Getting Girlfriend to wash down there

[VictorWard]

Here's the situation:
I have been with my girlfriend for almost three years now, and there has been something I've been wanting to tell her something since very early in the relationship.
I want her to wash her pussy and ass with soap. Some days it can be very smelly. So much that I can smell her from a couple feet away even when she is fully dressed.
Now I know that each woman has their own scent, but this is not the problem. I have been in the shower with her, and she doesn't wash down there.

I just can't see a way of doing this without making her mad. So mad that I probably wouldn't need to worry about the it because she probably won't let me back near that area again.

I have tried to do it for her in the shower, but she says that the soap stings her and she doesn't like the feel of it down there.

Has anybody had a similar problem before?

Thanks.

 

[EJFan]

there's a "how to get your partner to wash" (or something like that) thread on the first page of this board. lots o' great suggestions there.

the preeminent thought seems to be making it part of your foreplay. suggest taking a shower or bath together... whether either of you need it or not, it'll be a great, fun experience.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by VictorWard
Here's the situation:
I have been with my girlfriend for almost three years now, and there has been something I've been wanting to tell her something since very early in the relationship.
I want her to wash her pussy and ass with soap. Some days it can be very smelly. So much that I can smell her from a couple feet away even when she is fully dressed.
Now I know that each woman has their own scent, but this is not the problem. I have been in the shower with her, and she doesn't wash down there.

I just can't see a way of doing this without making her mad. So mad that I probably wouldn't need to worry about the it because she probably won't let me back near that area again.

I have tried to do it for her in the shower, but she says that the soap stings her and she doesn't like the feel of it down there.

Has anybody had a similar problem before?

Thanks.

Excuse me? You've been going out with her for three years and you can smell her a few feet away when she's fully dressed and you haven't told her yet??!! Man if you were my boyfriend I'd be more upset at you for NOT telling me that long than I would that you did. Sure I'd be embarassed to discuss it, but know you were only concerned for my well being. The REAL embarassment would be imagining ALL the people I'd been around in the last three years and what they must have thought.

Tell her...kindly, tactfully, with all the love in your heart for her coming through in your voice and your actions. If it's just a cleanliness issue maybe a milder soap/body wash won't sting. It might be a health issue...did that cross your mind?

Sorry don't mean to come across harshly but I just stepped in her shoes for a few minutes....and trust me, I'd rather know than not. So please just talk to her.

 

[OneSublimeGuy]

Here's the situation:

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I have tried to do it for her in the shower, but she says that the soap stings her and she doesn't like the feel of it down there.

I would try to find a product that does the job without discomfort.
Soap is caustic. Maybe a douche or some other rinse would be more
pleasant to use. A gf I had didn't smell but the taste was rather strong so we used to go to the store together and get a strawberry flavored disposable douche. It was a turn-on 'cause the female clerk at the register knew right away that when we went home I was going to eat my gf out. Anyway, it made a world of difference. I could eat her pussy for a long time with no unpleasantness at all. It made it fun to make her cum.

 

[VictorWard]

Re: Re: Getting Girlfriend to wash down there

Excuse me? You've been going out with her for three years and you can smell her a few feet away when she's fully dressed and you haven't told her yet??!! Man if you were my boyfriend I'd be more upset at you for NOT telling me that long than I would that you did. Sure I'd be embarassed to discuss it, but know you were only concerned for my well being. The REAL embarassment would be imagining ALL the people I'd been around in the last three years and what they must have thought.

Tell her...kindly, tactfully, with all the love in your heart for her coming through in your voice and your actions. If it's just a cleanliness issue maybe a milder soap/body wash won't sting. It might be a health issue...did that cross your mind?

Sorry don't mean to come across harshly but I just stepped in her shoes for a few minutes....and trust me, I'd rather know than not. So please just talk to her.

Well, I may have exaggerated how bad it can smell. It's not constantly smelly enough to smell from a few feet away, but sometimes, it is.

The health issue did cross my mind earlier on in the relationship, but I know that it isn't the case. I have been in the shower with her and I know that she doesn't lather up in that area.

 

[VictorWard]

there's a "how to get your partner to wash" (or something like that) thread on the first page of this board. lots o' great suggestions there.

Oops ... my bad

 

[catalina_francisco]

Soap is bad for that area, particularly as in aging the skin over the years. Gentle soap alternatives, preferrably non-perfumed, are safer for not only genital areas, but the whole body. Perhaps you could order something like Sorbolene online and seduce her into the shower, then tell her you had been so concerned about her reaction to soap you had bought this product for her to try which you had heard about and which is dermatologically recommended (which it was to me and several friends and family who have soap allergies). That way you do not have to go into the odour problem (unless of course this does not work in getting erh to wash), and you end up possibly impressing ehr with your care and concern. Worth a try and might avoid offending as well.

Catalina

 

[tigerjen]

1. using a douche is not a good idea, as it gets rid of
"good bacteria" from the vaginal area.

2. Using a very mild/gentle soap or body wash, such
as Dove, could help. Soaps such as Ivory are very
harsh on the skin.

It's very important to wash down there, and especially
when a woman has her monthly period.



PS......maybe if there is truly a problem down in her private
area, she should see a dr. or her ob-gyn ASAP.....

 

[SweetErika]

Soap is bad for that area, particularly as in aging the skin over the years. Gentle soap alternatives, preferrably non-perfumed, are safer for not only genital areas, but the whole body. Perhaps you could order something like Sorbolene online and seduce her into the shower, then tell her you had been so concerned about her reaction to soap you had bought this product for her to try which you had heard about and which is dermatologically recommended (which it was to me and several friends and family who have soap allergies). That way you do not have to go into the odour problem (unless of course this does not work in getting erh to wash), and you end up possibly impressing ehr with your care and concern. Worth a try and might avoid offending as well.

Catalina

I like this solution a lot!

I'm really sensitive to soaps, but I did find a brand called Pure & Natural that is very mild. I've been advised by doctors to stay away from douching, any soaps or products with a fragrance, and washing anything beyond the external area (don't stick soap or soapy fingers up the vagina).

Maybe you could ask a doctor or call your local sexual health clinic (like Planned Parenthood) and ask what they'd recommend for female external genital cleansing. Sometimes a bath is better than a shower too, so perhaps you could try that together.

If the soap thing doesn't work, tell her you're concerned about her health, and would like her to see a gynocologist right away. If she won't do that, you might want to take a long look at the relationship.

 

[DarkWizard?]

Maybe she just smells strong and you haven't seen her clean down there because she doesn't do it while she's in the shower with you?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Below is the link to the thread that was mentioned earlier. Also keep in mind that many people are simply very sensitive to certain odors. She may have a pussy that smells like roses to other guys, but something in that odor sets your particular scent glands into a conniption fit.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=309839

 

[norseprince]

i would give her oral a LOT, and very thoroughly. This is truthfully what i would do. i LOVE the smell and taste of a woman. it would be my pleasure to keep her cleansed down there.
norseprince