going down on ladies?

[Norajane]

She's my first girlfriend, so the first girl I've ever gone down on or done anything with, even kissing... That might put some perspective into things.

I don't mind going down on her when it smells good, but I've only experienced it once where it didn't smell at all. Doesn't mean she smells all the time... just when I feel like going down on her. And even sometimes it's not so bad, I can stand it for a little while, but I have trouble getting into it.

I don't really know what to tell you. Every woman has a scent, and it can get stronger the more aroused she is. It's not something that you can eliminate entirely; it's a natural scent. All women will have a scent.

I've only known one guy who didn't like eating pussy - every other guy I've ever been with has loved it. Maybe you just need time to get used to it since this is the first time you've tried it?

Guys? What's your first time experience with oral? Did you like the smells/tastes right away, or did it take time to get to the point where you enjoy it?

 

[CreamCow]

Maybe it's a family thing. My brother won't do it. period.

 

[Norajane]

Maybe it's a family thing. My brother won't do it. period.

Never? I wouldn't date a guy who wouldn't go down on me. It's such an erotic, sensual, hot, and intimate thing - I couldn't be happy without being able to share that kind of sexual and sensual pleasure with him.

I'm with kiwichyk on this - I feel really lucky that my SO and I are in tune on oral sex.

 

[amutantman]

I don't really know what to tell you. Every woman has a scent, and it can get stronger the more aroused she is. It's not something that you can eliminate entirely; it's a natural scent. All women will have a scent.

I've only known one guy who didn't like eating pussy - every other guy I've ever been with has loved it. Maybe you just need time to get used to it since this is the first time you've tried it?

Guys? What's your first time experience with oral? Did you like the smells/tastes right away, or did it take time to get to the point where you enjoy it?

yes all women smell.yes all women taste different. yes all women taste different at different times of there cycle. do i like eating pussy? YOU FUCKEN GUESSED IT. YES I DO!!

obviously the first experience wasnt the best. probably not for her either! i suppose there wasnt really any thought about liking the taste/smell at that time because hey, i was young and getting it so who really cared.

as for the wet face that you dont seem to like... for me personally nothing is better than the feeling of the missus getting off on my face. yes i do have a full face beard and the smell...well what can i say. nothing is better than first thing in the morning and smelling what happened the night before!

 

[NaiveOne]

Hmmmm.... maybe just try to keep down the spreading of the wetness? Like keep your tounge and lips up at the top by the clit, but then use your hands/fingers at the opening(s). Your goatee might still get goopy, but hopefully not your cheeks as much. Can't say for sure since I've never gone down on a gal, or paid much special attention to the wet face when it was done to me.

And I support keeping a towel near-by.


Good luck!!!!

 

[mastagraff]

Hey Naive do you like when guys go down on you? Any ways dude something i am sure that was failed to be said. every woman and female tastes and smells different. Its just a pussy its not going to kill you. Give it a lick and deal with it if it makes her happy chances are doing it in the long run is going to pay off for you. Just think if she sucks your dick chances are she doesnt want you to cum in her mouth either. Concentrate on the clit, use a finger or two and have her get some sort of sexual body stuff that she could spray on her pussy Jessica Simpson came out with this body spray stuff that tastes great.. Good luck and dude eating a girl out is awesome......

 

[mastagraff]

Guys? What's your first time experience with oral? Did you like the smells/tastes right away, or did it take time to get to the point where you enjoy it?

The first time I ever did it i knew she had to be home soon and her mother was out side waiting and i said i want to eat you out so bad, she said she had to go and i threw my head down there. she loved it, it was the first time anyone had ever done that to her and my first time. i had read something at that age (16) and knew a thing or two so i was able to make her happy with all the expereince we had and since then i am PROUD to say that oral sex is something i provide very well.........

 

[CreamCow]

She likes it a lot when I do it, It's just hard to get over... I'll see her on Saturday so hopefully some of these tricks will work. Thanks.

 

[Cathleen]

Good luck this weekend. Take it slowly, and also don't lump yourself in with your brother -- we all have likes and dislikes. Whether you enjoy oral sex or not isn't genetic.

 

[TBKahuna123]

She likes it a lot when I do it, It's just hard to get over... I'll see her on Saturday so hopefully some of these tricks will work. Thanks.

OK bud, let's talk about a few things here. I waited to respond until I had time for one of my normal long and rambling posts. This just happens to be a favorite topic of mine too.

First off I am a card caring member of the United Vagitarians of America, Local #3469. I love it, and I honestly have a hard time understanding why anyone would NOT love it! I know we're all different, but there is just an intimacy associate with giving a woman oral pleasure that no other sexual act can match.

