HELP!My PC keeps evicting me...

[Cathleen]

Re: Re: Re: AAARRRGGG!!!!

Well...geez, Cate...if that wasn't a bit of a hijack...i don't know what is...


Course all this posting is at least keeping the board toward the top...maybe someone will come along who can kill this thing once and for all....


j.

that was my thinking....yea thats it!!

Actually really was thinking that Joanna....I know there are more than a few who can and will help you..... its just not me in this case! I just found out these things have a off switch LOL.....

I really don't know how to help this one...can you isolate it? I have a few cleaning devices as well as protection programs but it is beyond me on this issue...... so a sort of bump and hi back to you....

taking off for awhile....catch you later and hopefully without that critter in your computer too!!

 

[alonelygal]

Re: Re: Re: Re: AAARRRGGG!!!!

I just found out these things have a off switch LOL.....

Holy crap...nunh-unh...an off switch...well, what the heck would they need one of those for?????


Maybe if the poor little bugger got some rest now and then, it wouldn't have caught this bug...now all i need is a virtual antibiotic...


Ahh, well...such is not so real life...


A very frustrated...

j.

 

[alonelygal]

A friend turned me onto this...

http://www.grisoft.com/us/us_dwnl_free.php?status=ok&affiliate=&product=

i scanned the system.Found not one, but 4 viruses...all the same, though.Got rid of what i could, put the rest in a vault...here's hoping...

Now on to the durned spyware...


j.

 

[Cathleen]

A friend turned me onto this...

http://www.grisoft.com/us/us_dwnl_free.php?status=ok&affiliate=&product=

i scanned the system.Found not one, but 4 viruses...all the same, though.Got rid of what i could, put the rest in a vault...here's hoping...

Now on to the durned spyware...


j.

Hi....I hope it works for you.... I've got an isolated one too....it doesn't do any harm thank goodness!

so nice to see you back!


So does this mean I can now officially hijack the thread....with your help of course! I will be the co-pilot!

 

[Willing and Unsure]

you dont want to delete lsass.exe it is a necessary file for your operating system to run, which is why your system restarts itself when it gets shut down.

 

[alonelygal]

you dont want to delete lsass.exe it is a necessary file for your operating system to run, which is why your system restarts itself when it gets shut down.

Well darn it all....i am after all a computer novice...*sigh*


i don't think it was deleted...just the virus bit...thank you for telling me...the messages telling me that i wasn't "allowed" to delete it now make sense...still annoying though...

*stomps off in a huff...'darn technology'*


j.

 

[alonelygal]

Hi....I hope it works for you.... I've got an isolated one too....it doesn't do any harm thank goodness!

so nice to see you back!


So does this mean I can now officially hijack the thread....with your help of course! I will be the co-pilot!

i hope it doesn't develop into anything, dear...these things are so sensitive...hit one printer with one little baseball bat and it goes all fuzzy...geez

So nice to be back...i wasn't gone for long but it felt like weeks... though just between you and i, Cate...i was lurking...try doing that for a few days...i had to bite my tongue sometimes not to post...

You, my sister in quite alot...you may hijack anything of mine anytime...you and i will be flying this thread right into the giggles, i'm sure...or into a margarita...whichever...

for you, love....


j.

 

[Cathleen]

i hope it doesn't develop into anything, dear...these things are so sensitive...hit one printer with one little baseball bat and it goes all fuzzy...geez

So nice to be back...i wasn't gone for long but it felt like weeks... though just between you and i, Cate...i was lurking...try doing that for a few days...i had to bite my tongue sometimes not to post...

You, my sister in quite alot...you may hijack anything of mine anytime...you and i will be flying this thread right into the giggles, i'm sure...or into a margarita...whichever...

for you, love....


j.

well I am glad your stomping off brought you back.... and I had a hard time holding my tongue a lot last week....but I just had to respect your wishes.....and it was the right thing to do as well.

heck we can fly where ever we want..... we've been in some hellish places so lets fly to some bright and fun places now!! We sure as hell deserve that!

 

[alonelygal]

well I am glad your stomping off brought you back.... and I had a hard time holding my tongue a lot last week....but I just had to respect your wishes.....and it was the right thing to do as well.

heck we can fly where ever we want..... we've been in some hellish places so lets fly to some bright and fun places now!! We sure as hell deserve that!

