Heart attack info

[UpStandingMember]

nevermind

 

[qrayze]

if you make it eight more months...


can't you call your doc back home? at least ask a medical professional and not a forum that revolves mostly around the subject of sex-related things.

um, try the mayo clinic web site, they have a lot of information there.

 

[fire_breeze]

I know this isn't a how-to, but I would like some information please.

I've been stressed out for quite some time. I've had insomnia for a few weeks as well. I'm in pretty good shape except for my high blood pressure. And I'm 51 years old.

Okay, this morning while I was laying in bed. Most of my left side went kind of numb, including my face. It just felt weird. My right arm felt really hot for some reason, and my chest started to hurt a bit. I've had worse than this in the past and it was nothing. Right now it's about two hours later and I still feel dizzy but not as bad as before.

Did I just have a mild heart attack? I've never had one before so I don't know what they're like.

I'm in Korea and I do not trust these doctors over here at all. So I figure I'll just wait eight more months and see a doctor when I get back home.

Thank you for your help in advance.

I'm sorry that you're not feeling well.

Unfortunately, the only way to know for sure whether or not you had a heart attack is to do a series of tests and ECGs, an Xray or an angiogram. Describing symptoms is NOT enough.

When my Father had a mild attack, he was sweating profusely, and he couldn't stand. When questioned, he said the pain was 'not pleasant' (translation: it hurts like no tomorrow and he could barely stand it). He was also very very pale. He looked like he was very sick, could barely move and had extreme tightness. After I called an ambulance - at his request, so I knew something was seriously wrong - the doctors diagnosed a mild heart attack after conducting their necessary tests. So while your symptoms sounds similar, it doesn't sound as severe - although I could be very wrong. However, that said, Father has a good number of years on you, so his age might have been a factor.

There are a myriad of reasons that you could have these symptoms, up to an including a mild heat stroke, stress, hypertension, a silent panic attack or a side effect of not resting properly. Self diagnosis is not a good idea. I repeat, it's NOT a good idea, so don't even try. I know you do not trust doctors there. I take it, though, that you're registered at your embassy? If not, then do so (it's a smart idea if you're abroad for more than several weeks in one place) and ask them for a list of doctors. They will have 'pre-approved' doctors, often ex-pats, which their own diplomats/officials will use. While it could be anything, unusual symptoms are worth checking out. Your health is not something you'd want to gamble with.

Good luck.

ETA: Here's a couple of links for doctors in Korea that have been prepared to assist Western citizens.

http://www.eslteachersboard.com/cgi-bin/korea-info/index.pl?page=2;read=168
http://seoul.usembassy.gov/acs_health.html
http://ukinrok.fco.gov.uk/en/help-for-british-nationals/when-things-go-wrong/if-you-need-doctor

 

[GrimsPet]

Quite frankly you either had a mild heart attack or you have something else going on. Don't put off a visit to the Doctor because you're in another country and don't like their way of practicing medicine. It could save your life.

Stubborn is one thing, but being stubborn to the point of not seeking a very necessary treatment is sheer nuttiness. Case in point, Four years ago a family friend was diagnosed with stage four uterine cancer. She had the symptoms for six months prior to the diagnosis, had been bleeding for much of that eight months but kept putting off seeing the doctor thinking that nothing was wrong. When she finally saw the Doctor, he was pissed as nails with her for not coming in when she first noticed the symptoms - because at that point it would have been curable. After numerous surgeries and chemo treatments she died a year later and missed seeing her first grandchild turn a year old. She was 51. In the end her own stubbornness and reluctance to see a doctor is what killed her.

Take aspirin daily if you don't already do it.
Call a Doctor ASAP and get in for some tests. Don't wait eight months. Eight months might be to late.

 

[fgarvb1]

Damn!

Who the fuck CARES?

Get to some kind of Doctor!

Sounds like a stroke or blood clot or hell maybe all three.

 

[NomadLady]

Start taking aspirin and get to a doctor!!!! You do not need to wait 8 months.

 

[Somehowyou]

Your in South Korea correct? The Doctors should be pretty good. sounds like the symptoms of a stroke however. Yws, toss the ibuproffin and stick to aspirin.

 

[UpStandingMember]

nevermind

 

[SweetErika]

Still, you need to get it checked out ASAP. Maybe it's just a matter of having your BP checked and/or med(s) adjusted, or getting something for the insomnia and/or stress, but on the chance you had a mini-stroke or warning sign of something serious (from what you're describing, I'd say there's a good chance this is the case), you've got to submit to one or more simple tests immediately.

I guess it's a matter of how much you trust the docs vs. how much you want to function and live, really.