So let's examine your problem. You don't like the taste or the smell. Well let's talk causes here.

Strong Taste or Smell could be caused by:

• Body Chemistry. Some women just taste stronger than other, especially at different time throughout their cycles. I have been with women who taste slightly acidic or tangy, women who taste slightly sweet, or honestly have no taste at all. A little flavor is normal, but it shouldn't be strong enough to cause any aversion. (Note:unlike semen, food seems ot have little to do with the taste of vaginal secretions.)
• Bacterial Infection. Many common bacterial vaginosis infections will cause a slightly fishy smell and a not so pleasant taste. If there is a strong taste and or a fishy smell, this may be your culprit.
• Poor Hygiene. If you don't wash it, well... It doesn't even have to be that a woman is lacking in her hygiene. If the person is active all day, sweating, etc. then at the end of the night she's not going to be at her freshest. This is just a fact of life, for all of us, men and women. The scent here will be more of a sweaty smell than a fishy smell.

Now some facts

• The vagina has a natural scent. There are scent glands there which are designed to exude pheremones to attract the male. Unless she's covering it up with perfume, there will always be some natural scent. Unless it's strong there's nothing amiss.
• Douching does not equal good hygiene. Hell, many GYN's say douching is actually bad. Showering regularly is enough.
• No two women are the same.

So what you have to do is the hardest thing in the world: Talk to her about it. If you think it's a hygiene issue, TACTFULLY bring it up. If it's not, you might suggest she see her doctor just to make sure there is no infection, especially if there is any fishy scent. However you do it, be prepared for a fight and hurt feelings. There's one thing I've learned, if you try never to hurt your partner's feelings you'll never talk to them about anything. Deeply personal issues such as this provoke defensive emotional responses and you just have to use as much care and understanding as you can when bringing them up.

Now this is all assuming that her scent/taste is more than normal. Now, if nothing is amiss, then I guess you just need to suck it up (pardon the pun). I knwo a couple of guys like your brother who won't ever go down there no matter what because they have some kind of phobia about it. Fuck that, I say get up in there and get ya some! Eating pussy isn't like eating a steak. I mean it's nice and juicy, hot and pink in the center, but you can just slather it in steak sauce to make it fit your tastes. Or maybe you can if you she's into that.

The truth is dude, that it is something that can be a little disgusting if you just look at the physical aspects of it. Hell, if every woman really sat and thoguth about the purely physical side of things, would any of em really suck a dick, let alone swallow cum? Hell no, but there's another side to it. Forget the taste, forget the smell, concentrate on how she moans when your tongue parts he lips. Thin about the way her hips buck as you suck her clit into your mouth. Forget about hating the feel of getting your face wet, revel in how your tongue makes her pussy quiver so much that it oozes the very essence of her sexuallity on you. When she cums hard, her back arching, her thighs locking on your head, her fingers entwined in your hair crushing you into her, I guarantee you'll forget about the taste.

The fact is that I firmly believe proficiency in oral sex is the key to a guy being great lover. It's not the only thing, but there is nothing more empowering and intimate than this. It is at once a selfless attention ot your lover's pleasure, yet you are really the one in control. You've got a good attitude with not expecting her to do something you won't, and you need to expand on that. That attitude is unselfish and that is the most important thing. Now my advice would be that, so long as you can assess there aren't any fixable hygiene issue, that you just dive in and embrace the intimacy of the act. Pretty soon you'll forget any aversion to the taste, at least that's myopinion.

 

[iansearchof]

I don't really know what to tell you. Every woman has a scent, and it can get stronger the more aroused she is. It's not something that you can eliminate entirely; it's a natural scent. All women will have a scent.

I've only known one guy who didn't like eating pussy - every other guy I've ever been with has loved it. Maybe you just need time to get used to it since this is the first time you've tried it?

Guys? What's your first time experience with oral? Did you like the smells/tastes right away, or did it take time to get to the point where you enjoy it?

What delicious memories you've aroused. While I can't recall the first time I kissed a pussy, I can recall that as early as six or seven (a specific recollection; it may even have been earlier doctor playing) I wanted to. Guess I've always been a prevert. Naturally I was predisposed to love the taste and smell, because it was something I'd always loved and wanted to taste--just like beer!

My earliest recollections of females (they weren't women then) was of the delightfully different tastes and smells and the contrasts with their progressive excitement (many took awhile to become excited because often they were reluctantly accomodating me) versus the older, more experienced girls and women. As you note, women smell like women which is why it is so wonderful, and they have somewhat differing flavors and scents which vary according to many factors including their cycles.

