Going down on a woman...

[King of Dreams]

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[silverwhisper]

oral sex isn't just about fucking with your tongue. if that's all you're doing, that's the problem right there, man b/c to me, oral sex is all about the clitoris. women's clits are insanely sensitive. seriously, you're better off reserving the tongue for clit play and using your fingers or something else for penetration. after all, unless you're gene simmons, your cock's bigger than your tongue, right?

ed

 

[King of Dreams]

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[Snowman5933]

I think I am a good lover overall, but sadly I realize that my oral skills need a lot of work. I was hoping this thread would provide a few tricks and techniques in order to help me improve.

My problems are: finding a comfortable position, having to come-up for air too often (hard to breathe down there!), and in my enthusiasm to get my tongue in as deep as possible, forgetting to keep my teeth covered! Also, I have a hard time with the smell and taste, but maybe this gets better with practise.

So, is it just a matter of practise makes perfect, or are there any specific tricks that the ladies or men would like to share? Thanks in advance.

To me being good at oral sex has more to do with reading your partners level of arousal than your actual technique. I find that if I'm having trouble breathing I'm pressing to hard and need to back off. My SO will have the best orgasms if the pleasure builds slowly (remember it's not a race). I take my time and really enjoy what I am doing. I start off with long slow strokes avoiding the clit. As my SO becomes more aroused (I can sense this very easily because she will begin moving her hips and her breathing will get shorter and faster) I will begin to pay more attention to her clit dragging the flat part of my tongue across it at a steady pace. I will eventually start using the tip of my tongue (using a fast flicking motion against her clit) to send her over the edge. I used to really attack the clit with my tongue as my SO started to cum and I still do from time to time, but I have found that she becomes over sensitive after a couple of seconds and pushes me away. To lengthen her orgasm and give her more pleasure I hold my tongue still as she begins to orgasm and let her move her hips around (essentially pleasuring herself) rubbing her clit and lips across my tongue. Her climax has lasted as long as 15-20 seconds by doing this. She usually curls up and is ready to go to sleep afterwards and has the most satisfied look on her face. It's beautiful. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Snowman

 

[Lappdog]

In my humble opinion, the very best position for pleasuring a lady is with her seated on a comfortable stuffed arm chair or couch. With her legs spread out on either arm, and her ass scooted forward, you can acomplish amazing things from a kneeling position on the floor.

This postion has the advantage of completley opening her up to you and making all of her lower erogenous zones accessable to your lips, tongue, fingers and all of your 5 senses.

If the floor is not carpeted, a towel folded beneath your knees will keep you comfortable and may come in handy later!

Lapp

 

[MR.GGG]

Treat the whole thing like the horny joy ya got from those looong sessions of just necking with a girl when you were younger. Those times when you didn't really do anything but kiss for an hour or more. Just switch mouths.

If there is a smell / taste problem make sure you have a shower first and have fun making everything squeaky clean - for BOTH of you. I don't imagine ANYTHING turns most women off oral sex faster than pulling a grungy dick out of your underwear and being hit by a smell that would flatten a Musk Ox !!

After that use your tongue NOT just ON her clit but everywhere. CONSUME her. Make he feel and know that you find every inch of her yummie. Roll her over and nibble her back, bum, back of neck, back of knees, pull her bum up in the air and lick her that way for a bit.

For the main course pull some pillows under her bum or sit her on the chair (as suggested above) so you have access to everything down there. Suck her thighs and her lower belly. TEASE her. Watch her breathing. Watch her tummy muscles. Adjust speed and pressure depending on what you are seeing. Do her lips - nibble, suck, lick, pull them apart and GENTLY nibble the clit or just waft it with your tongue. Even a strong tongue pressure can be waaay too much for some ultra sensitive clits.

Another suggestion is that once she is REALLY aroused use the Technique described here:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

Slide a finger in and begin to stimulate her Gspot. Keep up the oral. Watch for reactions as you stim her GSpot. It may appear like it very uncomfortable at first and in fact she may be trying to pull away because she's scared of peeing in your face. She probably won't do that but that IS a good sign that the GSpot is turning on. Follow instructions and have fun. Don't go too fast and make sure SHE knows that you are really enjoying this and want to make it good - GREAT - for her.

If you can combine the GSpot technique and a good oral technique AT THE SAME TIME she will likely follow you home and never want to lose you.

 

[INeedLove]

swooning at some of the excellent advice from some of the others....


another suggestion-a nice build up before hitting the clit or labia. Teasing your way down her tummy, over her thighs, blowing gently across her mound, using your tongue ever so lightly along the lips. The build up can bring a gal part way to orgasm too.

Keep working at it!

 

[glynndah]

Great oral sex should involve more than just your mouth and her clit. Use your fingers to caress her and stroke her.

 

[King of Dreams]

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[coolr]

is awesome

 

[silverwhisper]

another technique i like prior to actual oral sex is teasing through panties by using gossamer-light nuzzling using your mouth, cheeks and chin (hope you're clean-shaven!). once a certain someone gets back to me about it, i'll be submitting a story involving that technique. :>

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[Lappdog]

another technique i like prior to actual oral sex is teasing through panties by using gossamer-light nuzzling using your mouth, cheeks and chin (hope you're clean-shaven!). once a certain someone gets back to me about it, i'll be submitting a story involving that technique. :>

ed

Excellent point Silverwhisper! Yes -this is not only very sexy & sensual, but what a great warm-up for her and you. As you point out - a close shave is aways important prior to nuzzling against your ladies soft, sensitive parts (unless of course your sporting a beard or mustache).

Is anyone else getting hungry?

Lapp

 

[silverwhisper]

thanks, lapp. i haven't yet had the opportunity to try out the position you mentioned either but i look to rectify that later tonight! :>

ed