How to escape an abusive bf?

[Donald1961]

seriously call police file a restraining order. when he shows up call them.

A restraining order don't work ask all the dead women ,,man do you actually believe all the shit that comes out of your mouth just like Schumer and Jefferies

 

[apantyhoselovr]

A restraining order don't work ask all the dead women ,,man do you actually believe all the shit that comes out of your mouth just like Schumer and Jefferies

well i'm not gonna lie to myself so yes i do. i was avoiding telling them to buy a .38 and next bullshit he pulls start poppin.

 

[flameinsidesoul]

I have the same boyfriend that I've been with for about 2 years, and now we're both out of school, he has been abusive to me and I'm worried that if I decided to leave him, he will spread the videos and pictures he has of me. My parents would kill me if they saw

Your Safety Matters More Than His Threats

I hear you. I want you to know, what you're feeling right now? Fear, shame, being trapped? That's exactly what abusers want you to feel. It's how they keep control. But you deserve so much more than a life lived in fear of someone else's cruelty.

Let me be direct with you, because this matters:

1. You are not alone.
There are organizations and people who deal with this exact situation every single day. They know how to help you leave safely, and they know how to handle the threat of intimate images being shared.

2. The law is on your side.
In many places, sharing intimate images without consent, often called "revenge porn", is illegal. If he threatens you with this, he's not just being cruel. He's breaking the law. Document everything. Save texts. Screenshots. Evidence.

3. Your parents might surprise you.
I know you're terrified of their reaction. But most parents, when faced with the truth of abuse, want to protect their child, not punish them. You deserve to be safe, and they deserve the chance to help you.

Here's what you can do right now:

· Reach out to a domestic abuse hotline. They can help you create a safety plan. (In the US: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. They also have online chat.)
· Do not warn him you're leaving until you're already safe.
· If you can, quietly gather important documents, money, and essentials somewhere he won't find them.
· Consider telling one trusted person, a friend, a family member, someone who can be with you during this.

You are not what he says you are. You are not the videos. You are not the shame he tries to wrap you in. You are a person who deserves to wake up without fear.

Please reach out to professionals who can guide you through this. You don't have to figure it out alone.

— Someone who believes you

 

[appalachianplay1]

In addition to the above, you can also go into your nearest emergency room. We have resources and the connections with organizations to help.

Also, I assure you that actual parents would prefer any scenario when the alternative is a dead child.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

In addition to the above, you can also go into your nearest emergency room. We have resources and the connections with organizations to help.

Also, I assure you that actual parents would prefer any scenario when the alternative is a dead child.

Absolutely!