Over the last few years I admit that I'm getting more comfortable with anal sex. For a long time, I just went along with it because I knew the hubby enjoyed it from time to time. After some reading and a few videos, I think we're both more relaxed and we seem to be into anal more frequently. It sounds like a weird question but I'm wondering how frequently people have anal? We have regular sex about twice a week and anal was always about a once a month thing, but lately that has become more frequent. I no that there probably is no normal or average but can you overdo anal?
How frequently for anal sex?
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I may be wrong since I don't feel like googling and it's been a while since I've seen anything on it. 
Anyway according to what I have heard the size of the person inserting into a butthole is a key factor on how often you can do it and minimize major medical problems later. Of course i suppose i should mention that using butt plugs to stretch out to accept him comfortably is a very good idea as well, and lube, never can have to much lube.
Length isn't a factor, it's all about width. So if you have a john holmes of width, once a month is stretching it on safe. If he's a pencil dick, you can do it a few times a week. That said though, i remember a doctor saying that anal more than twice a month with an average thickness dick is safe enough to avoid more than perhaps a diaper in old age. Many rather need one of those anyway so I suppose that's a rather good spot to be.
Now keep in mind I may be wrong, and the information I recall is a bit old at this point but i always figured it's a rather good place to stay at. Pussy is made to accept objects and exit much larger objects, buttholes on the other hand are only designed to exit rather small objects, width wise anyway.
Anyway according to what I have heard the size of the person inserting into a butthole is a key factor on how often you can do it and minimize major medical problems later. Of course i suppose i should mention that using butt plugs to stretch out to accept him comfortably is a very good idea as well, and lube, never can have to much lube.
Length isn't a factor, it's all about width. So if you have a john holmes of width, once a month is stretching it on safe. If he's a pencil dick, you can do it a few times a week. That said though, i remember a doctor saying that anal more than twice a month with an average thickness dick is safe enough to avoid more than perhaps a diaper in old age. Many rather need one of those anyway so I suppose that's a rather good spot to be.
Now keep in mind I may be wrong, and the information I recall is a bit old at this point but i always figured it's a rather good place to stay at. Pussy is made to accept objects and exit much larger objects, buttholes on the other hand are only designed to exit rather small objects, width wise anyway.
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honestly i didnt know there was a limit to how many times was safe.
This may sound stupid, but its a side note to this topic.
What about double penetration? Before my boyfriend left for afghanistan-he loved it. And wasnt afraid to ask for it either.
How safe is double pen?
This may sound stupid, but its a side note to this topic.
What about double penetration? Before my boyfriend left for afghanistan-he loved it. And wasnt afraid to ask for it either.
How safe is double pen?
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people use the expression "double penetration" to mean two different things.
1. two cocks/cock stand-ins, inserted vaginally and anally at the same time.
2. two cocks/cock stand-ins, both inserted either vaginally or anally at the same time.
the porn industry really needs to figure out which one they want the expression to mean. me, i always understood it to mean the latter, whereas the former is (at least according to porn) an inevitable consequence of a woman enjoying two cocks/cock stand-ins at the same time.
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1. two cocks/cock stand-ins, inserted vaginally and anally at the same time.
2. two cocks/cock stand-ins, both inserted either vaginally or anally at the same time.
the porn industry really needs to figure out which one they want the expression to mean. me, i always understood it to mean the latter, whereas the former is (at least according to porn) an inevitable consequence of a woman enjoying two cocks/cock stand-ins at the same time.
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Well, from the scientific literature, there is no relationship between frequency of anal and any sort of problem. Assholes and cunts are both muscles just like any other and are capable of stretching and returning to their normal size. The only reason childbirth sometimes causes problems is if it does damage that doesn't heal well. If we're talking extremely rough anal to the point that you're severly damaging the muscle, then, you might have problems.I may be wrong since I don't feel like googling and it's been a while since I've seen anything on it.
Anyway according to what I have heard the size of the person inserting into a butthole is a key factor on how often you can do it and minimize major medical problems later. Of course i suppose i should mention that using butt plugs to stretch out to accept him comfortably is a very good idea as well, and lube, never can have to much lube.
Length isn't a factor, it's all about width. So if you have a john holmes of width, once a month is stretching it on safe. If he's a pencil dick, you can do it a few times a week. That said though, i remember a doctor saying that anal more than twice a month with an average thickness dick is safe enough to avoid more than perhaps a diaper in old age. Many rather need one of those anyway so I suppose that's a rather good spot to be.
