girlfriend won't let me watch

[WARMACHINE]

I see you guys didn't gather the meaning of my post. I agree with everyone here, the analysis is 100% correct, but I was encouraging him to see if she A) really cares about him and B) determine if this is a truly open relationship IF she does in fact care.

The way to do that is reverse the roles, bring you home some ass, doesn't matter who, doesn't matter what they look like, in fact, as ugly as it sounds, HECK....go make some unattractive girl's day by bringing her home and fucking her. Make your SO sit out in the living room while you pound away at said girl. At the very least you might feel like you are getting some sort of twisted satisfaction.

I got $10 that says he will have more fun with someone who actually gives a shit about him. Sounds like what he has now is just a sham.

 

[SexyChele]

I see you guys didn't gather the meaning of my post. I agree with everyone here, the analysis is 100% correct, but I was encouraging him to see if she A) really cares about him and B) determine if this is a truly open relationship IF she does in fact care.

The way to do that is reverse the roles, bring you home some ass, doesn't matter who, doesn't matter what they look like, in fact, as ugly as it sounds, HECK....go make some unattractive girl's day by bringing her home and fucking her. Make your SO sit out in the living room while you pound away at said girl. At the very least you might feel like you are getting some sort of twisted satisfaction.

I got $10 that says he will have more fun with someone who actually gives a shit about him. Sounds like what he has now is just a sham.

You know, you just keep digging yourself deeper and deeper. You really don't get exactly why your comments would be offensive to a lot of women, do you?

"Skanks"? "Fatties are okay"? ..."make some unattractive girl's day"? You might find this really difficult to believe, but women who are considered less than the ideal by societal standards are not as quick to jump into bed with some guy who doesn't give a shit about them as you seem to think. In fact, most women who feel unattractive or self-conscious about their body image are less likely to hook up with some asshole who just wants a quick bang to make his girlfriend jealous. And even if she doesn't suspect it at first, the possible emotional pain this guy could be putting another woman through would make him a first class asshole - and deserving of having his balls tightly tied (and yanked hard!) to his girlfriend's leash.

In an open relationship, people don't just go out and find people to fuck as though they were dogs in heat. They are usually more discriminating than that. There is a difference between cultivating an open relationship (if that is even what this fellow wants to do) and inciting jealousy. And trying to state that using women that to you, evidently, are not worthy of a bona fide relationship is pathetic and cruel.

 

[WARMACHINE]

You know, you just keep digging yourself deeper and deeper. You really don't get exactly why your comments would be offensive to a lot of women, do you?

"Skanks"? "Fatties are okay"? ..."make some unattractive girl's day"? You might find this really difficult to believe, but women who are considered less than the ideal by societal standards are not as quick to jump into bed with some guy who doesn't give a shit about them as you seem to think. In fact, most women who feel unattractive or self-conscious about their body image are less likely to hook up with some asshole who just wants a quick bang to make his girlfriend jealous. And even if she doesn't suspect it at first, the possible emotional pain this guy could be putting another woman through would make him a first class asshole - and deserving of having his balls tightly tied (and yanked hard!) to his girlfriend's leash.

In an open relationship, people don't just go out and find people to fuck as though they were dogs in heat. They are usually more discriminating than that. There is a difference between cultivating an open relationship (if that is even what this fellow wants to do) and inciting jealousy. And trying to state that using women that to you, evidently, are not worthy of a bona fide relationship is pathetic and cruel.

I would only be digging myself "deeper and deeper" if I cared what you think.

Newsflash, I DON'T. Probably because you are a fatty and/or skank.

 

[SexyChele]

I would only be digging myself "deeper and deeper" if I cared what you think.

Newsflash, I DON'T. Probably because you are a fatty and/or skank.

Ah, the petulant child comes out. Making infantile judgements will get you far in life - not! Adult. Very adult. And hardly worth the waste of anyone's time on here.

Ta!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[midwestyankee]

I would only be digging myself "deeper and deeper" if I cared what you think.

Newsflash, I DON'T. Probably because you are a fatty and/or skank.

Oops! Sorry!

I thought I was reading my way around Lit looking for intellingent life, or at least a reasonable facsimile thereof.