 

[UpStandingMember]

nevermind

 

[JohnnyA]

You Only Get One Chance At Life. It Is A Precious Thing. Whatever Stress You Think You Feel Will Be Nothing Compared To That Milisecond Before Death Where The Darkness Starts To Creep Up And Consume Your Being. The Last Thing You Will Think Of Is How Much You Really Want To Live.

Dont Fuck Around With Your Heart Or Your Life. You Gave Almost Every Symptom Of Cardiac Arrest. Next Time Youll Die And Regret Doing Nothing While You Slip Into The Void Of Infinity.

 

[UpStandingMember]

nevermind

 

[UpStandingMember]

I've gotten a few PM's from people in here asking about myself and what's going on. So I figured I'll just write in here and let everyone know. That way I don't have to tell the same thing over and over. LOL Not that I don't like PM's, I just don't like telling the same thing over and over.

Last year I was in Afghanistan as a civilian contractor working on Army helicopters. I left Afghanistan and went home to look for another job close to home. Couldn't find anything, so I took this one year contract here in South Korea. Well soon after I got here, I started having troubles with my wife back home. I'm married and we have two young girls in upstate NY. My wife didn't trust me because I had spent 12 years here before and had about 30 to 40 girlfriends. So she didn't trust me, and both girls were on her side.

Then after a couple of months of being here, one of my cousins died of a heart attack back home. I was a little upset but could handle that. But with all the stress I was getting I started having insomnia last month in June. Then on July 9th I had an uncle die from cancer. And very soon after that I found out I had another cousin that killed a woman, then killed himself with a shotgun. That really upset me quite a bit. But that's not all.

Soon after I found out the news about my latest cousin committing murder and then suicide, I met a woman at here in Lit. I thought she was a great person and really liked her right from the start. I thought she was caring, and nice, and everything I wanted. I wasn't really looking for somebody, but I guess I needed somebody. I was very vulnerable at that time.

So we started PMing each other, getting to know each other. Then she wanted me to write her a story. It wasn't too bad, in fact she said it was really good. I put a lot of details in it, and I wrote from the heart. So I send her the story, she reads it that morning and we PM each other about it. I had to go talk to my family on Skype for only an hour and a half. When I came back to talk to this woman I had become friends with, I find out she looked up some guy she knew and had cyber sex with the guy. LOL Pretty good huh? I get her excited with a story, and she goes and has sex with another guy.

Well I got a little pissed off, then she got pissed at me for something too. Then I apologized for something that wasn't my friggin fault to begin with. So we start chatting again and a day or two later she gets mad at me again. This time she looks for another guy to have sex with, I guess to piss me off again. So I apologize again. I don't know why, but I did. So everytime we fought she would treat me like shit after we got back together more and more each time.

Well the stress leave is getting higher and higher all the time. I didn't realize it, but SHE was pushing me over the edge. I know, love is blind. I guess it wasn't love, it was me needing someone really bad. The day before yesterday was the last stray and right before she finally broke it off with me, I had those chest pains and my arm went numb. I never had that happen before, so I asked in here what others might think it might be. I figured there must be some nurses and doctors and others that have had heart attacks.

So when that happened, I was so depressed, I really didn't care what happened to me. I was just hoping if I did die, that it would be quick. Then I thought, even if I went into a coma, the bosses from work won't be out to check on me for maybe two weeks. So anyway, I had to do something, so I said something to her in the forum and she got pissed (again?) and broke off the roller coaster ride that we were on. And when that happened I said to myself, "Fuck it, it's a good day to die", which was stupid!

So realizing all this I see her the way she really is, and I should not be around her, or even contact her. It's better for my health. She really wasn't what I thought she would be, at all.

Kind of a sad yet funny story after I read it.

So I guess it must have been about the stress all along. Thank you everyone for your concern. I will get better. I keep saying that to myself. And last but not least, time heals all wounds.

I'm sorry this was so long, but thank you for listening.

 

[sereneone4u]

You are such a lying bastard

I did not go off and cyber with other guys

You constantly accused me of things I was not doing and expected me to spend hours upon hours on with you, not allowed to talk to anyone else according to you.

I did not ask you to write me a story. I never asked you for anything...you kept at me and at me, demanding things from me that I could not, would not give. You also said some really disturbing things to me.

UpStandingMember? What a joke!

How dare you dictate to me what I can and cannot do on this site.

I am here FOR ME. Not for anyone else.

I am here to have fun, flirt, tease, make friends.

If I occasionally want to cyber with someone, I will damn well do it!

We have talked maybe a week...I kept telling you I did NOT want the same things you did.

