how do I make him my bitch?

[auntiemame]

My lover is much more experienced than me in kinky sex, I'm much more traditional and perhaps even boring. He likes to be submissive, and for months has been telling me that he wants to be my bitch. How in the world do I go about doing this?

Ideas and eye-openers are gratefully apprechiated!

 

[PickOne]

Dress him accordingly for starters

 

[SubNebGuy]

and that'd be a good start too...go buy a pair of lacy pink panties..thong preferred. when he gets up in the morning, after his shower, inform him that's what he's to wear today. make him wait several hours, mid to late afternoon, then take him into the bedroom, tie his hands up, and get started.

spanking is always good. i love to have my ass played with, but that may not be his thing...but don't let him say its not until he's tried it

 

[human_male]

You could rent a video that has men being dominated by a mistress, see if that gives you any ideas. Or go to one yourself for tips if you're really adventurous.

Just for starters be really dominant. Order him around, tell him what to do and chastise him if he does something you haven't told him to do. To get in the right frame of mind for that, imagine you're a school marm in some victorian boarding school, strutting up and down in front of the class slapping a cane against your thigh or in your palm, telling the students what bad boys they've been and how they're going to get a thrashing if they don't do what they're told. That kind of thing. Actually, that sounds pretty good.

Have fun with it, and don't be shy.

 

[phoenix1224]

The only suggestion that I can make that hasn't already been made is to get a stapon... If he REALLY wants to be your "bitch", he'll love it.

 

[M's girl]

I suggest you take a look at the BDSM forum as well. Although being submissive does not necessarily mean that you like all the BDSM aspects, it is sure one of them. He might know (or not) already what he likes or dislikes but you say you don't know where to start. So I would say it's good you know what's out there; from the mild submissive to the hardcore BDSM. You might get some ideas too.

If you tell him you've been browsing the BDSM forum for pointers and ideas he might appreciate that very much and if you two find it hard to discuss the subject into detail you can point out threads and posts and tell each other what you think would be fun and what you think would be off limit for you.

 

[SubNebGuy]

I would also suggest reading the BSDM stories too. While not exactly 'educational' per say...they are creative and can give you plenty of ideas, in conjunction with the info in the forums.

 

[Moxon4]

I would also suggest reading the BSDM stories too. While not exactly 'educational' per say...they are creative and can give you plenty of ideas, in conjunction with the info in the forums.

To go along with this, check your computer to see where he is visiting, or have him pick out some stories that he enjoys so you have more of an idea as to what he is looking for

 

[auntiemame]

The only suggestion that I can make that hasn't already been made is to get a stapon...

Uhhh, explain?

 

[SweetErika]

Uhhh, explain?

I'm thinking Phoenix was suggesting a strap-on dildo. There are tons of threads on strapons here, so I'd suggest doing a search for recommendations on specific types and brands. The Feeldoe and Vac-u-loc seem to be among the most popular.

 

[emap]

I'm surprised nobody has said this one yet, talk to him about it. I know you have somewhat, but not that much since you don't know how to go about making him your bitch. If you were to sit him down and have him explain exactly what he likes and dislikes, you don't need to be searching through anything unless you are tired of doing the same things and want to find something new that fits into his wants.

I'm not kidding here, he already has a very good idea of what he wants you to do to him, so ask him about it. Though I think you should take a school marm approach to asking him. Not with a cane in your hand or anything like that, but next time you find him and you alone, grab him by the shoulders, guide him to a seat sit across from him, cross your legs and sit there and wait for him to explain, only interrupt if you have a question. After either go buy some things, or toss him on the bed and do what he wants you to do.