The past is the past...let us let it lie...moving on is the call of the day, my dear...pain is but a deep breath away from being relieved...besides...the horizon hold something brighter than that which has been left behind...

Fly...hmm...i have been visiting the Devil's lair...he is such a beautiful sight to behold...but if i had to choose...i think perhaps a nice quiet corner cafe...some tea for me, i never have liked coffee...maybe someplace in New Orleans...sultry...mysterious... let's just sit and talk and watch as the people pass by...


*thread officially hijacked...can i do that to myself?*

j.

 

[Cathleen]

The past is the past...let us let it lie...moving on is the call of the day, my dear...pain is but a deep breathe away from being relieved...besides...the horizon hold something brighter than that which has been left behind...

Fly...hmm...i have been visiting the Devil's lair...he is such a beautiful sight to behold...but if i had to choose...i think perhaps a nice quiet corner cafe...some tea for me, i never have liked coffee...maybe someplace in New Orleans...sultry...mysterious... let's just sit and talk and watch as the people pass by...


*thread officially hijacked...can i do that to myself?*

j.

ok....good...its official now....problem solved.....

I'll join you in the tea...never a coffee drinker either..... I know the past is done.... but shit Joanna...my father is arriving here next Friday....thank God its only for 5 days...but a long 5 days most likely.... and family functions as well..... maybe I should take up drinking something stronger than tea! Na...that will only make matters worse....but wouldn't it be nice....I'd rather just sit back a do a bong hit or twelve! But can't throw away 17+years of being clean either....damn, I hate when you're right! LOL.....so my sweetie...you're going to have to help me zip through those 5 days....and the ones leading up ....I know I'm already stressing about it..... *blowing out a long breath....damn let it die...heavy sigh*

 

[alonelygal]

ok....good...its official now....problem solved.....

I'll join you in the tea...never a coffee drinker either..... I know the past is done.... but shit Joanna...my father is arriving here next Friday....thank God its only for 5 days...but a long 5 days most likely.... and family functions as well..... maybe I should take up drinking something stronger than tea! Na...that will only make matters worse....but wouldn't it be nice....I'd rather just sit back a do a bong hit or twelve! But can't throw away 17+years of being clean either....damn, I hate when you're right! LOL.....so my sweetie...you're going to have to help me zip through those 5 days....and the ones leading up ....I know I'm already stressing about it..... *blowing out a long breath....damn let it die...heavy sigh*

No, darn it...drugs are bad

Seriously...i'll be here...looks like i got back just in time...family stuff sucks, sometimes...i know it well...you can draw some strength from me, doll...seems as though, at the moment, at least, i've got some to spare...listen...you need to remember that it will be over quickly...5 days isn't really that long...at least you know that it won't be forever...make sure you find something to post on the WFMS thread everyday...at least one thing...i know you can find something...even if its a good memeory of days gone by...and hit the 'pissed off' thread as well... they both do alot of good...and hell...let's just make this one our little venting thread...why not...good stuff, bad stuff...spill it, kid...or not...but you now my PM box is always open to you, Sweetie...and i will be and have been checking it...

Do this...whenever i find myself near some, i actually stop and smell the roses...or hyacinths...or a nice apple pie baking...scents are so calming for me...on the back of my stove, in especially in stressful times...i leave simmering a pot with some orange peels, some cinnamon sticks, and some whole cloves...makes the whole house smell wonderful...

Wow...ok...i'm done for now...sorry for going on so...though, i promise it will happen again

Take it easy, Cate...nope, i'm about to start again...i'm really done for now.

j.

 

[Cathleen]

you know I'm usually pretty good with my boundaries.... I've had frank talks with him about his drinking....that I'm done....I won't put up with drunkeness again...that is one reason I don't hang out with the family as much....they are all alcoholics...except one! One is dry....the others are all active.... I hope someday....blah blah blah.....

so with my father, I told him.... too much drinking...I'm outta there! He had been dry for about 6 years, just prior to and after my mothers death....then went back to drinking..... and of course you pick up where you left off....so it sucks.... I am glad he lives 1500 miles away..... then there is all the other crap we've talked with one another about.... its there....always there....I've worked through it....am definately on the other side of it....but its a part of me to the point of something....can't get the right word there....but meaningful part? I don't know....