Pink Orchid - makes you want to [fill in your own sign of wretched displeasure here] doesn't it?

mwy

 

[lovechild27]

but I was encouraging him to see if she A) really cares about him and B) determine if this is a truly open relationship IF she does in fact care.

at this point, I dont think it matters if she would care. He shouldnt have to bring home another girl to screw to get some respect out of her or find out if she cares. Its pretty obvious she is treating him like shit...so why 'test' her to find out anything?

 

[ldlarry52]

Your relationship sounds like a lot of the cockhold stories posted on Literotica except this isn't fantasy it's real life. I like reading slut wife girlfriend stories and the thought of my wife fucking another guy is sexy. However, the reality of such a relationship may not be as exciting and satistfying as it is in fantasy stories.

Sounds like you need to continue talking and if you really want this girl, then you'll have accept the fact she is a true slut. At least she isn't against you having extra pussy. Perhaps you could set a video camera up and watch her in secret.

Bottom line you need more than hot sex to have a permanent, loving relationship. She's been honest with you, she wants to have more men in her life and she likes her sex one on one behind closed doors.

Accept the arrangement, work toward adjustments, enjoy what you have, but prepare your self for the eventual disappointment that she won't change and she will most likely find someone else to shack up with.
LDLarry52

 

[snarl711]

Thank to everyone's advice. I don't think I could go and find someone to sleep with just to get back at her. My goal is to find a way to become a bigger part of her life and not to get her angry, although she tells me I'm free to have sex with others as long as it's discreet and safe. Not only that, but I don't want to sleep with others. I just want her. I also don't want people to think she's a skank. She don't bang every guy she meets. I'd say maybe she might sleep with another guy a couple times a month, but most often it's from the same group of guys.

I sometimes wonder if it's even right for me wanting to watch her have sex with other guys. I think the reason is that I find her so sexy that I just can't get enough of her, even if it isn't me that's with her, but I still want to be somehow included. I do also very much love her and want to be with her.

So anyway, I'm going to try the talking route (again), maybe this time I can somehow convince her and make her understand where I'm coming from.

 

[Wulf7]

Snarl, I hope it works out for you but I seriously think you should take a step back and get some perspective. It doesn't sound like she wants to change her lifestyle and your relationship to what you want it to be.

 

[lovechild27]

I hope it goes well...but keep it in your mind you may not hear what you want to. If after all this time she hasnt changed..I wouldnt get my hopes up to high hun.

good luck. I hope you can find the stregnth to leave her and get on with life.

 

[Lust Engine]

Hmmm, it seems to me as well that you are digging yourself deeper and deeper.

So go ahead, call me a fatty and a skank. I dare ya.

Never ever...but I wouldn't mind calling you up for a quick romp in the hay!

 

[DuckLover]

You mentioned earlier that she doesn't want to let you watch because she's uncomfortable with the idea. That discomfort might be a good place to start a conversation-- explore why she's uncomfortable. Is she worried about jealousy? Shy? Feeling guilty? If she's just uncomfortable with you being in the room, but not with you knowing about it, perhaps she'd be willing to videotape herself with the other guy and you could watch the tape. Perhaps start by videotaping yourselves together and watching that tape. Then watch the tape of her and the other guy. It's possible that she'll be more comfortable with you being around (or involved) if she has seen your honest reaction to watching her fuck somebody else.

 

[sheath]

You mentioned earlier that she doesn't want to let you watch because she's uncomfortable with the idea. That discomfort might be a good place to start a conversation-- explore why she's uncomfortable. Is she worried about jealousy? Shy? Feeling guilty? If she's just uncomfortable with you being in the room, but not with you knowing about it, perhaps she'd be willing to videotape herself with the other guy and you could watch the tape. Perhaps start by videotaping yourselves together and watching that tape. Then watch the tape of her and the other guy. It's possible that she'll be more comfortable with you being around (or involved) if she has seen your honest reaction to watching her fuck somebody else.

Wow.

DuckLover, you have to be one of the most understanding and respectful people on this forum.

I like your style.

S.

 

[DuckLover]

Wow.

DuckLover, you have to be one of the most understanding and respectful people on this forum.

I like your style.

S.

I'm both flattered and honored, Sheath! I have such a great deal of respect for you, and the help and understanding you show others on these boards, that your comment means a great deal to me. Thank you.