"Having sex" -- what is it?

[Latina]

I've been thinking more about this topic. Romance is stuff you might feel comfortable doing in front of your kids (although it might embarass THEM): hand-holding, eye-contact, knowing smiles, hugs and kisses. Sex is all the stuff you WOULDN'T want your kids to see, the stuff behind closed and locked doors: the stuff that brought them into this world in the first place!

-- Latina

 

[Coltrane]

exposure, or the act of revealing, maybe?

I'm not sure I have a definitive answer. But the timing of your question is an odd coincidence, as last week I put together a photo sequence of start-to-finish romance/sex, as a way to collect all my favorite photos into one "photo-story":

http://www.geocities.com/latina_author/temp/sequence.html

To me, the point in this sequence where it becomes sex is where you expose normally-hidden erogeneous zones to each other, and start touching each other in those places. But that is just MY opinion.

-- Latina

Great point (and great picture-story). It can be, indeed, the exposure, or maybe more significantly, the <i>revealing</i> of those turn-ons.

That makes for intimacy, or at least a level of it, I would say.

*smile*... Nice to meet you, btw.

Coltrane

 

[Coltrane]

Latina, then sex would be.....

those things, acts, to be more specific, that one would not want revealed to a minor?

That might be a good measure.

But, what about the other question -- cyber-sex and phone-sex? Would that meet the same criteria?

 

[StevenWill]

Lucky kids

It is the lucky child that knows her parents have the hots for each other. The are the role models of what a loving relationhsip is supposed to be, and no you don't have to have sex in front of them, but show them some passion.

Orgasms from kissing??? Kiss me Kadee, kiss me!

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Is Sex?

A jean ad on the side of a bus?
A radio ad for condoms?
An XFL cheerleader?
An XFL football player? The whole team?
A doublemint gum ad?
An educational video showing bees polinating flora?
A sports car?
The Washington Monument?
A cuban cigar?
A train going through a tunnel?
Two twin beds?
A female knee?
A wink?
A written romantic phrase?
A painting? A sculpture?
A symphony?
A simple pop love-song?
A sly smile?
Strawberries?
Whip cream?
A bannana?
The proverbial cucummber? With cum in the middle no less.
A look up a 12 year olds skirt?
A baby?
A young teacher writing on the black board, back to the class - jiggling as she erases it?
This board?
All who partake upon it?
Laurel?
Manu?

Yes, of course - they are all, "it" is all sex. Sex is everywhere. When are people going to get used to it?

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Life......

Life is sex.

Sex is life.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

A much more telling question would have been...

What "is not" sex?

 

[Dillinger]

sex is sex

 

[TN_Vixen]

sparky

what is "Having Sex" -- you can't *have* a billboard or *have Laurel* hehe...

Mostly your comments are things that are "sexy" or "sexual" : adjectives and not action.

of course, correct me if I'm wrong ;-)

 

[riff]

Traney! Yo!

Sex is in your head. Eatin' ain't cheatin'...

hhhehehehe

 

[Coltrane]

ah, HA!

Traney! Yo!

Sex is in your head. Eatin' ain't cheatin'...

hhhehehehe

*LOL*

Hey, damned right, "Eatin' ain't cheatin'..." Or at least that's what I was told. Yep.

Maybe, riffster, sex ain't in your head (the one on your shoulders, I mean) but is an expression of one's physical being, ya know?

Sex with more than "just" the physical might well become (*mumbling now*) l-o-v-e.

Good to see ya... *s*

 

[Latina]

Coltrane says:

"Latina, then sex would be.....
those things, acts, to be more specific, that one would not want revealed to a minor?

That might be a good measure.

But, what about the other question -- cyber-sex and phone-sex? Would that meet the same criteria?"


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I don't cyber or phone, but if I did, I wouldn't want to do THAT in front of my kids, either.

Also, thanks for your compliment on my photo-story. Yes, revealing each other's turns-ons I guess is also crossing the line from romance into sex, especially if you then ACT on those revealed turn-ons. For the story of how and when WE crossed from romance to sex for the first time (and my first-ever time writing an erotic story), see:

http://www.literotica.com/storyxs/stories/mratlli_ir_1001_e0.shtml (part 1)

http://www.literotica.com/storyxs/stories/mratllii_ir_1001_e0.shtml (part 2)

As for comments from others: Yes, it is healthy for kids to know their parents are loving and sexual role models, without seeing anything too graphic in the process. Although we did once make love VERY quietly under the covers in a motel room, with our son (then age 9) asleep in the other double-bed in the same room. Son is now 13, we've found some Penthouse-type magazine pages in his room, we know he is curious about such things but we still aren't going to reveal our private activities to him (he'd be embarrassed an grossed-out anyway--parents don't do THAT, do they?). We do try to discuss sex in the context of a loving relationship, and we hope that someday the message will sink in, or at least counteract the peer-pressure to f*** anything that moves and breathes!

-- Latina