I speak with him a few times a week.... it use to be daily when I was ill....but that was too much..... once I gained some strength back and wasn't so critical, I told him...lets check in a few times a week.... I need my distance from him..... I have a hard time separating him..... but I have to.... I really work at compartmentalizing him in my life.... the father he was when I was 6 or 10 or 15 etc...... the different abuses.... what he is now....and most importanly who I am today.... I have choices.... I can walk away now...I couldn't as a kid... and I told him that....we've never spoken about the abuses other than superficially.....I really don't think he can do it..... I think he is better off living in his world....and since he just turned 77, what should I care.... but the f'ning thing is....I do care, I want to confront him... but I think it would harm him more than it would do me good....does that make sense..... and its not that I'm looking to take the higher road here.... I'm looking to protect myself first....be honest with me first.... but do no harm to either of us.... am I letting him off the hook in a way.... but my gut says no, that he will have to deal with it all when the time comes, and I am not the one who knows that time or the one that has to live with his guilt....but I do live with this actions...... and that is the crux of the problem.... I'm not imprisioned by it any longer, but I am not exactly free either....

any insights here Joanna....

I'm off to bed cutie... talk to you tomorrow! Sweet dreams!

 

[alonelygal]

you know I'm usually pretty good with my boundaries.... I've had frank talks with him about his drinking....that I'm done....I won't put up with drunkeness again...that is one reason I don't hang out with the family as much....they are all alcoholics...except one! One is dry....the others are all active.... I hope someday....blah blah blah.....

i don't speak to most of my family...i probably would were it not for my children...i could never chance them dealing with some of the things that i dealt with...honestly, just now there is but one, that i know of, who is still dealing with any kind of substance abouse...curbed, i think, because he is in prison at the moment...its not so much the drinking and drugging as it is the attitudes that they still have...sure they're mostly clean, but to speak to them you wouldn't know it...slurring words, no....but slanderous words, mostly, yes...and you, i must say, have that over my kin...we don't talk...period...here's an example...when i was about 14 my cousin went to prison...having the same last name as him i was harrassed and threatened at school becuase iof it all...do you know i didn't find out until i was 29 what he did...we just don't talk...

so with my father, I told him.... too much drinking...I'm outta there! He had been dry for about 6 years, just prior to and after my mothers death....then went back to drinking..... and of course you pick up where you left off....so it sucks.... I am glad he lives 1500 miles away..... then there is all the other crap we've talked with one another about.... its there....always there....I've worked through it....am definately on the other side of it....but its a part of me to the point of something....can't get the right word there....but meaningful part? I don't know....

my Grandmother was the life's blood of my kin...she practically raised me...when she passed i wanted to go with her...people do horrible, sometimes amazing, sometimes unexplainable things in their grief...i'm not excusing anything, dear, just making a comment...our pasts define us...we hate that they do...but what we have been through makes us who we are today...in every breath that you breathe you are your experiences...i am all for letting go...i am all for moving on...but every step that we take brings us to where we are today...along with everything we step in...*smiles*...you are past it...i envy you that...but it will always be with you, sad to say...as my past will always be with me...fucking sucks, but its what i believe...

any insights here Joanna....

I'm off to bed cutie... talk to you tomorrow! Sweet dreams!

i don't mean to cut you off, love...i just need to take a small rest... there are somethings that want to share about the rest of your post...my head is just swimming right now and i can't get the words out...nothing you did, doll, rest assured...i shall return


joanna

 

[Cathleen]

Joanna....

It is all about the behaviors, the attitudes, the crap....with the drinking.... I just don't do it anymore...I hope they will see peace in their lifetime....but I can't do it for them anymore....never could...but I'm done with the nastiness of drinking....the abuses....what is THE most difficult is the kids....I see my neices and nephews in some of the same situations, and I pray not the worst of all, but I see fear in their eyes sometimes..... I know that fear.... it paralyzes... and all I can do is tell them I'm here for them.....that I am on their side.....in fact the other night at a family dinner, I pulled one nephew aside..... it was only about him eating his dinner, but I knew his father (my brother) would rage at him, so I just said...I'll cover for you.... stick with me....you don't need to be yelled at....he is only 9 but he seemed to understand that I understood.... and he gave me a big hug and kiss when he left.... he is the one I am most concered with.... his younger sister is all attitude, and she'll tell her Dad where to get off soon.... I love that!