(By the way, I have never seen it mentioned, but another delightful aspect of kissing pussy is the lovely slippery texture of her fluid excitement in my mouth, on my tongue and all over my face....Aw hell. Send the poor girl to me!)

A favorite story has it that Napoleon wrote Josephine from the battlefield that he'd be home in __ days/weeks finishing with, "Don't wash!" (My Scots heritage must include a considerable Gallic contribution! )

As for most men liking cunnilingus, an especially attractive and accomplished woman of my intimacy once told me that "most guys will eat you, but it is more in the nature of gratitude for your having sucked them or as down payment for anticipated services. Their hearts really aren't in it."

If a guy can't enjoy it (after reasonable experience), he shouldn't bother any more than a woman should suck a man if she doesn't like it. It is obvious and demoralizing. The comedian who said, "The worst I had was wonderful" was fulla shit!

 

[tronada]

How do you get so lucky?

My husband has never gone down on me. The closest he has ever gotten was my thighs or stomach. He won't tell me why he won't do it though I have asked many times. Yes, I do suck his cock and I like doing it in the right frame of mind. It's hard to give when you know you're never going to get, but still i do it ocassionally. I have been told I am a blowjob queen.
I can count on one hand the number of times someone has given me oral sex. The 1st time I hated it. The 2nd guy was very into it but I was uncomfortable most of the time when he tried, nervous, tense. Managed an orgasm a couple of times. And didn't appreciate it enough when I was getting it. Years later, I asked this same man if he had a problem with my taste/smell, thinking it must be me for my hubby. He said, as far as he remembers, everything was fine and offered to do me again for old times sake. ((grin)). I declined. So, I don't think it's me.
Now, how I long for a tongue between my legs, even for a moment.........
Count yourselves lucky to those who get it regularly! Just my experience.

tronada

 

[Cathleen]

Guys? What's your first time experience with oral? Did you like the smells/tastes right away, or did it take time to get to the point where you enjoy it?

Have I told you lately that you're my hero? You always ask the right questions!! I'm enjoying this thread so SO much! Thanks guys for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

 

[dcraz]

First Time

Ok I'll bite. Or nibble as it were

My first time was like most first times. Inexpereienced and a little clumsy, but full of boyish enthusiasm. I was a little behind the power curve when it came to my peers so I had heard both the guys and the gals talking about it. The general consensus was boys were resistant and gals were wanting. So when I had my first chance, I jumped at the opportunity (so to speak). Looking back on it now, I suspect she enjoyed my entusiasm more than my expertise but I remember it being a fun time for both of us. As in so many other things, attitude is everything. I understood from the beginning, this was a great way to set myself apart and stand out from the other guys. Not to mention it was a hell of a lot of fun!

Don't really remember anything special (good or bad) about the smell or taste. Having had plenty of petting and finger play experience previously, I had a pretty good idea what I was getting myself into (so many puns here). As the years moved on though, I realized what a pleasure and a gift it was to have the opportunity to dive between a pair of silky thighs and sample her lucious delights. In my mind, the smell, the aroma, that heavenly scent, and the wetness and juices that follow are nothing more than confirmation that I am doing a good job. Whether it be in pleasing her or in her own anticipation of the pleasure she knows is coming (more puns).

I guess I have always been an adventurous explorer. Whether it be backpacking the Grand Canyon or exloring every inch of a woman's body, I am always looking for the next opportunity for adventure!

 

[TBKahuna123]

WOW! I totally missed that question!

I absolutely remember the first time. I remember the taste as tangy and sweet, kind of like lemonade as I used to joke. What I remember most though was the sound of my partner, like a whimpering moan. That was the first time I had ever made a girl do that, and I was hooked!

More memorable for me though was the first time I went down on my wife. It was basically what I describe in my last post. I mena, I always prided myself on being decent in bed, but I had never had a woman get so wet, pull my hair and crush me into her, litterally scream when she came. Part of it was that it was our first night together, but it was the single biggest boost I had ever gotten to my sexual selfconfidence. She's a very sexually charged woman, no doubt, and obviously we connect, but that is still one of the most memorable nights of our relationship, and I can honestly say this one act shaped me sexually for the rest of my life.

 

[CreamCow]

my GF tastes like a lime. I guess that's the best way to explain it. Very tangy.

Anyway, I'm really trying to figure out what it is that bothers me about it. I'm pretty sure that if it's not too wet I don't mind it so much. I might have to wipe it up before I start. Once I get into it, my saliva mixed with her juices tastes a little better because it's less potent... I'm not a huge fan of swallowing while I do it either.