 

[AHHSBITCH]

Emaps Right

When someone wants to be made to be a bitch, even though to the on looker the dominant is the one whose getting all the pleasure, its normally the opposite, remember he asked for this, and becuase he asked that means hes comfortable with you, so since we already know hes comfortable and we know that he knows exactly what he wants. ask.....its that simple, although there are somethings he may be embarassed about that if you bring up it will make his fetishes that much easier to play out, things like role reversal, be it with your fingers, or strapon play, or things like crossdressing, thats the type of thing that some straight men although there intrigued about it are not apt to talk about to there female partner, especially if they know that there SO is not as open minded as them or wasnt in the past, such as in your situation.
Basically, set him down, not like a dad sits down to talk about grade in school, and not as a mistress or lover would in foreplay, but somewhere in the middle, playfully but not like right before an actual sex session.
Ask, the what he wants, listen and then cover the things that he didnt, jsut incase hes shy about it....(as for a list of those tings, you can find plenty in the bdsm threads)

Me being a straight man who is into being a sub and "taken" by a woman and everything that that suggests, i know its hard to ask someone.....becuase you dont know if there going to get idea about you being, gay, or bisexual, or your past, blah blah blah all that silly stuff that shouldnt matter.
I had one other SO in the past that did this, and now, after 4 months of being with my new girlfriend, im just getting up to that stage, and thats even very very fast in my opinion, (only becuase it seems as though weve fallin in love and she is the first woman ive felt this comfortable with since the last)

hope that helps.

 

[lili_fromtx]

When my BF is playing the sub I frequently ride him (him on his back) and let him know that he will come in my pussy and I will sit on his face and make him lick me clean.

But I really tell him what Im going to do before I do it. Cause that's party of the fun.

Like I'll reach back and fondle his balls while I ride him and say "Mmm your balls feel so big. You better FILL my pussy with cum. Are you gonna be a good slave and fill my cunt with cum?"

And if he says yes then I tell him "Good boy." Looking him in the eyes while I ride him "Cause then you're gonna lick my pussy clean. I'm gonna sit on your face and you're gonna lick me clean. You ready to feel your cum drip into your mouth from my cunt?"

 

[FallenAngelsSlut]

When my BF is playing the sub I frequently ride him (him on his back) and let him know that he will come in my pussy and I will sit on his face and make him lick me clean.

But I really tell him what Im going to do before I do it. Cause that's party of the fun.

Like I'll reach back and fondle his balls while I ride him and say "Mmm your balls feel so big. You better FILL my pussy with cum. Are you gonna be a good slave and fill my cunt with cum?"

And if he says yes then I tell him "Good boy." Looking him in the eyes while I ride him "Cause then you're gonna lick my pussy clean. I'm gonna sit on your face and you're gonna lick me clean. You ready to feel your cum drip into your mouth from my cunt?"

WOW that is so hot! I hope My Mistress reads this!
You could always PM her she has a lot of great ideas her screen name is FallenAngel3

 

[ladyadonia30]

simple

get a dog collar and leash...make him wear it. Smack him, and order him around. Start with
"kiss my feet you bitch," then, with collar and leash, direct him to your feet.
"Suck my toes."
If he doesn't do it to your liking, smack his ass with either a fly swatter, or a whip if you have one.

 

[uptoplay2]

have you tried the Feedoe?

I'm thinking Phoenix was suggesting a strap-on dildo. There are tons of threads on strapons here, so I'd suggest doing a search for recommendations on specific types and brands. The Feeldoe and Vac-u-loc seem to be among the most popular.

Odd that the first woman I ever contacted on the forum mentions feeldoe, so I had to ask. Are they finally getting popular? Over 100O on a yahoo group devoted to them seems to say yes, but so little feedback from women about them. I think the ladies who have them want all the guys to themselves. They aren't going to reveal their impressions.

Bottom line.. for my wanting to be "the bitch" (and I'm not into the humilation) .. SHE has to be enjoying the experience physically AND mentally. I think the feeldoe, nexus, or vac-u-loc systems are the best bets to ensure that SHE is doing it for her benefit. Not to see my reaction. Not for some power high, but to feel what it's like to fuck. I want to know how she likes it. Fast... hard.... rhythmic.. grind.... all that will help me be a better lover. Putting her in charge of my orgasm (and hers) is the best way to show that I'm really interested in impoving our love life. With practice... or really strong kegels... the feedoe seems the best bet for making the experience simple, intimate, and "real". There has been a post that the Nexus can go harnessless, but the feeldoe has more options.... for some other uses that would also be fun. Without a harness..... I think the whole atmosphere changes. Feeling every bump, grind and pull... certainly makes it at least equal... and that would be how to get me into it. (or it into me)

 

[AHHSBITCH]

Uptoplay, You Seem(from What Ive Read) Very Excited About The Feeldoe. Have You Ever Experienced It? I Havent Yet, But Will Very Likely Try It Eventually.