I do have one brother that is the happiest damn drunk, we assume he is just like our grandfather! I can actually have fun with him when he is drunk, he is a jolly one....and that is most unusal in our family..... they usually are full of rage and abuse....

But...back to my dad's visit.... I know its only five days, and I'm grateful for that.... but he is so far gone its hard to even have a short conversation with him..... and I seem to concentrate on the hell of yesterday when he is near......so knowing that...I will make decisions about how much time and what kind of time I spend with him..... and always, always have a way to get out.....

geesh.... bad topic here..... but its good to vent the anticipation of his visit.... I feel stronger about seeing him.... its good...

talk to you soon...

C

 

[alonelygal]

I speak with him a few times a week.... it use to be daily when I was ill....but that was too much..... once I gained some strength back and wasn't so critical, I told him...lets check in a few times a week.... I need my distance from him..... I have a hard time separating him..... but I have to.... I really work at compartmentalizing him in my life.... the father he was when I was 6 or 10 or 15 etc...... the different abuses.... what he is now....and most importanly who I am today.... I have choices.... I can walk away now...I couldn't as a kid... and I told him that....we've never spoken about the abuses other than superficially.....

i look at my father the same way...i think of him as a few different people...two from when i was a kid and one now...when i was a kid, there were such good times with him...he taught me so much, so much of the person that i am now is thanks to the good Daddy that he could be...then there were those moments...the abuse...the night time...some of the alone time...and then there is how i look at him now...i haven't seen him since i was 13...then when i was 16 he 'disowned' me...now, i know that he's alive, only because of an odd family situation i know that i would know should anything really happen him...but to me he's gone...i have spoken to him...but he's just not anyone that i know anymore...i understand looking at your father in a seperating way...somedays it doesn't make sense to me that he could do the things that he did and i still miss time with him...but i know that i miss those times that he was 'good daddy'...its the other times that will keep me away from him...he and i have never spoken about what happened with me...and i know that we never will...to be acknowledged...even in the denial of it...seems as though it would somehow be a certain kind of healing

I really don't think he can do it..... I think he is better off living in his world....and since he just turned 77, what should I care.... but the f'ning thing is....I do care, I want to confront him... but I think it would harm him more than it would do me good....does that make sense..... and its not that I'm looking to take the higher road here.... I'm looking to protect myself first....be honest with me first.... but do no harm to either of us.... am I letting him off the hook in a way....

There will always be, inside us, that small girl that just wants her daddy to love her...just wants him to call her 'darlin'...and want that wonderful look in his eyes that says how proud he is of her...no matter how grown up we pretend to be...this little girl will always want answers...will always wonder 'why?'...logic has no place with her...and why should it...she is but a child...hurt...feeling abandoned...waiting for the reasoning that may never come...Cate...he may not tend to that little girl...ever...you know that...as do i...in all probability he never will...she is yours...you need to be her strength and her safety...it makes sense to me that you are thinking about things evening out...your peace vs. the harm it will do him...maybe somewhere inside you know that any answers that he could come up with would only bring more questions...i would love, in a way, to see my father try to reason his way out of what he did to me...there really is no answer that would bring me peace, though...no explaination that would make me say, 'Oh, of course, that makes complete sense, Dad...let's be pals now'...for me i know that any answers would only bring more questions...less peace, instead of more...and how would that help us heal...i don't think it would do me a durn bit of good...

but my gut says no, that he will have to deal with it all when the time comes, and I am not the one who knows that time or the one that has to live with his guilt....

...i'm glad you have a better idea about devine retribution than i do...i hope that it brings you some solace... knowing in your heart that somehow, sometime he will have to deal with it all...

but I do live with this actions...... and that is the crux of the problem.... I'm not imprisioned by it any longer, but I am not exactly free either....

{{{Cate}}} this is so perfect that there is just nothing to say about it...if you don't mind i think this is something that i will be holding to my heart...damn it...where did i put those tissues...

