how many husbands....

[MarlD]

this isn't strictly for husbands, or guys i wouldn't mind some women/wifes viewpoint on this either

my question is how many of you husbands/boyfriends have the fantasy of seeing your Significant Other having sex with another guy.

i've had the fantasy for a while...unfortunately for me my wife isn't into threesomes (with another guy or girl) so i'm kinda stuck with the fantasy in my head, writings and movies.

 

[Mansa Musa]

this isn't strictly for husbands, or guys i wouldn't mind some women/wifes viewpoint on this either

my question is how many of you husbands/boyfriends have the fantasy of seeing your Significant Other having sex with another guy.

i've had the fantasy for a while...unfortunately for me my wife isn't into threesomes (with another guy or girl) so i'm kinda stuck with the fantasy in my head, writings and movies.

I like fucking wives, and I like the idea of the husband watching, but you keep your hands to yourself!

 

[SweetErika]

This is a very common fantasy/turn-on.

It's not one of my husband's specific kinks, but we've had MFM threesomes, and he supports me in having other partners. He's said he enjoys seeing me happy and it brings out something almost animalistic in him - seeing (or knowing) another man with "his woman" draws out just enough possessiveness and jealousy to really get him going.

We think there's something attractive about knowing our spouse is highly desired by others, and have talked about the physical and psychological reasons behind it and responses at length. It's all very interesting to us, but then we're social science geeks.

 

[MarlD]

lol....personally it's more of the coming home and finding her with someone else fantasy...but just seeing her being fucked by another guy is a big turn on

 

[esorm66]

this isn't strictly for husbands, or guys i wouldn't mind some women/wifes viewpoint on this either

my question is how many of you husbands/boyfriends have the fantasy of seeing your Significant Other having sex with another guy.

i've had the fantasy for a while...unfortunately for me my wife isn't into threesomes (with another guy or girl) so i'm kinda stuck with the fantasy in my head, writings and movies.

This does absolutely nothing for me.

 

[Lady Reiha]

I like fucking wives, and I like the idea of the husband watching, but you keep your hands to yourself!

Mr. Essex!!!!! tsk Tsk!

 

[Bert Notorius]

I was somehow expecting something like: ...does it take to screw in a light bulb.

 

[Eilan]

I was somehow expecting something like: ...does it take to screw in a light bulb.

I was thinking the same thing!

my question is how many of you husbands/boyfriends have the fantasy of seeing your Significant Other having sex with another guy.

My husband and I did a few of these a couple of years ago. For us, the fantasy was much better than the reality. I'm not dying to try it again, but if the circumstances were right (and I have no idea what would make the circumstances right) I'd consider it. Other people's mileage may vary.

 

[BluEyes13]

My fantasy is to watch my husband with another women, so something along your lines. We've done other things in the way of 3somes, but never intercourse. What we have done has been very arousing for me to watch.

 

[somberReality]

My hubby wasn't like that......some women get all the luck *grumbles*

 

[necroerotica]

My wife has suggested this in the past, but the idea makes me a little insane with jealousy, to be honest. I'm not overly possessive, but I do fully realise it has to do with my own insecurities.

She once suggested getting another woman for the two of us (she's Bi), and when I said I liked the idea, she (rightly) called me out on my hypocrisy.

The only explanation I could give was that, whereas she likes both men and women, I'm boringly straight and another man would do nothing for me.
Plus, y'know, the insecurities.

 

[cutiekatie]

My lover once arranged for me to have sex with two other men. He joined in eventually, but it was really sexy to watch him jerking off, wide-eyed, gawping at me with two of his mates.

But i aree you have to be careful otherwise peopel can easily get upset so you should know what you;re getting itno before you agree to do anyting. Somethings are better as fantasies.

 

[MarlD]

oh, i know you have to know what your getting into...It's not going to happen because my wife wont do it. i've asked her about the threesome(MFM or MFF) before and she said no.

and I'm fully straight it's just the idea of her fucking another guy that turns me on.

oh well maybe someday

 

[phoneman69]

oh, i know you have to know what your getting into...It's not going to happen because my wife wont do it. i've asked her about the threesome(MFM or MFF) before and she said no.

and I'm fully straight it's just the idea of her fucking another guy that turns me on.

oh well maybe someday

you want to catch her cheating basically

 

[BluEyes13]

My wife has suggested this in the past, but the idea makes me a little insane with jealousy, to be honest. I'm not overly possessive, but I do fully realise it has to do with my own insecurities.

