How do I get husband to be more dominate in bed?

[Needssome]

Hey.....thanks everybody for all your help! And yes he is the kind of person who gets off at knowing that the other person is getting pleasure.....but so am I! I didn't mind at first since he had next to no experience and was trying to make up for it in that way but now that he's almost as experienced as I was coming into the relationship I wouldn't mind him taking the reins more often....it's hard enough for me to come up with something everytime but when by nature I'm a bit more passive it's driving me nuts...I've talked to him about it but he seems to think I'm insulting him more than anything. No matter how often I tell him how wonderful in bed he is and how sexy I think he is!

It's just so hard.....I care for him but I don't think we'll be together forever....He's got 1 year of school while I have plans for at least another 5 with 4 of those being in another city of some sort....A long distance relationship probably won't work out too well.....I'm just too needy But I care for him right now and I can't say for sure what'll happen so I'm going to enjoy being with a sweet and terrific guy...even if it means not getting everything I want! Thanks again!

 

[Dynamite]

Tell him...

you crashed the car and forgot to pay the last insurance bill. lol

 

[SXCRgirl]

Talk to him. But don't talk to him WHILE you guys are making love. Express to him that you want to please HIM. Tell him that it drives you wild to know that you are driving HIM wild. Ask him what he enjoys in bed, ask him what his fantasies are. Listen to what he says and what he doesn't say.

He sounds like a keeper and you're lucky. Don't look for *it* somewhere else. You've got a gem here, you just need to polish it a bit.

Good luck!

 

[beefyboy]

tease him

toy with him one day. touch him, tease him, tantalize him. then go make breakfast. when he comes home from work, act like you don't even remember any sexual promises. do it a few times if you need to, and make it easy for him to take you if he makes the move, but don't offer. act stupid. sooner or later, he'll have to take you strong.

 

[HeidiManshankVA]

Threaten to leave him for a first post!

You hussy!*L*

p.s. if it works, let me know *wink*

 

[HeidiManshankVA]

I love my hubby and he's a good lover, but he could be great if he could only make me feel a little submissive in bed.
I am always the agressor and the initiator and I hate it.
I have had many more sexual experiences than he has and I have done everything including telling him step-by-step what to do and say.
I think he's nervous he'll sound stupid. My god, We've done everything together and I can't imagine him feeling odd talking dirty - but he does!
I find myself imagining he is saying nasty things to me when we are having sex! I want the real thing!
Thoughts anyone??
Honestly, I don't want to go outside of our marriage for hot, nasty sex -again- as I have done in the past. But I find myself looking at other men and sending out signals!! Is there hope for this horney housewife??

If he has email, copy a couple of the stories that drive you absofuckinglutely wild and email them to him. The heading should read, "I want YOU like this."

 

[gothedistance]

Re: Re: How do I get husband to be more dominate in bed?

If he has email, copy a couple of the stories that drive you absofuckinglutely wild and email them to him. The heading should read, "I want YOU like this."

Unless it's work email and they monitor content...

In which case you could call him and read them to him while he sits at his desk.