 

[Cathleen]

i look at my father the same way...i think of him as a few different people...two from when i was a kid and one now...when i was a kid, there were such good times with him...he taught me so much, so much of the person that i am now is thanks to the good Daddy that he could be...then there were those moments...the abuse...the night time...some of the alone time...and then there is how i look at him now...<snip>...i understand looking at your father in a seperating way...somedays it doesn't make sense to me that he could do the things that he did and i still miss time with him...but i know that i miss those times that he was 'good daddy'...its the other times that will keep me away from him...he and i have never spoken about what happened with me...and i know that we never will...to be acknowledged...even in the denial of it...seems as though it would somehow be a certain kind of healing
<snip>
There will always be, inside us, that small girl that just wants her daddy to love her...just wants him to call her 'darlin'...and want that wonderful look in his eyes that says how proud he is of her...no matter how grown up we pretend to be...this little girl will always want answers...will always wonder 'why?'...logic has no place with her...and why should it...she is but a child...hurt...feeling abandoned...waiting for the reasoning that may never come...Cate...he may not tend to that little girl...ever...you know that...as do i...in all probability he never will...she is yours...you need to be her strength and her safety...it makes sense to me that you are thinking about things evening out...your peace vs. the harm it will do him...maybe somewhere inside you know that any answers that he could come up with would only bring more questions...i would love, in a way, to see my father try to reason his way out of what he did to me...there really is no answer that would bring me peace, though...no explaination that would make me say, 'Oh, of course, that makes complete sense, Dad...let's be pals now'...for me i know that any answers would only bring more questions...less peace, instead of more...and how would that help us heal...i don't think it would do me a durn bit of good...

I think we can have the healing with out the acknowledgement Joanna....truly.... I know my father had a difficult childhood, and I don't excuse him from his actions against me, or the whole family, but I really think I can heal without confronting it... I so agree with you that it will bring only more questions, as there is no rational reason for the abuse....abuse isn't rational behavior.


but my gut says no, that he will have to deal with it all when the time comes, and I am not the one who knows that time or the one that has to live with his guilt....

...i'm glad you have a better idea about devine retribution than i do...i hope that it brings you some solace... knowing in your heart that somehow, sometime he will have to deal with it all...

Oh I totally feel bless with my faith....it has saved me on many occasions.... I have no right to revenge or vengence.... I know not what will occur but I know the hurts I have inflicted upons others have to be mended to the best of my ability....on this earth....or they will be in the next life.... I try always to make ammends immediately now.... I spent many years in a 12 step program...there were many good lessons learned there... honest living is the best of them all....

but I do live with this actions...... and that is the crux of the problem.... I'm not imprisioned by it any longer, but I am not exactly free either....

{{{Cate}}} this is so perfect that there is just nothing to say about it...if you don't mind i think this is something that i will be holding to my heart...damn it...where did i put those tissues...

{{{ Joanna }}} I know we are a sum of our experiences.... and that this will always be apart of me....there are moments of pain or hurt or self abuse....but they are also a part of me too.... just having emotions is a gift.... having lived numb for years, I am learning to take the good with the bad......and most importanly.....learning to sit with the feeling at hand.....knowing it will pass, good or bad.....just sit with it..... not inflicting any more harm to me! That has been a long time coming....a long, hard road of difficult work.... so worth the effort!

 

[Cathleen]

I have a question for you...... do you or did you find.... that the abuse from our childhoods lead to other abuses.....kind of like being prep'd for it....or left out to hang sort of.... my father wasn't my only abuser, sexually.......I just wonder if in a sick kind of way....I was set up for more..... it was so odd, when my father's sexual abuse of me stopped, was right when I encountered a phone stalker....my parents didn't do anything about it....in fact it was thought to be a joke......but it wasn't I was about 12 or 13....it was sick....and went on and on.....with no help from my so called protectors.....perhaps by that time, there wasn't much to protect.....

 

[alonelygal]

Joanna....