Now keep in mind I may be wrong, and the information I recall is a bit old at this point but i always figured it's a rather good place to stay at. Pussy is made to accept objects and exit much larger objects, buttholes on the other hand are only designed to exit rather small objects, width wise anyway.
As for double penetration, it should be safe in general. The biggest concern would be possibly spreading bacteria if the two guys' dicks touch each other.
I wanted to thank everyone for responding to the post. I'm still a bit in the dark about frequency. My husband isn't huge, but I guess you would say he is a bit above average.
As I mentioned earlier, we're getting better at this with the preparation and lube to the point where I come with just a little clit stimulation added to the anal. It sounds like the answer is take it easy and use plenty of lube.
As I mentioned earlier, we're getting better at this with the preparation and lube to the point where I come with just a little clit stimulation added to the anal. It sounds like the answer is take it easy and use plenty of lube.
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i was meaning 1 cock plus a toy.
Not in the same hole lol that would be painful.
Cock in pussy, toy in ass or vise versa.
and yeah i agree that the porn industry need to figure it out.
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That's probably because there's no right answer. Whatever frequency works for you and your partner--provided you're not doing damage--is the right one. Similarly, whatever style is comfortable for you two is the right one.
Problems might come up if you're too rough, unlubed, into massive dilation frequently and/or you're having unprotected sex or sex with many people (which can lead to infections, including UTIs, HPV, herpes, and possibly anal cancer).
That's about right. If it's not hurting you and you don't have negative effects in the aftermath, you should be doing just fine. Pain is a pretty good indicator that something's amiss, which is why using a numbing product for anal is a terrible idea.
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Personally Ive only just started to try anal and its so horny!! We use lots of lube and a long jelly slim feel vibe, the orgasms are totally different, way more intense and he loves to watch the vibe sliding in and out so it gets him hot too.
Weve not gotton onto him using his cock (which is way bigger than my vibe!!) but practisings way fun!
I reckon as long as youre enjoying it there shouldnt be a limit on how often you do it, good hygeine makes sense though, I clean my toys with that anti-bac gel you can buy-like the stuff nurses use.
Weve not gotton onto him using his cock (which is way bigger than my vibe!!
) but practisings way fun! I reckon as long as youre enjoying it there shouldnt be a limit on how often you do it, good hygeine makes sense though, I clean my toys with that anti-bac gel you can buy-like the stuff nurses use.
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Go ahead
Go ahead, try his real cock, and tell us the result
Personally Ive only just started to try anal and its so horny!! We use lots of lube and a long jelly slim feel vibe, the orgasms are totally different, way more intense and he loves to watch the vibe sliding in and out so it gets him hot too.
Weve not gotton onto him using his cock (which is way bigger than my vibe!!
I reckon as long as youre enjoying it there shouldnt be a limit on how often you do it, good hygeine makes sense though, I clean my toys with that anti-bac gel you can buy-like the stuff nurses use.
Go ahead, try his real cock, and tell us the result
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Long overdue.
Most of my own thoughts and thinking on this has already been said so far, so i guess all that needs to be added is only go at the pace your comfertable with. I have heard horror stories of such play resulting in the need to wear diapers at an older age, but thats all they've been - stories. If you enjoy it, then keep exploring if you have any doubts, check with your doctor!
if you have any doubts, check with your doctor!Badgirl105
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Go ahead, try his real cock, and tell us the result
Dont worry, I`ll be on here bragging in detail soon.........
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anal yoga
once to twice a week can work, especially when combined with pussy and yoga positions
once to twice a week can work, especially when combined with pussy and yoga positions
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More often than not, I have a bowel movement at least once a day that is equal in size to most penises I've seen. I've never had a problem with coming out or going in.
The issue about potential incontinence is about the strength of the sphincters. Damage to the sphincter muscles could only be caused by some kind of abuse.
Therefore, be good to your asshole and your asshole will be good to you.
By the way, that advice can be applied in a number of different ways!!
The issue about potential incontinence is about the strength of the sphincters. Damage to the sphincter muscles could only be caused by some kind of abuse.
Therefore, be good to your asshole and your asshole will be good to you.
By the way, that advice can be applied in a number of different ways!!
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While I get the point about a bumhole being able to take a penis-sized turd once a day, I'm not sure that's a good measure for how often you can have anal sex (unless these turds are going in-out-in-out-in-out etc etc - mine just pass through my sphincter the once, in just the one direction).