 

[SillyBits]

Feeldoe

I was on the receiving end of a feeldoe from a girlfriend last year. It did something for her, and it was much easier for me to take than the veined dildo we'd used before. However, I'm a slim guy and the curve of the feeldoe was enough to be uncomfortable when she penetrated me more than a few inches. Turns out I need to be penetrated by a relatively straight dildo, which is frustrating since I really liked the idea of the feeldoe.

Has anyone out there tried the vac-u-lock system (especially the ultra harness)? Do women find that works well? If (when?) ever I am with another girl who is interested in reversing roles, I'd like to get her something that works well for both of us...

 

[AHHSBITCH]

thanks for the info. I havent tried the vaculock yet, but my last SO that i tried role reversal with used a simple leather/nylon harness, with a cyberskin realistic attachment(a push through with a base) and with the exception of being a pain to put on, it worked very well, very sturdy and didnt fall off or anything, and she always really liked to go to town on me, full speed. as fast/hard as she could. never any complaints here,

 

[hogjack]

get a dog collar and leash...make him wear it. Smack him, and order him around. Start with
"kiss my feet you bitch," then, with collar and leash, direct him to your feet.
"Suck my toes."
If he doesn't do it to your liking, smack his ass with either a fly swatter, or a whip if you have one.

Fine advice.

And make him do the fucking laundry, too. That bitch.

 

[deluxe3000]

The idea of being a woman's bitch is such a turn on. I love being on the receiving end of sex as I am always the penetrator it is pretty damned hot to be the penetratee every once in a while. I guess it's a great way to get in touch with one's feminine side, or submissive side, or you can pretend that your SO is actually a man. I've done all of these scenarios with my SO and it is a lot of steamy fun. Sometimes I'll dress in a skirt and she'll fuck me from behind or while on my back with her strapon. It is really steamy with her being the 'male' and I, the 'female' play with my very enlarged 'clit' while being fucked. Sometimes it's fun to have her be a guy and I end up sucking her 'dick' and then he (she) fucks me in the ass. Lots of erotic fun.

 

[uptoplay2]

Tried it?

Uptoplay, You Seem(from What Ive Read) Very Excited About The Feeldoe. Have You Ever Experienced It? I Havent Yet, But Will Very Likely Try It Eventually.

Alone ... yes.

As to it's curve..... well....... I'm hoping that if that's a problem when the time comes, we will find the right position.

There's a post right now at the yahoo group of a fairly radical position that really created pressure. I'm assuming it wasn't painful, since they stayed in that position for a long time... thought multiple orgasms for her.

 

[rbijon]

My Mistress fucks me, and calls me Her pantyboyloveslave, and treats me that was.....and I love it.

Is there anyone who can tell me how their Mistress treats them?

....and Hello Fallen

 

[rbijon]

WOW that is so hot! I hope My Mistress reads this!
You could always PM her she has a lot of great ideas her screen name is FallenAngel3

Me TOO!

 

[DrDon]

When she makes me her bitch ...or 'pussyboy'...she uses the strap-ons...panties...even stocking at times...and assorted riding crops, paddles, belts...She will handcuff me at times...fuck me over the bed and have me kneel in a wooden chair to get fucked, now that is hot! She may talk dirty and even tell me not to say a word.

Yes it is fun, if it's your cup of tea. I enjoy it. We don't do it on a regular basis, but when we do...it's over-the-top hot!

I am the dominant one...but it's nice to have the tables turned once in a while.