going down on girls

[tool_man1980]

I'm going home to my girlfriend who I've been away for for over a month now. I really want to please her when I get back and I know that she really would like me to go down on her more often, only I'm not sure that I'm good at it. I think that I am, but then... I want some advice on whats good to do, or not to do when going down

 

[EJFan]

don't do anything she doesn't like.

listen to... watch for... feel for her responses. if you sense she's enjoying something, do more of that.

 

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[silverwhisper]

what the others already said. every woman has different preferences: for some, a wintergreen altoid is heaven; for others, it's hell.

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[M's girl]

Scaly said it already; there is only one person who knows exactly what SHE likes and that's her. She needs to tell you and you need to ask and listen. That's not the easiest part but if you can do it (both) it will be heaven for both of you...

 

[christian1971]

Well again just what the others said. Listen to her, feel her and some of watch her. And if it comes up ask her too, tell you when you was there and doing this it felt GOOD or do that a little long something like that.

 

[AnadaAtSea]

Clitorises need foreplay too. Go slowly - don't hurry.

 

[BOBVEE]

Going down on a lady

Scaly said it already; there is only one person who knows exactly what SHE likes and that's her. She needs to tell you and you need to ask and listen. That's not the easiest part but if you can do it (both) it will be heaven for both of you...

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ I usually like to have my wife nude, lying at the edge of the bed with her knees raised and spread to give me easy access to her pussy---I kneel in front of her and with one hand spread the lips of her vulva, exposing the lovely pink hood, clitoris and the hole itself---I start by licking up and down the entire length of her slit---Concentrating on her hood which by now is contracting in anticipation---As I see the wetness inside her hole increase, I put the tip of my tongue into the hole itself---Usually that is enough for her to push back against my tongue--As she does that I give her a good tongue fucking until she has an orgasm---I then lap up te juices that flow from her body

 

[SweetErika]

There are tons of tips in the Oral section of The Blank Manual sticky if you're looking for some things to try.

I agree with those who have said we all have different preferences and you need to listen and respond to her physical and verbal cues (if she doesn't give enough, ask her to be more verbal and guide you!), though. When my husband started really listening and responding to me, oral went from blah to heavenly.

 

[sexualbeing]

whatever you do plz be sensative to the clit, too much pressure can be a discomfort.

 

[SubNebGuy]

use your tongue to spell out words, just don't use too much pressure.

every woman likes it a little different, so just practice practice.

 

[Pixxie]

Like painting in watercolors, start out lightly and build. Too much will turn her off, too little and she will ask for more; err on the side of caution. Like everyone says, listen for her cues (moans and the like). Directly asking doesn't always work (like if she is shy about talking or just doesn't know how to put such feelings into words), but I think your girl might know what she wants.

Next, have a bag of tricks handy. Read the posts, watch some videos (girl-girl ones, porn guys are usually much too aggressive). Having a good repertoire will allow you to be creative later.

As for "not being sure if you are good" -- anything done with love and real concern for your partner couldn't be that bad.

 

[BorednSexy]

I got this from a friend, it's entitled How to Eat Pussy....

