How do I rebreak the ice?

[MissGraves]

First off hi everyone this is my first post.

Ok so heres the problem.I was always the quiet girl up untill about three years ago when I sort of "came out of my shell".Being about 16 then I had just found the party crowd type of people and started haveing a groups of friends outside of my normal ones which my brother was always part of ,me and him are 2 years apart so we have always known alot of the same people.What I realised after haveing 3 boyfriends in those groups of people is that without i go out of town to meet people , there always going to be connected to other people who are connected to someone my brother knows and it starts that shitty "ooohh you sister fucked that dude" highschool drama.So i just said screw it ,i'm not going to date in my group of friends anymore i'll just have to find guys a diffrent way.

Well after about a year I realise i really don't care what my brother thinks, he knows i'm not innocent and I know about his girlfriends and stuff.We dont talk about it but we know what each other dose.So now my problem is'nt with him, it's with the how other people vew me because of the way i'v acted because I did'nt want him to think bad of me.I'v pretty much put every guy I know into "the friend zone" i mean we still have fun togeather and still flirt with some, But most treat me diffrent than thay treat any other girl thay know.I'm not really just a hang out girl ,but i'm not really dateable either.

I really want to know how to rebreak the ice, now to "un-friend zone" some of the guys I know.I know i could most likey juust ask them but that takes so much fun out it.Plus unless i'm at a party ,my brother dosent really like to go to many,i'm still hanging out with him and them at the same time(i still cant say "hey wana fuck" to a guy infront of my brother), and i can't really make moves at partys because well..at times like that i'm pretty blunt and to the point and i dont want to come off wrong because alot of these guys are friends that could be more just wont make moves because of how i'v acted in the past.Just some input on how to seem more dateable would be nice.

This problem has been floating around in my head for a few months now and i would really like to solve it.

Oh yea i might want to add that I am the hang out type girl,most guys can be friends with me even if theres no sexual attraction so new guys i met get that impression aloing with what thay hear from other people.

 

[AvaAdore]

Maybe go out clubbing with a guy you like? Get closer on the dance floor or some such, and see if he wants to take it further?

 

[PoeticMusings]

Action Plans

1. Invite one over who you have a good rapport with for a bad movie, talk about how boring the movie is, then lean over and kiss. I've done it at least a dozen times for transition from friends to more.

If they don't like it or aren't interested, move on. Its not a big deal and someone will go for it.

2. Ask guys out. Some will say no, but its no big deal. Some will assume that you want to sleep with them on the first date when you make the move, but they'll probably be far more enchanted after you show them your "I'm just kind of seeing if you are worth dating full time" attitude by not going any further than a brief kiss.

If they don't like it or aren't interested, move on. Its not a big deal and someone will go for it.

3. Don't meet guys at clubs. Guys who go clubbing are douchebags that are there for the dancing, or players who are only there for the sluts. Classes, coffee shops, book stores, malls, and etc are far better choices to meet a quality someone.