TBK, I'll take some of that advice into consideration, as far as losing myself in it. I don't think she's got any kind of infection or anything, and her hygine is fine as far as I know... it might just be a case of "it's been too long since she showered and sweat has gotten the best of her"

 

[Cathleen]

What about this... would you ever take this approach -- ladies what would you think too.

What if you said you want to clean her so that the only thing would be you on her... sort of in a romantic, erotic way. Saying something like "I want my mouth, my tongue to be tasting ''virgin'' territory."

I can't get the right words but something on that idea... can anyone see what I'm trying to say???

 

[Lucky Girl]

I agree with the bathing idea, but I'd lean toward the bubble bath. Get her all hot in the tub, get her hotter while you towel her off, get out a little flavored pleasure gel (with the warming sensation), maybe introduce a little "toy"...She'll appreciate it and you'll be able to get on to "other" things that you'll both enjoy!

 

[CreamCow]

We're in college so we don't have a bathtub, good idea, but just not feasable...

Also, she won't let me use toys on her. I've asked, but she's not interested because she's afraid she won't like my penis anymore.



I'm thinking about doing this...
Taking her into the shower for a little foreplay, then taking her back to one of our rooms and handcuffing her to the bed. I'll then very erotically tease her until I know she can't stand it anymore, then go for a little muff diving. After I do that for a while, and I'm sure she'll ask for it, I'll make sweet passionate love to her. Sounds like a fun night to me.

 

[Lucky Girl]

We're in college so we don't have a bathtub, good idea, but just not feasable...

Also, she won't let me use toys on her. I've asked, but she's not interested because she's afraid she won't like my penis anymore.



I'm thinking about doing this...
Taking her into the shower for a little foreplay, then taking her back to one of our rooms and handcuffing her to the bed. I'll then very erotically tease her until I know she can't stand it anymore, then go for a little muff diving. After I do that for a while, and I'm sure she'll ask for it, I'll make sweet passionate love to her. Sounds like a fun night to me.

Don't shower with her...YOU shower HER. Make her stand perfectly still, soap her up (making sure you pay extra attention to the "dirty" spots), wash and condition her hair, maybe shave her legs even, then rinse her down. Once she's all squeaky clean, get her out, give her a nice rub down with a big fluffy towel, maybe rub her down with a nice light lotion (nothing too greasy).

She'll be begging for it by the time you get her to bed!!!!

As for the toy thing, trust me...it will never replace the REAL thing. But, when used sparingly, works wonders. My man hides mine from me and I can only play with it when he says...DRIVES ME INSANE!!!!!

 

[TBKahuna123]

my GF tastes like a lime. I guess that's the best way to explain it. Very tangy.

OK, a very tangy taste like a lime seems a normal description to me. As I think back that is usually the most common taste. Also, you mentioned that the taste seems to go away when mixed with your saliva after a while. Both of these seem consistent with my experiences. I guess that the VERY part of this is just because you are new to it.

Once I get into it, my saliva mixed with her juices tastes a little better because it's less potent.

Again this is normal. Here's the thing, that taste isn't caused by her vaginal secretions, it's a natural mixture of sweat and things mixed with her wetness. The only time she won't have this kind of taste is right after a shower. That doesn't sound like poor hygiene, or even that it's been too long since she showered, it's just normal. The reason it goes away is a cobination of your saliva and additional vaginal secretions.

... I'm not a huge fan of swallowing while I do it either.

...Anyway, I'm really trying to figure out what it is that bothers me about it. I'm pretty sure that if it's not too wet I don't mind it so much. I might have to wipe it up before I start.

OK, this right there points me to the root of your problem. It's mental!

I'm not saying that to be a jerk, I'm being honest. As I said before, vaginal secretions have very little taste unless there's an infection, which doesn't seem to be the case here. The fact that you mentioned swallowing means tells me that you're feeling a little uncomfortable with the "gross" factor of the whole thing. I'll admit, there's a certain ewww when you think about coming up looking like you just got slimed like Bill Murray in Ghostbusters, but there's one thing you have to realize: It won't hurt you.

Just like semen, there's nothing there that's gonna hurt you. You put a lot more gross things in your mouth in the course of a day. Ever chew on a pencil? Another point though is that just like a girl giving a blowjob, you don't have to swallow anything. If there is that much there, wipe it away with your fingers, just do so in the course of stimulation.

What you need to get over is thinking it's gross. That's where the intimacy factor comes in.

