Having an issue with a friend.

[Emerson40]

Thank you so much for the mean-spirited critique.

And unless you are old enough to have participated in the Summer of Love, don't tell me what I should or should not have known.

When you grow up believing the number of times your parents had sex equals the number of kids they have, there's a hell of a lot you don't know.

Peace and love, peace and love my man.

I'm not telling you what you should or shouldn't know.
Just suggesting that you refrain from offering advice or opinion on matters you are self-admittedly ignorant (self-imposed, or as fallout from the Summer of Love) about.

Peace and love!


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[jacktar48]

Peace and love, peace and love my man.

I'm not telling you what you should or shouldn't know.
Just suggesting that you refrain from offering advice or opinion on matters you are self-admittedly ignorant (self-imposed, or as fallout from the Summer of Love) about.

Peace and love!


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I suggest you quit offering opinions on matters you do NOT admit you know nothing about.

 

[Primalex]

I read it, along with the rest of the post, and put things in context.

Ah, the context. Of course. You mean, you didn't read what she wrote, but what you think she wanted to write. Something like making stuff up the way you like it.

Are other people allowed to do this, too, or is this a special ability reserved for you?

Again, not obvious or funny.

Not? I think it's funny that you declare that every sane person knows about STDs, yet everyone here thinks that her friend needs to be taught about STDs.

Okay, some might use the term "hypocritical". I think "funny" sounds much nicer.

 

[jacktar48]

Ah, the context. Of course. You mean, you didn't read what she wrote, but what you think she wanted to write. Something like making stuff up the way you like it.

Are other people allowed to do this, too, or is this a special ability reserved for you?


Not? I think it's funny that you declare that every sane person knows about STDs, yet everyone here thinks that her friend needs to be taught about STDs.

Okay, some might use the term "hypocritical". I think "funny" sounds much nicer.

The special ability is reserved for those who were bitten on the sac by radioactive spiders.

"Hypocritical' is OK. Definition: behaving in a way that suggests one has higher standards or more noble beliefs than is the case.

 

[naomirubybaby]

Enthusiastic applause...

Why thank you

 

[jacktar48]

Why thank you

Polite, too.

That gets a standing ovation.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Dump the friend. Stupid people are a waste of life. Ofttimes 'fuck off' is a life saver.

 

[TheNiteSiren]

I honestly don't have an issue with her not being monogamous. The way she sees what she's doing just seems unhealthy to me. I love her to death and don't want to see her in a situation that causes her more stress. When she talks about her ex, the hurt is so prevalent there even now after almost a year, that its pretty clear that she is doing all this to build herself back up again. I just don't believe she has really dealt with what that bastard did to her.

I just think she needs to slow down and think about what she does before she does it. This girl is like a sister to me. While I do agree that having a little fun is no reason to condemn her, but thats not what I was trying to get across. I think we all know that in certain situations that people use sex in unhealthy manner, physically and emotionally.

There is also the issue of the old high school buddy she slept with that she is now avoiding like the plague. The guy is getting kind of stalkerish which is also causing me some worry.

 

[NightL]

"I love you. I am uncomfortable with how you are going about things but I want to reassure you that I love you and that will never change"

Then leave it alone

You have indicated that this conversation has happened already so there is nothing more you can do.

Sometimes people travel a path which appears self-destructive and sometimes you just have to let them self-destruct. The need to find boundaries sometimes means testing the good and the bad.

If this is the case then she may be punishing herself over failing to get out sooner from the last relationship. She may well be blaming herself for the situation she found herself in. Even if that makes totally no sense to you this is her journey, her choice.

Don't let your morals impact negatively on your relationship with her. If she is in trouble it is important for her to know you are there.

My suggestion is now back-off.

Maybe her idea of fun is just different than yours.

 

[TheNiteSiren]

"I love you. I am uncomfortable with how you are going about things but I want to reassure you that I love you and that will never change"

Then leave it alone

You have indicated that this conversation has happened already so there is nothing more you can do.

Sometimes people travel a path which appears self-destructive and sometimes you just have to let them self-destruct. The need to find boundaries sometimes means testing the good and the bad.

If this is the case then she may be punishing herself over failing to get out sooner from the last relationship. She may well be blaming herself for the situation she found herself in. Even if that makes totally no sense to you this is her journey, her choice.

Don't let your morals impact negatively on your relationship with her. If she is in trouble it is important for her to know you are there.

My suggestion is now back-off.

Maybe her idea of fun is just different than yours.

I will try my best to back off. I do admit I can mother people to death but its only with the best of intentions. If things get bad, she knows I will always be here for her like she has been for me.