Mysty61]

Part of a good relationship is communication, and that means being able to discuss things openly and without judgement. You should be able to discuss this with him, tell him your desires, and fantasies. An open discussion needs imput from both sides, and he should give you his honest reaction to what you want. He may agree or disagree. Thern you decide where you want to go with your desire. With good communication, not only with this subject, but with everything relating to your relationship you will find you become much closer, and more able to handle problems.

 

[PreenQueen]

Thank you, I understand total honesty and openness really do matter in a relationship, and I really think that's what we have, only I'm sort of refreining myself from saying something which he may not mind hearing, but which I'm worried about, as I used to be quite shocked by watersports not so long ago. But provided I'm not too abrupt and do it progressively, I guess there's nothing to lose.


Oh and I really enjoyed that story, really realistic, and soft enough for him to appreciate it I guess, thanks!

 

[PrincessHoney]

glad u liked it..........

i like to write what i like to read

 

[PreenQueen]

And I like to read what I like/would like to do...

 

[PrincessHoney]

for me its more about the fantasty.........

but the reading stories is definately a good way to gauge the reaction

 

[scmale2000]

True Story

I was in the same situation as your bf and went a different way. My girlfriend at the time came in on me as I was peeing one night and just said she wanted to watch. A few nights later she came into the bathroom with me to "hold it" as I peed. Some time later, we were drinking wine one night and she started talking about the pee thing. She had never watched a guy pee and she admitted it turned her on for some reason. I asked if just watching got her going or if the idea of being peed on is what she was getting at. She was silent for a long time before she simply said "Both." Seeing as how I will try anything twice with someone I trust, it was an unspoken plan after that. We drank more wine.......a LOT more wine, neither of us going to the bathroom for almost two hours. Of course by this time, we were buzzing and about to burst. She said she had to go and so we both got up and headed for the bathroom. We stripped down, kissing, licking, sucking, moaning. I began to finger her and, as she came, a stream of pee flowed out. I picked her up and placed her in the tub, fingers still inside of her. She came again like an animal and, after she calmed down and could breathe, she got on her knees and asked me to pee on her. With a hardon, it took forever to do. You can piss with an erection but it takes time and aiming. It came in drips and drops until I was semihard; then the flow started. She aimed it all over her but didn't want to drink it or anything. She fingered her cunt as she aimed my cock with the other hand. Once the flow had stopped, I was rock hard again. I reached over, got a rubber, rolled it down, and then we fucked like beasts, standing (and trying not to slip) in the tub. The shower after that (and the fucking after that) was a blast too. It was simply a fun, kinky thing we went with. She moved shortly after that, so we didn't revisit GS.

An openmind is the best thing you can have in sex. While I may not think I would be into something, I would never dismiss it out of hand if my lover wanted to try a new thing.

 

[PreenQueen]

Oh wow, I must admit it was quite a detailed description, terribly exciting, and very encouraging overall ; in such conditions indeed, it may be easier for him, since it wouldn't require so much from him apart from peeing... Although I realise it must not be easy to pee on the girl you love and respect, so I'll be patient and will perharps unpurposely walk in on him in the toilets... He saw me peeing already after all, and seemed okay with it.
Thank you!

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Another experience...

Ok - so I was like "Pee? Yuck!!!" for many years, till and ex, who I was head ove rheels for told me she liked it. It took me a few months to warm up to the idea, and I had all kinds of doubts and fears. We had already had unprotected sex, anal sex and oral sex, so really, how unsanitary were "showers" anyway?

(an aside - one major concern I had was that we had a cat who had marking issues we were trying to stop - was afraid of encouraging him inadvertently)

So one day, I got up the courage. We were having intercourse, towel on the floor (she was quite the gusher with a good orgasm - damn, I miss that), and she wanted me to pee inside of her. I was momentarily surprised, but slowly softened up enough to do it. She wriggled, squirmed and nearly screamed with pleasure. Far be it for me to deprive the woman I love of that kind of orgasm!

Later on, she wanted to pee on me, with me inside of her, so I consented. I have to admit, all that warmth bathing my hard cock makes me hard to recall, and made for one intensely satisfying orgasm myself.

Would I do it again? Sure, with the right lady, but only once love is the emotion we share, and only if she wants it.

 

[PreenQueen]

The situation I'm in is in a way similar, as we've both experimented quite a lot, and there's much love and trust, yet... I wouldn't want him to accept just to please me (which he could do more easily), I'd like for it to be a turn-on for both of us... But your experience shows thinking about it helps, and I haven't given him the occasion to do so, being unable to talk to him, so maybe it could help. I appreciate your help, thank you.

 

[schatz]

I would just say that it never hurts to ask. When my ex wanted me to tie her up and spank her (i had not done it before), I was wary but after she reassured me that it was something she would like and not meant to humiliate her I gave it a whack (pun intended). It took me a little while to get used to but later became a semi-regular part of our lovemaking. In turn I had also asked her if I could watch her pee and she agreed but after trying, she decided it wasn't really her thing. So as long as you can talk openly with one another, it doesn't hurt to ask or try something once. Just let him know it is something that you would like to try and assure him that it won't alter your opinion of him.

 

[scmale2000]

I didn't think I missed GS but it did bring back some memories. I am glad you liked my description of events, by the way. Finding openminded people of any sort is such a turnon!

 

[ReadyOne]

Next time you two are taking a shower together, get some hot and heavy kissing and caressing going. Stradle his leg and hump your clit with it. Then tell him you have to go, let loose on his leg, and the tell him how good an orgasm it was.

The water will eaily clean things up, he will see that pee can be rewarding, and if it really backfires, claim you thought you were ejaculating as a sensation of having to pee generally preceeds the squirt.

BTW, you might also have a discussion some day about how pee down the shower drain goes the same place as pee down the toilet. The pipes from each generally connect a couple of feet under the floor. If you can get him to pee in the shower you may get past a minor psychological hurdel.

 

[gumby123]

I don't go for the pee thing, but isn't is unhealthy to pee in someone? If we're in the shower and he wants me to pee on him, whatever. But only in the shower.