And notice how you erased most of your posts so that no one can read what an ass you are!

GET A LIFE AND LEAVE ME ALONE

 

[UpStandingMember]

What I have said is the truth. People can go look what you have posted too. Why would I lie? I haven't.

You would lie so you won't look so bad to your friends.

I didn't even mention your name, so no one would have known who I was talking about. LOL

Even after the hell you put me through, I was being nicer than I should have.

And I was deleting every post I had in here because I was going to leave here.

And don't worry about me leaving you alone, talking to you is the last thing I want to do. Of course after this. LOL

And btw, you are just three holes to those guys you're fucking around with. You really think they have any respect for you? They'll say whatever they can to get something off you. LOL

Maybe you should show some respect for yourself.

And you weren't ever cheating on me, you were cheating on your husband. LOL

I have a life. I don't claim I'm in a prison because I have to stay at home and take care of my child.


GOOD BYE

 

[sereneone4u]

I never said I was in a prison, you sick fuck

Your the one that has to pay for women to fuck you

And I have been with very few men in real life, and few on Lit.

You are just mad because you were not one of them.

And my friends made me aware of your postings

and I am not the one that erased mine, you did

And I have PMs saved, so just keep it up.

You are not impressing any of the ladies here and I am sure many of the men here find you repulsive too.

 

[sereneone4u]

What I have said is the truth. People can go look what you have posted too. Why would I lie? I haven't.

You would lie so you won't look so bad to your friends.

I didn't even mention your name, so no one would have known who I was talking about. LOL

Even after the hell you put me through, I was being nicer than I should have.

And I was deleting every post I had in here because I was going to leave here.

And don't worry about me leaving you alone, talking to you is the last thing I want to do. Of course after this. LOL

And btw, you are just three holes to those guys you're fucking around with. You really think they have any respect for you? They'll say whatever they can to get something off you. LOL

Maybe you should show some respect for yourself.

And you weren't ever cheating on me, you were cheating on your husband. LOL

I have a life. I don't claim I'm in a prison because I have to stay at home and take care of my child.


GOOD BYE

And you aren't cheating on your wife? Hypocrite, much?

 

[sereneone4u]

And what I put you through? Listening to hours of your whining and demands? Your telling me what I can and cannot do? Wow, yes that must have been torturous for you, that is why you kept begging me to talk to you when I kept asking you to leave me alone. I did not contact you, you contacted me, we talked for a manner of days...

You need to get a grip.

 

[SweetErika]

Dude, it sounds like your wife has every reason to be concerned if you're screwing around and falling in love with other women, especially after only a week or so.

My husband is gone for a good part of the year, and it puts a huge strain on our marriage and family. It's incredibly difficult to be on parent and house duty 24/7, deal with kids who need and miss their dad, and have nothing but quick calls and Skype chats.

You'd do well to put your time and effort into sharing with your wife and working on your family relationships, rather than messing around with women here or elsewhere. Otherwise, you may not have anything to go home to, and the added stress will affect your health more.

 

[NorthernPA4U]

I've gotten a few PM's from people in here asking about myself and what's going on. So I figured I'll just write in here and let everyone know. That way I don't have to tell the same thing over and over. LOL Not that I don't like PM's, I just don't like telling the same thing over and over.

Last year I was in Afghanistan as a civilian contractor working on Army helicopters. I left Afghanistan and went home to look for another job close to home. Couldn't find anything, so I took this one year contract here in South Korea. Well soon after I got here, I started having troubles with my wife back home. I'm married and we have two young girls in upstate NY. My wife didn't trust me because I had spent 12 years here before and had about 30 to 40 girlfriends. So she didn't trust me, and both girls were on her side.

Then after a couple of months of being here, one of my cousins died of a heart attack back home. I was a little upset but could handle that. But with all the stress I was getting I started having insomnia last month in June. Then on July 9th I had an uncle die from cancer. And very soon after that I found out I had another cousin that killed a woman, then killed himself with a shotgun. That really upset me quite a bit. But that's not all.

Soon after I found out the news about my latest cousin committing murder and then suicide, I met a woman at here in Lit. I thought she was a great person and really liked her right from the start. I thought she was caring, and nice, and everything I wanted. I wasn't really looking for somebody, but I guess I needed somebody. I was very vulnerable at that time.

So we started PMing each other, getting to know each other. Then she wanted me to write her a story. It wasn't too bad, in fact she said it was really good. I put a lot of details in it, and I wrote from the heart. So I send her the story, she reads it that morning and we PM each other about it. I had to go talk to my family on Skype for only an hour and a half. When I came back to talk to this woman I had become friends with, I find out she looked up some guy she knew and had cyber sex with the guy. LOL Pretty good huh? I get her excited with a story, and she goes and has sex with another guy.

