Giving Head and Submissiveness

[girlygirl_76]

As a chic, every guy is fun to go down on... Some because they are confident and powerful and make me feel feminine and safe and I want to pleasure them out of gratitude. Some because they are insecure and vulnurable and I like to force them to push their limits and cross boundries for me. It depends on the guy. Some men are are men... some men are toys.

 

[neonflux]

I agree with you neon, I enjoy being active or passive in oral sex with both men and women. I don't look at it as being sub or dom though. I simply see it as being the top or the bottom in that specific time frame. And the roles can switch at any time. Giving the other person pleasure is to give them a gift, and I like getting gifts too.

Don't think the GB would see what we see in this thread....they are too busy sucking on lemons.

Yes it is great to be "queer". I like having the best of both worlds

 

[mharry]

giving head

Hi.
Dont know if my oppinion meens anything to anyone I'm a male 41 very happily married not long after my wife and I got together she told me she was attracted to other women, of course I was over the moon, and used the oppertunity to tell her that I was really turned on by Big cocks and would love to see what it was like to suck on one, to my pleasure this didnt fase her one bit on the contary she said it turned her on.
We decided to give a threesome a go the man had to be young with a big cock, luckily we found a great 24 year olg guy who was up for having fun with both of us, we had an absolute fantastic time mywife loved the attention of two guys, she also loved sitting back and watching two guys together, now to the point i sent this reply, when i have someone sucking my cock i like to be quiet forcefull and try to get it right down there throats i would say this does make you feel very dominant, however I really enjoyed sucking on this guys big cock and really wanted him to fuck my face and push his cock into my throat, strangly I didnt feel submissive I just wanted it to be really good for him I wanted to give him a blows job better than any woman, I was enjoying it as much as he and my wife, i dont think of my self as gay in anyway Bisexual yes.
I would love to know what everyone thinks of that.

 

[kiwisub]

For me personally it is an act of submission only in certain situations.
I am straight and have never found any man attractive or had any desire for a MM encounter However when I am dressed in stockings and panties and in need of being dominated I fantasise about kneeling in front of a man and giving oral sex upon instruction.
I dont consider oral sex either way in a MF FM scenario submissive.

 

[awo]

getting head

I think its neither submisive or dominant.. I can see why some see it as if u get head ur the dominant one but i dont think that accurate.
But all I know is I LOVE GETTING HEAD> 21-m-va.. any takers.. hahah

 

[soccergrrl]

I have on occasion felt submissive while giving, and welcomed the feeling when it happens. Getting doesn't make me feel one way or the other, usually...

 

[lesley4love]

It's all in the way you do it

The thing about oral is who is in control. I love giving oral, because guys really like it, and of course i like being eaten out as well. Some guys want to hold your head and ram their cocks down your throat, that requires a sub and I wouldn't put up with that. What I like is to be able to control the length i take and how fast i want it and whether i swallow or not. That means the guy has to be lying down or sitting, i don't blow guys who are standing up. It's delicious to know you are pleasuring a guy so much (in my experience, they prefer it to fucking) and we girls have so much more control, over how long it lasts when we are licking and sucking. After my guy has shot his load, either in my mouth or over my boobs, I will straddle his face and let him lick me out, masturbating as I do so. I think that's being fairly dominating.

 

[erdave]

giving head is for me submissive

seems natural in a world where i have to be in such control to kneel sometimes in teh bi situation. enjoy your day dave

 

[erdave]

oral servitude

being ourselves

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its hard to perform untoward behavior at least what society dictates as normal but in our marriages we need to grow sexually. we also need we cant change others real intimate feelings. this has been posted before but would like to share a time line in my wifes and I's marriage. we did take a risk but it worked for us.

outside of the bedroom we are a "normal" couple working hard to farm in a small town and yet allow us to feel ourselves.