It is all about the behaviors, the attitudes, the crap....with the drinking.... I just don't do it anymore...I hope they will see peace in their lifetime....but I can't do it for them anymore....never could...but I'm done with the nastiness of drinking....the abuses....what is THE most difficult is the kids....I see my neices and nephews in some of the same situations, and I pray not the worst of all, but I see fear in their eyes sometimes..... I know that fear.... it paralyzes... and all I can do is tell them I'm here for them.....that I am on their side.....in fact the other night at a family dinner, I pulled one nephew aside..... it was only about him eating his dinner, but I knew his father (my brother) would rage at him, so I just said...I'll cover for you.... stick with me....you don't need to be yelled at....he is only 9 but he seemed to understand that I understood.... and he gave me a big hug and kiss when he left.... he is the one I am most concered with.... his younger sister is all attitude, and she'll tell her Dad where to get off soon.... I love that!

i do wonder about my brothers and sisters...both my mother's children and my father's...they are all younger than me...these two are really the only people in the family that i had major problems, my oarents...i try to stay connected to my mother's children...but it is very difficult sometimes...it may be selfish of me, but i feel my highest priority is to my children...to keep them safe...if that means that i am not the best big sister, so be it...my fathers children i haven't seen since the last time i saw him...i worry most for my baby sister...she's 11...my brothers and i had my Grandmother to tend to us..my daughter and i try to stay in contact with her...but when my mother has chosen for me not to be around i can't see her...


I do have one brother that is the happiest damn drunk, we assume he is just like our grandfather! I can actually have fun with him when he is drunk, he is a jolly one....and that is most unusal in our family..... they usually are full of rage and abuse....

i have a brother like this...any time i am near him when he's drinking he just has to hug his sister...umm...that'd be me...in my family it doesn't even take drinking to set off the fighting...all it takes is one little response to any question...'and what do you mean by that'...i just can't take the chance that my kids would get caught up in the middle of this the way i would when i was a child

But...back to my dad's visit.... I know its only five days, and I'm grateful for that.... but he is so far gone its hard to even have a short conversation with him..... and I seem to concentrate on the hell of yesterday when he is near......so knowing that...I will make decisions about how much time and what kind of time I spend with him..... and always, always have a way to get out.....

Your time is valuable, my dear...mete it out as you see fit...i know about losing myself in yesterday...it just takes you over sometimes...i get caught up in a memory and can't work myself loose...having a way out is important...i have turned down family functions because i would have had no way to get home in a hurry...just to leave...you always need to have an emergency exit...or at least a way to take your mind out of the moment...

geesh.... bad topic here..... but its good to vent the anticipation of his visit.... I feel stronger about seeing him.... its good...

i'm a bit disappointed in this...i though we we're going to hijack this thread and fly it wherever we need to land...hmm...

*crossing her arms and tapping her foot lightly*

You need to smile, damn it...

talk to you soon...

C [/B][/QUOTE]

 

[Cathleen]

you're right....now we were in New Orleans as I recall..... lets hit Burbon Street and have some fun damn it!!

Talk to you soon sweetie.... I'm heading to bed now... early client tomorrow.....well maybe! Thats my choice too!!

Sweet dreams to you!

 

[alonelygal]

perhaps by that time, there wasn't much to protect.....

*sigh*


She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climbs and starry skies;
And all that's best of dark and bright
meet in her aspect and her eyes:
Thus mellowed to that tender light
which heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impaired the nameless grace,
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o'er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling place.

And on that cheek, and o'er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent.
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent!

...Byron

Cate...you know the funny thing is i can't stand this kind of talk from anyone but me...none of us deserved what happened...no child does...and there was and always will be in you something to be fiercely treasured and protected...promise me, if you never get anything else from our passing words, never again look back at the little girl that you were and say that maybe there wasn't much to protect...don't take from her, or from yourself as the grown woman that she has become, the beauty that resides in that soul...look at the child you were as if she were your own...even as she was at 12, at 13...tell me that child wasn't much to protect...don't make yourself less than because of someone else's actions...trust me...it is so not worth it...

 

[Cathleen]

I was only meaning, by that time....there had already been a damage that wouldn't be repaired for years to come.....

Thanks for the poem....I hadn't read that one in years....

How are you..... your titled changed again.....what's up? I understand the swinging pendulum....

Maybe its time we fly this plane to a new destination.... How about Switzerland.....High in the mountains.... enjoying the sun, being all that closer to it.....letting it shine upon us!