Well I got a little pissed off, then she got pissed at me for something too. Then I apologized for something that wasn't my friggin fault to begin with. So we start chatting again and a day or two later she gets mad at me again. This time she looks for another guy to have sex with, I guess to piss me off again. So I apologize again. I don't know why, but I did. So everytime we fought she would treat me like shit after we got back together more and more each time.

Well the stress leave is getting higher and higher all the time. I didn't realize it, but SHE was pushing me over the edge. I know, love is blind. I guess it wasn't love, it was me needing someone really bad. The day before yesterday was the last stray and right before she finally broke it off with me, I had those chest pains and my arm went numb. I never had that happen before, so I asked in here what others might think it might be. I figured there must be some nurses and doctors and others that have had heart attacks.

So when that happened, I was so depressed, I really didn't care what happened to me. I was just hoping if I did die, that it would be quick. Then I thought, even if I went into a coma, the bosses from work won't be out to check on me for maybe two weeks. So anyway, I had to do something, so I said something to her in the forum and she got pissed (again?) and broke off the roller coaster ride that we were on. And when that happened I said to myself, "Fuck it, it's a good day to die", which was stupid!

So realizing all this I see her the way she really is, and I should not be around her, or even contact her. It's better for my health. She really wasn't what I thought she would be, at all.

Kind of a sad yet funny story after I read it.

So I guess it must have been about the stress all along. Thank you everyone for your concern. I will get better. I keep saying that to myself. And last but not least, time heals all wounds.

I'm sorry this was so long, but thank you for listening.

I've known S. for quite some time now. She is one of the nicest, warmest, most sincere people on Lit.

I feel sorry for you. You sound isolated, and from personal experience I know that a person who has reasons for being somewhat isolated from warm, friendly females can get very attached, unexpectedly so perhaps. And a person can get attached in ways that aren't healthy for them.

But, let's face it, you aren't necessarily going to find every woman you meet in ANY public forum is going to want you and only you. If your expectations were unrealistic, that's on you, buddy.

I know Serene quite well. She isn't in here to meet the one and only in her life, and she lets people know she is here to get away and have fun. She certainly wasn't here to stress you out, but she wasn't here to be your exclusive domain either. If you missed that, that's on you. If you pressed too hard because you had needs, then that's your fault as well. If you wouldn't back off, what would you expect to happen? What would happen in the non-virtual world?

She is a wonderful person. I know she wouldn't have intentionally hurt you, and I also know she wouldn't have led you on. She might have enjoyed your company, but if you got pushy about it, you should have expected ANY woman in Lit to tell you to cool down, and if you didn't ... well, you shouldn't be looking elsewhere for blame.

Any woman anywhere can have cybersex, phone sex, actual skin-on-skin sex, without getting someone's permission, although there are costs if they are in an actual relationship. You and she were in the very beginning of a FRIENDSHIP, perhaps ... she and I are friends, have been for a while, and she doesn't need my permission to have cybersex, nor does it affect my opinion of her. If her having cybersex with someone else affected your opinion, then your mind needed readjusting, because it wasn't based on reality.

Having said that, and despite the fact I will always back Serene in such a situation, still I feel for you because I think you genuinely thought there was more than what there was. I've been there, it hurts -- but people in here aren't going out to deliberately hurt others, and she was not. So let any anger go, realize that things just don't work out the way we want sometimes, it doesn't mean the other person is bad or wrong, it just didn't work, and move on. I hope you get a chance to see someone soon about your medical condition, and just from my own experiences, it might not hurt if you find a therapist who can give you time to talk about the stresses in your life and constructive ways to deal with them.

Serene, you are a sweet woman, and I think most people here know that about you.

 

[fgarvb1]

On second thought, just keep on going the way you are, it's probably just gas.

Unless the woman your fucking over in South Korea found out about the wife AND girlfriend.

Yeah...probably just gas.

 

[Somehowyou]

So your not really having heart trouble?

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Get some help.

You're having a rough time, you're isolated on the other side of the world, you're having health problems, you're grasping at anything.

Don't take your shit out on Sereneone. I'm quite confident that she treated you with kindness. It's what she does. She's not your problem here, and if you think differently, your brain is fucking with you.

Seriously. Find a mental health professional.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

This is just weird. Everyone does understand this is the internet and not real life, right?

 

[Somehowyou]

This is just weird. Everyone does understand this is the internet and not real life, right?

I agree. I don't get it?