I was filled with excitement tonight as we prepared for my wife’s weekly visit of her lover. We live and farm in small town Mississippi and hence extracurricular sexual activity is hard find. His name was Mike and had become a regular feature of our lives for the last six months. Over the last year of our nine year marriage my female side had really began to develop. I was frankly letting feelings of femininity take control in my life which had begun during my adolescence years and I had masked over. Being rather small in the penis department, I had always felt maybe it was supposed to be a clit and I began to feel more comfortable during the times I would secretly slip on her panties. Lisa caught me one afternoon and we had a long talk. With some misgivings at first, she agreed to allow me to wear panties and occasional slips and other lingerie but I would have to buy my own. As time continued on, I wore panties with an increased frequency and soon it was 24/7. Our sexual life also changed. She would make inferences regarding her occasional need for a manly lover. She admitted my ability to please her orally was adequate but she was beginning to fantasize of a huge penis also.
Lisa was an elementary school teacher and came home one afternoon and told me one of her fellow teachers had told her during break about a guy she had dated for a while that was a professor of economics and lived close by. Her fellow teacher had related to my wife what a great lover he was and how he was so well developed. Lisa asked me point blank if the professor would agree could we all meet. Nervously I replied, “Sure.” The three of us met over supper and talked with Mike. We relayed our desires to him and he was very accepting. He asked what my role would be and I nervously explained my fetish for panties and my desire to wear them while the threesome was in place. He acknowledged his understanding of my wishes and agreed. He would come to our house in one week.
The prelude for our first night was so nerve wracking as we prepared for the occasion. I had hurried out and bought a new pair of light red bikinis and my wife seemed to take in all in stride. She would giggle at me from our hot tub as I tried to make the living room and the bedroom spotless. The night went very well and all three of us were very satisfied both emotionally and physically. My panties stayed on as I watched them from a recliner in the bedroom. Lisa had multi orgasms, Mike had two orgasms, and my panties were a soaking mess. As Lisa and I talked afterwards, we mutually agreed to ask Mike for a return visit. I asked her how he felt inside her and her reply was, “He touched places, you could only dream of.” She looked at me and said, “I am sorry I didn’t exactly mean that.” I said its ok, “I understand.” She hugged me and asked how it was for me? I looked at her and exclaimed so openly, “Wow! It was awesome Mike was so large.” “I must admit I was sexually very aroused. His cock size must have more than doubled mine and I have to admit envy as he entered you and I watched the look on your face.”
As our flings with Mike continued we all grew closer and shared more intimate feelings about our sexual desires but except for rare occasions I would be very content to watch the explosive intimacy of their romantic throes. Mike and I would have small talk occasionally during interludes in the action and the subject of my femininity came up. I looked at him sitting nude on the couch and then pulled my panties open. I reached my hand to his semi hard cock and then touched mine. I told him I admired his size and related to him my feelings of feeling mine was a clit. He smiled and said, “I understand with yours being tiny why you would feel that way but Lisa say you are a good lover to her. “I know.” I said, “We have some great times in bed just ourselves but she loves the feel of your hardness and size and talks with such enthusiasm about your sexual ability.” Looking at Mike in the eyes, “I am very comfortable with my feelings and maybe one day I will allow myself to………….” Lisa interrupted us and sits down beside us. We chatted for a while longer before he left. The next week my subtleness of watching them was interrupted as Lisa asked me to quickly come to the side of the bed. Mike was fixing to come and as he got close, she told me to pull my panties open and mike stood quickly up and emptied his huge hot load all over my clit. His cum covered me and soaked the panties and before I could control my self I felt a sudden release of my passion as I squirted all over the two of them. Mike and Lisa laughed and again the three of us bonded even closer. I began to participate in a few ways to their lovemaking. I found myself able to lick her clit as he was on top and the results were awesome to her. I also began to imagine his cock in my mouth as I would deliver a lick of the shaft of his cock as I would flick my tongue over her clit. I would wonder if Lisa knew or if Mike had maybe told her. They had begun e-mailing back and forth as our weekly rendezvous’ would continue.
This last week Lisa and I both especially looked forward to Mike’s arrival. She had no school that day and the rain had kept me from our farm fields. She was getting ready and as I was finishing touching up things with the razor, she told me. “Its time for us to open up some more and we are at a period in this where our trust will overcome any preconceptions”. I only looked at her as she smiled at me and handed me a new pair of lacy panties. Mike came over later and we all exchanged greetings. We started out on the couch as usual with Lisa in between us except this time. Lisa smiled and told me to hop up and switch with her so Mike would be in the middle. She began to rub his rapidly enlarging erection in his boxers and then took my hand and placed it with her. She smiled at me and said we are both going to do this together and yes, I said everything together. Mike smiled and stretched out farther as Lisa and I began to massage and play with his huge cock. She slipped his boxers off and then lowered herself and started licking his cock. He responded by an instant leak of precum. She took her hand, placed it on my head and pulled me down and I responded by licking also. Mike began to moan as Lisa slowly worked most of his cock in her mouth and I licked his balls. As he got close to the moment of release she quickly said, “Mike, wait….Dave go to your knees and I immediately knelt before them. Lisa smiled at Mike and said, “Mike I want you to fuck his mouth.” He stood up and I briefly tasted his precum. Lisa took his cock and rubbed it over my face smearing his liquid over my cheeks and chin. She sits back on the couch and said, “It’s my turn to watch.” Mike slapped my face with his huge cock and slowly I took it and began to lick and suck the head. Lisa told me to swirl the head in my mouth. She giggled at me and said, “Suck him!” and I worked to allow his huge member to enter my mouth. I could feel his pulse inside my mouth. With a loud voice she told Mike, “Dave wants to be female so place your hands on the back of his head and fuck him. Make him know your huge cock is in his mouth.” I felt Mike began to reach his peak as the voice of Lisa boomed out, “Don’t pull out, he is to swallow all.” I smiled at her as we both knew I had reached full circle.