 

[Spenser41]

New Internet Worm

http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/internet/05/03/sasser.worm.reut/index.html

I believe this is what your problem is. I would advise you to go to your anti-virus software's site on another computer, download the lastest patch. Then run the patch and try to take the virus off that way. If that does not work, and sometimes it doesn't, I would then make sure you have a good back up of your work, and then reformat your hard drive to wipe this worm out. Or take it to a computer store in your town.
Another thing and this is an advice to all... I do computer repairs and so many people think the anti-virus that comes with their computer is always working. WRONG. It is a small 2-3 months demo and then it is no good. 1000's of viruses are written every day. You need to buy a good program and there are many to choose from and install it and pay your fee every year to keep viruses out and then also program the thing to check for updates every day. And if it is not set up to do it daily you do it daily. And run a scan every week. Another thing you should do is have 2 programs running. I have Nortons and AVG. AVG is free and sometimes will catch things that Norton does not and the other way around. It is better to be safe then sorry.
I hope this helps

 

[Mary Hall]

I had the same thing happen to me, my pc kept saying that message too, turns out i had that bastard Natchi worm

 

[alonelygal]

Re: New Internet Worm

http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/internet/05/03/sasser.worm.reut/index.html

I believe this is what your problem is. I would advise you to go to your anti-virus software's site on another computer, download the lastest patch. Then run the patch and try to take the virus off that way. If that does not work, and sometimes it doesn't, I would then make sure you have a good back up of your work, and then reformat your hard drive to wipe this worm out. Or take it to a computer store in your town.
Another thing and this is an advice to all... I do computer repairs and so many people think the anti-virus that comes with their computer is always working. WRONG. It is a small 2-3 months demo and then it is no good. 1000's of viruses are written every day. You need to buy a good program and there are many to choose from and install it and pay your fee every year to keep viruses out and then also program the thing to check for updates every day. And if it is not set up to do it daily you do it daily. And run a scan every week. Another thing you should do is have 2 programs running. I have Nortons and AVG. AVG is free and sometimes will catch things that Norton does not and the other way around. It is better to be safe then sorry.
I hope this helps

A friend told me about AVG..downloaded it, ran it, and i haven't had the problem again...its my fault as i let my anti-virus program expire...i will be a good girl and seek out something new, but for now i'll be a cheapskate and just use the freebie...

Thank you, Spenser...

 

[alonelygal]

I have a question for you...... do you or did you find.... that the abuse from our childhoods lead to other abuses.....kind of like being prep'd for it....or left out to hang sort of.... my father wasn't my only abuser, sexually.......I just wonder if in a sick kind of way....I was set up for more..... it was so odd, when my father's sexual abuse of me stopped, was right when I encountered a phone stalker....my parents didn't do anything about it....in fact it was thought to be a joke......but it wasn't I was about 12 or 13....it was sick....and went on and on.....with no help from my so called protectors.....perhaps by that time, there wasn't much to protect.....

Damn it...i've been avoiding this post like the plague...
hmm...okay...deep breath...

My father was not my only abuser...there were others when i was a child...no one ever knew...no one but me...and them...

Do i or did i find that the abuse from my childhood led to or set me up for other abuses...hmmm...

Dang it all, Cate...

Honestly...

*another deep breath because honesty sucks sometimes*

i look at my teen years and i can safely say that there had to be a reason for the way i was then...my worst abuser was not another but myself...i let myself get into situations and made some lifestyle choices that i may not have had i not had the childhood experiences that i did...so i guess the answer is yes...however much i hate looking back and in any way shape or form "blaming it on my parents"...i can look at specific occurences that could have been prevented had one or the other been paying attention...but for the things that they could have had no say in...hmm...i can't say if i would have done things differently had i not had the experiences that i did...who knows if things would have been different...i am the person that i am...i am a sum total of all my parts...i do know that i made some intenseley poor choices...but i will never know if those choices were a product of my past...or simply the person that i was...

Probably the main reason i was avoiding this post was that every time i looked at it it made me wonder about my sub tendencies... did my past make me feel the need for a DOM?...for a Master?...or is this simply something that i am at heart?...i don't want this to turn into a discussion about BDSM and a person's childhood influences towards that end...but if it does, it does...personally...i find a peace in the fulfillment of those particular desires...a certain peace that i don't want to examin away...

Ahh...well...i finally got through it...

Did you say something about Switzerland...sounds lovely...would you take over the plane for a bit...my eyes are tired...