95% of females can't cum from sex UNLESS, they're on top and they're on top why? So they can stimulate their clit by doin' their lil snake charm grindin' on our pelvic bones which really does nothin' for us (ok side note, really?...) so the key is eat pussy first make her cum a few times numb her up then hammer away or soft and slow with a lot of vaginal teasing with your magic stick to build it all up in the end, however u like. Now once you're in between her legs don't just fuckin' dive in there like a bum at a thanksgiving charity dinner take your fuckin' time I know pussy is nearly irresistible but don't act like it is. Lick her inner thighs, kiss them, kiss around her pussy lips kiss the lips etc. etc finally once you've got your tongue on her clit this is what you do (you can use your hands to spread her lips here if you want that's all preference...it's easier to make em cum w/their lips spread so you have easier access to their clit) now roll the tip and somewhat flat part of your tongue around the clit in a circular motion slowly DONT STOP the KEY is to hold your rhythm listen to home girls breathin' use this as feedback and react w/your tongue accordingly you want her breathin' to be steady at a steady pace kinda like a clock tick tock tick tock tick tock it sounds lame but she should be breathin' on beat no, not MOANING breathing listen to her breathin' listen to the moans when your on the phone or somethin' now the key is DONT STOP (I emphasize this, cuz it's important if u STOP GO STOP GO haphazard like, you're not gonna get anywhere) DONT STOP even if it's to pick a hair outta your mouth just hold your rhythm circle her clit increase speed gradually once you've got the speed up a bit and her breathin' is tellin' you your on target use more of the tip of your tongue and move it less but at a slightly faster pace basically work your way into flickin' it back n forth like a punching bag it's hard to explain but it's kinda like vibratin' your tongue not swayin' it back n forth like a wreckin' ball slappin' her clit as you swoosh by if you can keep this up for at least 60 seconds she'll cum. if she's stubborn and won't bust get a finger or two up inside her. hook your finger(s) and kinda "tickle" "massage" her Gspot which feels like a lil sponge it's on the "ceiling" of her pussy inside and up top about an inch in consider your fingers holdin' the harmony while your tongue works the melody and she'll bust before u know it. Good you've succeeded. Now the worst thing you can do now is STOP keep fuckin' goin this is the good part if you ignore her pants, rants, and gestures for you to stop and keep goin' like she hasn't busted (She'll initially want you to stop because she's all madd sensitive at the moment) after 10-15 seconds, the sensitivity for her will fade and about a minute later yes A MINUTE she'll bust again. So do it again and again and again until she declares you the winner the only way to know you did a good job is by getting served seconds thirds fourths and fifths.

Don't know if this will help, but sounds hot to me

 

[honeykissed_25]

My bf is amazing at oral sex. At first he was inexperienced and lacked confidence. But now after two years he has become so good, like a pussy licking god. Not an exsageration.
Try licking from side to side( Left to right) instead of just up and down. And yes as everyone else has said, listen to her responses. When you can feel her legs and tummy tense up and you can hear her panting, you are doing fine. Be careful with the clit, dont attack it and be gentle at first. Try licking the areas around the pussy first, like, tummy, belly button, inner thighs, or for me the line where my hip meets my thigh is very sensitive. Gradually work your way to her pussy, lots of teasing and foreplay will have her begging for it.
I used to think that no one would ever want to taste me, but my bf loves it and I feel so sexy and feminine. If you learn and do it well you will increase your and her confindence. Therefore strengthening your relationship with her. Good luck, or should I say good lickh

 

[lm2000]

Since everyone else has written their guide, I'll add my own

First off, as with pretty much all things sex, practice makes perfect. Practice on her! DO IT ALOT, she wont mind, I promise.

So this is one of my favorite methods. Its pretty standard, dont get too monotonous, mix it up, try different things, use clothing to your advantage. Clothing is like your landscape and environment as a soldier, you can use it to your advantage. Just keep the teasing in mind. If there is a thin layer of cloth between your mouth and her pussy, it will tease her.

Tease, tease, tease. Good advice from the person who said as enticing as it is, act like it aint shit. Ignore it for the first 5 minutes, maybe even 10. Eventually they can get frustrated and they might just grap your head and shove it in their croch. This is good. This means youre teasing that pussy like a pro. Finally after working down from her lips, her neck, her nipples(spend some time here). Kiss them, drag your lips across them. Let her see your lips caressing them. Give them a little test bite, see how she reacts. But be gentle.

Move on, kiss her tummy, kiss her ribs(see if you can get some reactions out of her, even if they are giggles). Move down to her abs. Drag your lips across her skin.

kiss her hips, hold her leg up a little bit and kiss her calf, her inner thigh. The inner thigh, and as mentioned the place where the thigh meats the side of her pussy is very sensative. But dont even THINK about kissing her pussy yet. Make her wait. Cruel, yes. Affective, absolutely.

Eventually when you are starting to hear some breathing, feel some muscles slightly tensing, or basically any positive reactions, kiss the side of her pussy. Those yummy plump sides of her mound. Just kiss them, no tongue yet. Dont touch the clit yet. Tease it and draw it out a little more. Take your time. Relax, and enjoy it.

