Help me please, i last too long

[mbrotation]

okay, this is like my third post here, and i have been wanting to ask this for a while, but was a little embarrased, untill i realized that this site doesnt really contain people easily offended, so help me out please, all of you sexual gods


i am taking way to long to get off. i am a 6'2 male, and i am gifted with a larger than average penis, not mandingo or anything, but its thick enough to be exciting to most girls ive been with. anyways, i have always been a fan of masturbation, but i have noticed that lately it is taking me in excess of an hour to two hours to masturbate, and frankly, my arms are starting to get sore, i honestly masturbate almost nightly, and i am wondering if it is possible for a man to desensitize his penis, and if it is, is this what i have done to it, because i am now having a hard time cumming during sex, even after hours of sex, and frankly again, thats a lot of thrusting and while im in good shape, damn thats tiring! if i have desensitized myself, is there a good way to stop it and hopefully reverse it, i would honestly love to cum after 10 minutes of sex. any help would be awesome, and i really do apprecieate it. thanks guys

 

[Arp]

Well you're pretty lucky actually, although it would be perfect if it was just around the middle, not too long or too short. Do you masterbate just to masterbate? Or are you actually horny? Try different things. Different fantasies, different porn, positions, etc.

 

[Perfect_Trust]

Not wanting to seem flippant about your apparent distress, but I've been on the receiving end of premature ejaculation & I'd have swapped him for you in a flash!

 

[SweetErika]

Your cock size/shape has nothing to do with your problem.

Yes, it's possible to desensitize and grow accustomed to certain types of stimulation.

Solutions: Stop wanking for at least a week and see if you can get off in a shorter period of time. If you find it to be acceptable, keep your masturbation to once or twice a week. If you're still taking too long, hold off for two or three weeks, and maybe try once a week after that.

Obviously you shouldn't masturbate before you have sex - if you think an encounter will occur, hold off on jacking off the week before. You might also look at porn/fantasize and stimulate yourself very lightly, but not allow yourself to come, so by the time you're with you're partner you're ready to go.

The idea with all of this is to not allow yourself to get used to Mr. Hand, though.

 

[mbrotation]

thanks guys

thanks guys, and im always willing to try and remedy a problem, i think it might have had more problem with how often i masturbate, im going to try and slow it down on that and see if it helps, thanks for the help guys, and if any of you want to trade out a quicker partner for me, let me know thanks again for making me fell like my problem has a legitimate reason to be concerned.

 

[blackphownix]

Go cold turkey. Just stop masturbating. Set yourself a target (40 days and 40 nights without orgasm is good) and do your best to attain it. Not only will you get an easy release, it will be intense, believe you me. My GF goes on two-week work trips occasionally - I like to put masturbation on hold when she's away and then when I can't stand it anymore I have myself a porn session with 5 or 6 orgasms. Pure fun.

 

[blackphownix]

One more thing: I used to masturbate several times a day until quite recently and most of it was for stress relief rather than pleasure. My experience is that when practiced this often, masturbation is poor stress relief. If you think this might apply to you it's another reason to cut down.

 

[HDTraveler]

Have a similar problem

I also take a long time to orgasm, even with a partner, at least an hour.
I went to see a urologist, who diagnosed it as delayed ejaculation - do a Google search for that term - gives you some useful information.

It's caused by a combination of things -
desensitization by masturbation
diet and exercise
mental state of mind

I'm working on it - found that it can improve if I am in good shape, have a good control of my life stress, don't masturbate, and try Tantric or other techniques to just enjoy lovemaking without worrying about how fast I can cum.

Do your homework, get your hand off it, and get healthy. -good luck, HDT

 

[mbrotation]

thank you a lot hdt, that was by far the most helpful info i have every gotton lol, thanks a lot guys.

 

[taolanes]

It's caused by a combination of things -
desensitization by masturbation
diet and exercise
mental state of mind

I agree with these three....

More than anything, I notice that when I'm in a good mood I get harder faster and cum more. I know people always want a magical cure like "drink carrot juice." But in all honesty, sexual problems can always be fixed by getting in the right state of mind. Try to think of the problem less for the next week, and you'll probably see it improve just because of the decrease in stress