TBK, I'll take some of that advice into consideration, as far as losing myself in it. I don't think she's got any kind of infection or anything, and her hygine is fine as far as I know... it might just be a case of "it's been too long since she showered and sweat has gotten the best of her"

Good. The best way to "lose yourself" is to stop thinking about your sensations and start focusing on hers. That's the reason I like this particular act so much, the reaction I get from my wife. You've got to take that "wet" factor you are talking about for what it is, a sign of your sexual prowess and ability to please your lover. Believe me if you are going down on her and she isn't dripping wet, you're doing something wrong.

There are so many different ways to approach it, so many different little variations you can do. The possibilities are boundless. Aim high my young friend! Don't just set out to be comfortable with this, set out to become a Cunnilingual Artisan!

 

[Râleclins]

Since there is already a lot of good pieces of advice about how to make the smell less potent, I'll try another approach.

How about you try to focus on something else than the smell ? I'm not speaking of the curtains or the ceiling, but I could suggest that you pay attention to her reactions. Look at her face, try to feel the convulsions of her inner muscles, maybe caress her thighs, belly, breasts and neck while you're licking her. You know that she likes what you do ; but it's best to feel that she likes it.

PS Now that I think of it, wouldn't it help if you tried to salivate more (or, rather, to avoid retaining your drool) during the licking ? It could dilute the taste a lot...

good luck !

 

[SweetErika]

She's my first girlfriend, so the first girl I've ever gone down on or done anything with, even kissing... That might put some perspective into things.

I don't mind going down on her when it smells good, but I've only experienced it once where it didn't smell at all. Doesn't mean she smells all the time... just when I feel like going down on her. And even sometimes it's not so bad, I can stand it for a little while, but I have trouble getting into it.

Perhaps what you're perceiving as an offensive odor is simply the natural scent of an aroused woman? Now if she smells very fishy or really off, gently suggest a doctor's visit outside the bedroom, as Eilan said.

When you don't have time to shower, unscented, alcohol-free baby wipes make for gentle, inexpensive, easy freshening and clean up. The 'personal cleansing moist wipes' from toilet paper brands can work too, but they're more expensive. So, you might want to consider keeping some in both of your rooms. If you freshen up in front of her, she may follow suit without feeling self-conscious.

Be careful about telling her she's not so fresh and wiping your face after oral. It doesn't take much to hurt feelings and develop a phobia; if she thinks you find her genitals and juices gross/offensive, she may shy away from oral and sex altogether.

In the end, a lot of this is mental. When I'm giving oral to either sex, I can either focus on the things I don't particularly love, or those I really do. I choose to concentrate on my partner's arousal, responses to what I'm doing and the intimacy, and anything that's not terribly appealing is greatly minimized or disappears altogether. Perhaps you could think about how amazing it is for her to allow you to be so close, and focus on how your actions keep bringing her to new levels of excitement. Notice the changes...how her labia open, clit hardens, breathing increases, and yes, she gets wetter, all for you. Take a positive perspective and attitude, one that will allow you to grow to enjoy giving oral more, and you'll likely come to feel that way in time.

 

[SweetErika]

What about this... would you ever take this approach -- ladies what would you think too.

What if you said you want to clean her so that the only thing would be you on her... sort of in a romantic, erotic way. Saying something like "I want my mouth, my tongue to be tasting ''virgin'' territory."

I can't get the right words but something on that idea... can anyone see what I'm trying to say???

I think something along these lines would be very good, and certainly a hell of a lot better than just wiping your partner up with a towel beforehand! Maybe this isn't suitable for CreamCow, but I can also imagine something to the effect of, "I want to taste your delicious juices when they first arrive," or "I want to feel the first hint of your wetness as I pleasure you," might go over well.

Great idea, Cate!

 

[southernsky]

My last boyfriend and I used to have the absolute best time in the shower EVER. My water bill plummeted when we broke up Get in the shower, get all soaped up, and have her give you a standing lap dance and rub your hard-on all over her back and ass. Turn the lights out and the music up, and slide all over each other. Do some dirty dancing while you're both all soaped up. Wash off, then go down on her in the shower. Soap up again, then play some more. Get her to jack you off in the shower while she's standing behind you rubbing her soapy breasts all over your back. Super slippery and WOW The look on his face *drool* Then, get out of the shower and have as much sex as you can stand. Get up in the morning, repeat

More of a solution to your problem, use your fingers in her hole, and use your tongue on her clit and inner thighs. You don't have to stick your tongue up her hole to give her good oral.

Off to fantasize about days gone by.... *sigh*