She once suggested getting another woman for the two of us (she's Bi), and when I said I liked the idea, she (rightly) called me out on my hypocrisy.

The only explanation I could give was that, whereas she likes both men and women, I'm boringly straight and another man would do nothing for me.
Plus, y'know, the insecurities.

You sound a lot like my husband. He can become very insecure, and he is also very straight.

I'm fine with doing the MFF and skipping the MFM thing. Being with another man is somewhat past my comfort level, but arousing at the same time.

We just try to keep the lines of communication open best we can, and try to work together to be comfortabel with each other's fantasies.

 

[MarlD]

you want to catch her cheating basically

that is part of it too....

 

[SweetErika]

you want to catch her cheating basically

that is part of it too....

Why is that, MarlD? I don't understand the appeal of catching a S.O. cheating.

 

[Eilan]

How is it cheating if you want her to do it?

 

[texasm31]

I would not go so far as to call it a fantasy of mine, but I would be cool with it. She should be able to make her own decisions, and if that were something she wanted, its her choice. Of course, she suspects that I feel this way since she claims she would never do it, and if I were actually in that situation, I would not be so free. Even with this we have difference of opinion.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Mr. Essex!!!!! tsk Tsk!

I don´t like having my testicles fondled by strange men, OK?

 

[bholderman]

The funny thing is I havent been in these forums since early 2006. However, this very subject is what brought me back.

Its a huge turn on for me, and I've just lately admitted it to my wife by way of a text conversation when she was in Vegas.

I'm still trying to figure a way to nudge her over the edge.

Brad

this isn't strictly for husbands, or guys i wouldn't mind some women/wifes viewpoint on this either

my question is how many of you husbands/boyfriends have the fantasy of seeing your Significant Other having sex with another guy.

i've had the fantasy for a while...unfortunately for me my wife isn't into threesomes (with another guy or girl) so i'm kinda stuck with the fantasy in my head, writings and movies.

 

[somberReality]

My wife has suggested this in the past, but the idea makes me a little insane with jealousy, to be honest. I'm not overly possessive, but I do fully realise it has to do with my own insecurities.

She once suggested getting another woman for the two of us (she's Bi), and when I said I liked the idea, she (rightly) called me out on my hypocrisy.

The only explanation I could give was that, whereas she likes both men and women, I'm boringly straight and another man would do nothing for me.
Plus, y'know, the insecurities.

Well, not to be the devil's advocate, but yes that is a bit hypocritical. My husband (now ex) and i were swingers, and if one could do something, so could the other. If you get jealous about her being with someone else, the answer is simple. Just be with each other and no one else.

 

[SweetErika]

Well, not to be the devil's advocate, but yes that is a bit hypocritical. My husband (now ex) and i were swingers, and if one could do something, so could the other. If you get jealous about her being with someone else, the answer is simple. Just be with each other and no one else.

I don't think feeling jealousy is the problem - it's choosing to act on that jealousy in a negative way that causes trouble. Everyone feels jealous at one time or another; some choose to channel it in a positive manner (e.g. communication, acts of kindness), whereas others stuff it away, build resentment, try to ruin relationships, etc. It's that second group of people that usually are poorly suited for nonmonogamy.

 

[Wyvern1096]

Never flipped a switch for me. Too much of a trust issue.

 

[necroerotica]

Well, not to be the devil's advocate, but yes that is a bit hypocritical. My husband (now ex) and i were swingers, and if one could do something, so could the other. If you get jealous about her being with someone else, the answer is simple. Just be with each other and no one else.

Oh I fully acknowledge that - I know how hypocritical it is, and I know that my jealousy probably doesn't make any rational sense, but, y'know, that's just how I feel. And no, we never went through with it.

Maybe just to redeem myself a little - like I said, she's bi, and I know she's been with other women - because she tells me. I realised a long time ago that was a part of her that I couldn't satisfy because, well, I have the wrong bits Oddly, maybe, I don't see women as a threat, the same way I do with men. Hell, I even acted as a secret other-end-of-the-bar chaperone a couple of times when she went to meet women through personals.