Finally, reel back a little bit, get a lustful look in your eye, maybe look at her and bit your lip, then bow down and smooch her clit with your lips. Smooch it again. Press your lips into the center of her mound. kiss her clit a few mor times. press your hand into it, put a little pressure on it. Take your hand away. Open your mouth now and kiss the center of her pussy with your clit. open it wide and press the whole of your tongue onto it, dont move it around yet, just gently put pressure on it a few times. Her slit will probably be wet, but her clit isnt, thats your job to get that lubed up with your spit. when you are ready(now you are done with teasing, she wants you to make her cum now) start VERY GENTLY at first to rub your tongue(dosnt have to be the tip, can be the whole thing) in circular motions on her clit. I've found, and everyone will agree that all women are different in this respect. Some love circles. Some love left to right, right to left. Some like up and down flickers, or left and right flickers. As said before, her being open with you about what feels best will help you discover what she likes. Also remember it can change too. Sometimes they like different motions. Some women even like the alphabet spelled out(sporadic movements).

I disagree with the guy who said DONT EVER STOP. It is true, DO NOT STOP when she is cuming. Big no no. But up to that point, building her up a little bit, and then stopping for 5 seconds to let her mellow down again, and then bringing her back up again once or twice can be a turnon for SOME women. Its another form of teasing. However some dont like this. Again communicate.

Dont just let your hands sit there! Stroke her inner thighs, her tummy, her breasts, reach up with both hands and grab her breasts, softly or firmly, go with what she is in the mood for. Pull on her nipples if she likes that, but be careful, she may not! flick her nipples with your fingers as you eat her pussy. Women LOVE TO BE TOUCHED all over their bodies. Keep those hands busy boy! Touch your finger/fingers to her lips. Let her kiss them. If she accepts it, and sucks on it with vigor, youre doing a damn good job and she's good and horny. Let her bite it if she needs to. If she is a litte freaky, you can put it further down her throat. Take it out and rub her spit down her neck and her breasts.

I love to try and suck the whole entire pussy into my mouth. I think this really turns her on, but to be honest, its really for my own enjoyment. It feels so good to have that soft mound of flesh in my mouth. Suck her wetness off, get into her taste. Lick the juice from her opening. Flick your tonge inside her opening gathering small tastes of her honey.

Go back to working her clit, assuming she let you stop in the first place.

Take her hands and put them on your head. Let her pull your hair a little bit, she's going to want something to hold on to. And women love the feeling of being able to pull your head/face into their pussy. Let her. Dont be affraid to get her juice all over your face. After I eat pussy from my nose down is covered in juice. My woman loves to lick it off my lips and face. I allow this.

when you feel her getting ready to cum, whatever you're doing dont stop. If youre in circles, stay with the circles, if youre in left to right stay that way. If you're doing tongue flickers, keep them up. Grab on to something. Her hips, her legs, her breasts, her arms. Hold her down as she cums. I havent found a girl yet who doesnt like this. Use your manly strength, hold ont to something and try to keep it from moving. Like her arms, hold them down with some mild force. Or put your hands under her ass and push her pelvis into the air so its elevated, she might start humping your face, this is ok. Move your head/neack with her motions, keep with her, do not let your tongue slip off. Anticipate her thrusts and stay with her. If you lose it, or slip off, or her pussy falls out of your mouth, the orgasim wont be as good.

Afterwards, I wipe my goatee on my arm, stand up on my knees and look sexy. Stand there for a second and look at how you worked her over and produced this great orgasim. Be proud of what youve done, show her you're proud and confident. Then I move in and press my body on top of her. I love to shove my arm or arms underneath her and pull her body tight against mine. Then I rest my chin on her shoulder, and put my face into the side of her neck, or kiss her directly. All girls are different of course, mine loves her own taste, so she sucks it off my lips almost every time like a lick-happy puppy. Kiss her. Lay with her. Let her relax and feel safe and good in your arms. Then start over, a little bit faster this time, and replace your mouth with your cock and get yours. Of course, if she is ready and willing. Which she should be after a short period.

Hope this helps. This is my guide. And ive only ever had compliments on my pussy eating abilities. Creativity is a big one too. But again, teasing in the beginning, and starting out gentle is key. Oh, and moan and make some noise, I do this naturally because I'm a pussy hound. I cant get enough pussy in my mouth. I just want to eat it for breakfast lunch and dinner. So yummy.

Let us know how it goes!!