help my wife...multiple O's
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Hi there goob --
I don't think that your sex life is necessarily all that unusual. I personally tend to have a very short fuse, if you know what I mean, and so my orgasms come fairly quickly. Sometimes that's what we both need, and that works fine.
I can have multiple orgasms in one lovemaking session, but sometimes after a particularly intense orgasm I need a "breather," some time to recuperate, as my clitoris is very sensitive after climax. I take that opportunity to give my lover some attention.So for example, I might orgasm, then stop intercourse and do a little heavy petting or give my lover oral sex until I'm ready to be touched again. If your wife is amenable you could discuss it with her.
Just my .02
hausfrau
I don't think that your sex life is necessarily all that unusual. I personally tend to have a very short fuse, if you know what I mean, and so my orgasms come fairly quickly. Sometimes that's what we both need, and that works fine.
I can have multiple orgasms in one lovemaking session, but sometimes after a particularly intense orgasm I need a "breather," some time to recuperate, as my clitoris is very sensitive after climax. I take that opportunity to give my lover some attention.So for example, I might orgasm, then stop intercourse and do a little heavy petting or give my lover oral sex until I'm ready to be touched again. If your wife is amenable you could discuss it with her.
Just my .02
hausfrau
Lynxie
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It sounds like your wife is a lot like me. My husband and I average about 30 minutes for foreplay (though there are definitely times where this can go much longer). Actual intercourse for us usually lasts maybe 10 minutes, 20 tops. I'm not a multiple-orgasmic woman, either, and my clit is far too sensitive after I cum for any more touching. Luckily, my guy's "fuse" is just about as long as mine; we're a good match for each other.
We've worked around this, though, and have found other ways to spice things up. We never let ourselves get into a rut when it comes to sex - we like to alternate positions, rent the occassional adult film, try out new toys, etc. While our sex sessions may be a bit short, they're definitely far from boring.
I've been told that not all women can achieve multiple orgasms. Whether this is true or not, I'm not certain. I'm content with my one kickass orgasm per sex session, but if your wife is looking for more there are certainly plenty of books and articles out there discussing techniques that may help. Try browsing Amazon and see what you can come up with. Good luck to you!
We've worked around this, though, and have found other ways to spice things up. We never let ourselves get into a rut when it comes to sex - we like to alternate positions, rent the occassional adult film, try out new toys, etc. While our sex sessions may be a bit short, they're definitely far from boring.
I've been told that not all women can achieve multiple orgasms. Whether this is true or not, I'm not certain. I'm content with my one kickass orgasm per sex session, but if your wife is looking for more there are certainly plenty of books and articles out there discussing techniques that may help. Try browsing Amazon and see what you can come up with. Good luck to you!
Bobmi357
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My wife can stand just one clitoral orgasm in a single session. But she is capable of multiple orgasms that aren't based on clitoral stimulation.
We've both read and tried the techniques in the "Read this and report back" thread, to little or no avail. It finally took logic believe it or not, to understand what was going on. She's multi-orgasmic, and usually comes 3-4 times during lovemaking. But those weren't clitoral orgasms. Her clitoral orgasms leave her hypersensitive.
I suppose you could call them vaginal orgasms, but I think all along she's been having g-spot orgasms and we just didn't recognize them for what they were.
Your wife can probably only handle one clitoral orgasm as well. But there are other ways of bringing her off without making her hyper. Read the thread about g spot orgasms. Try it, you may end up really liking the results.
As to your time frame, thats about normal for a single session. Real life isn't a porn movie where the fucking lasts for 60 minutes. Even the porn movies rarely have a continious session lasting that long. If you want your lovemaking to last longer, consider expanding your repetiore of what you two do together. Consider starting off with her giving you an oral or manual orgasm first. That will take the edge of you and slow down your second orgasm. PLUS since you will need time to recover, you'll be able to extend out the foreplay.
We've both read and tried the techniques in the "Read this and report back" thread, to little or no avail. It finally took logic believe it or not, to understand what was going on. She's multi-orgasmic, and usually comes 3-4 times during lovemaking. But those weren't clitoral orgasms. Her clitoral orgasms leave her hypersensitive.
I suppose you could call them vaginal orgasms, but I think all along she's been having g-spot orgasms and we just didn't recognize them for what they were.
Your wife can probably only handle one clitoral orgasm as well. But there are other ways of bringing her off without making her hyper. Read the thread about g spot orgasms. Try it, you may end up really liking the results.
As to your time frame, thats about normal for a single session. Real life isn't a porn movie where the fucking lasts for 60 minutes. Even the porn movies rarely have a continious session lasting that long. If you want your lovemaking to last longer, consider expanding your repetiore of what you two do together. Consider starting off with her giving you an oral or manual orgasm first. That will take the edge of you and slow down your second orgasm. PLUS since you will need time to recover, you'll be able to extend out the foreplay.
SlvrTongueDevil
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My SO is multi-orgasmic, but most of the time she doesn't think she can be. That is, she thinks she's done, but if I continue (ever so gently), then she builds up another head of steam. Sometimes the subsequent ones come quickly, sometimes very slowly. But it is definitely a learned situation. Practice, practice, practice.