we dont recommend this for all couples of course
our marriage is tight right now and assume this action above will not diminsh it. dave and lisa

 

[eroticspank]

Melborne so close yet so far!

The thing about oral is who is in control. I love giving oral, because guys really like it, and of course i like being eaten out as well. Some guys want to hold your head and ram their cocks down your throat, that requires a sub and I wouldn't put up with that. What I like is to be able to control the length i take and how fast i want it and whether i swallow or not. That means the guy has to be lying down or sitting, i don't blow guys who are standing up. It's delicious to know you are pleasuring a guy so much (in my experience, they prefer it to fucking) and we girls have so much more control, over how long it lasts when we are licking and sucking. After my guy has shot his load, either in my mouth or over my boobs, I will straddle his face and let him lick me out, masturbating as I do so. I think that's being fairly dominating.

Wow! Well put! It very much is a question of control....though the guy has to want to give up control to you. The way you described the above (VERY HOT) I can see how just about any guy would love to give up control to you!!

Hmmm!!

ES

 

[luxey313]

For me, giving head can be dominant or submissive, depending if I am with a man or a woman.

With a woman I feel I am doing what I want with her. Getting to take what she is giving me, rather dominant.
When intimate with a woman, I tend to be the dominant party.

With a man, I am submissive and giving him head is the ultimate submission.
Doing everything to please him, serving his cock, getting the chance to do all the "work".

Strange how the brain works.

 

[ronj902]

Either Neither

I'm mostly straight and have a gay friend. He has been sucking my cock for years and I done see him as either submissive or dominate. He gets the same bang out of it as I do

 

[boese_ami]

Not from the GLBT perspective, but my $.02:

It's not the act itself that's submissive, it's the situation. If I'm giving him head because I want to enjoy his reaction and make him squirm (and cum) it makes me feel powerful. Sort of like "look what I can do!" On the other hand if he's got a firm grip on my hair and he's fucking my mouth, then I feel submissive. It's not the blowjob, it's the circumstances.

i agree whole heartedly. when i am getting my cock sucked in a gentle loving manner then i certainly feel like iam on top of the world, but not a Top.

on the other hand if i have fistfuls of hair as i am ramming it down some subs throat, then i am on TOP of the world again....and i love it either way.

Marc

 

[Minouners]

Just to give my response. Like some have said, it all depends on the situation but I have to say for the most part, (for me) I'm the one being dominated (aka submissive). But I do this because I enjoy it. I like having my throat fucked and when a guy grabs my hair and shoves his cock in my mouth, I enjoy it plenty. I'm his little slut in his command. I wear a leash to make sure that we know who's boss. But, that's for me, and not everyone.