how many husbands....

[Lincolukmale]

I have watched my wife with other guys, and loved it.
I have participated in straight and bi (orally only) MMF and loved it
My wife has entertained a guy whilst I have been at work, and then told me all about it, and I loved it.
Unfortunately we don't seem to get chance to have fun often enough

 

[SweetErika]

Maybe just to redeem myself a little - like I said, she's bi, and I know she's been with other women - because she tells me. I realised a long time ago that was a part of her that I couldn't satisfy because, well, I have the wrong bits Oddly, maybe, I don't see women as a threat, the same way I do with men. Hell, I even acted as a secret other-end-of-the-bar chaperone a couple of times when she went to meet women through personals.

I think not seeing other women as (much of) a threat is pretty common. We've talked about this at length, and figure it could be largely biological - at least my husband thinks there's a part of his brain that says, "WARNING! This other dude is competing with you to procreate with your mate!"

Of course I'm not any less likely to leave him for another woman than another man, so we settled on lots of talking, rules that reduced the perceived threat and make both of us feel secure, and plenty of reassurance that I wasn't going to run off with someone else.

 

[MarlD]

Why is that, MarlD? I don't understand the appeal of catching a S.O. cheating.

I think it mostly has to do with it's something totally unexpected for her to do, and that she has told me that I'm the only person period she wants to be with, which is one reason why I haven't pushed the issue besides mentioning it once or twice. I respect her choice, doesn't mean I can't fantasize about it

So i guess that part of it is just to see her do something TOTALLY out of character for her.

 

[maverick62]

It was my fantasy for a long time and I used the drip method, just mentioning it on ocassion and a lot when we had great sex and while on vacation. She said she was not interested and I was the only one for her and then it happened.

She came home one day and told me that the broker she worked for told her that one of his business friends wanted to get in her panties. I told her well, babe, here is your chance to have sex with another guy. She said she wasn't interested and took the comment was a compliment.

This guy, "Ted", was persistent and brought her flowers, they had coffee togethere all unknown to me. After the fact she told me they kissed a couple of times in his office (he was a bank exec.) and then they went to lunch and to a motel. This went on for 6 months before she told me. She said it was great sex and told me the details. After several discussions, I agreed to let her have Wednesdays as her day with "Ted". I'd trim her pussy and watch her lay out her clothes for her Wed. dates. I'd see his cum in her pussy when she got home. She was opposed to me watching or having a 3some. Our sex improved.

We moved a year later and she never showed any interest in another guy; she had her fling.

 

[MarlD]

sounds like she had herself a fun time...i wouldn't mind if she decided she wanted to do that...

 

[maverick62]

sounds like she had herself a fun time...i wouldn't mind if she decided she wanted to do that...

marlD:

She did and it was exciting for me too. I really enjoyed knowing about the Wednesday dates and knowing that she'd be screwing him. It was a real turn on to see the tell tails of sex, either the cum stains on her panties, or the cum still in her. She also learned a few things that she brought to our bed. All in all it was a great win win experience.

M

 

[Frouple_blore]

ummm

sounds pretty hot. I wish my darling too finds a hot date. She says she loves heavy mush guys to do her down... Any one around for an Indian vaction...

 

[maverick62]

A post script to my wife's adventure. About three months after we moved to the SF Bay Area, Ted called and told wife he was going to be in SF for a three day conference and he'd like to see her. She was working part time and had the time. She told me that she'd like to see him and I told her it was OK with me and that if she wanted to spend the night in the city that was fine with me too. She tok a change of clothers just in case. They met for lunch, had sex, took a 2 hour tour of the city and had dinner and she spent the night with him. She said sex was great, but that she wasn't interested in him any longer. He called her a few times and she told him that was it. And it was. We talked about the entire affair and it always led to great sex .

I must say, this is not for everyone. A third person in a relationship vcan be very damgerous and disruptive.

M

 

[jcguild]

Very much into this.

My question is this - My gf and I had an MFM once about 3 years ago (been together 4 years).

Anyway, we did oral, intercourse, DP. I enjoyed it alot, I was adrenalinized during the course of it. She also seemed to be although she didn't particularly like giving oral sex, but the intercourse I could tell she enjoyed.

BUT - AFTERWARD, like the next day she felt real guilty she said, like she'd betrayed me. She said she felt terribly like she was cheating on me. Now logically this makes no sense to me but I can somewhat understand the instinctive pull of such feelings. Anyway, now she doesn't want to do such a 3some again. This bothers me because she was in on giving me such a pleasurable night and it was more her idea to begin with than mine anyway, and she won't do it again for reasons that have nothing to do with submission being too inhibited or insecure or whatnot.

I'm not going to feel guilty myself about wanting such a thing. What to do?

What other reasons might someone not want to be in a MFM? Do you think she's being straightforward with me?

 

[StormCat]

Id probably rather hear about it (like it actually was wanted or did happen) then actually have it happen.

 

[maverick62]

Very much into this.

I'm not going to feel guilty myself about wanting such a thing. What to do?

I wouldn't feel guilty nor would I press her in to something she has no interest in doing. Let it lay for a while and then bring it up again, perhaps as a recollection and how it appeared she really enjoyed her self and how much you enjoyed participating and seeing her. But don't press it if she tells you, not interested, drop it.

What other reasons might someone not want to be in a MFM? Do you think she's being straightforward with me?

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Hard to know why and how another person thinks. But here are a couple of "issues" to consider. She might not like you being there. Some people would rather be one on one and feel free to do things they might think would be embarrassing to them or you. Also, some women feel they can not have sex without having feelings for the guy and she just might be concerned about this and ..

~Maverick~

 

[maverick62]

Id probably rather hear about it (like it actually was wanted or did happen) then actually have it happen.

And do you have a concern of having "it" really happen, if so what is it??? Sometimes the fantasy is better than the actual act. Just like the chase is more exciting than the catch .

~M~

 

[Tarheel_boi]

It can backfire too. I did a threesome once with a wife and husband that she arranged because he had been curious about it. She put it together as a part of a birthday deal for him.

After we had been together a couple of times he started contacting me wanting to have private get togethers with just me and him. I knew she would be pissed so I avoided that.

 

[jagguuu]

my fantasy

i fantasise that i am overpowered by a big man and tied up. he proceeds to fuck my girl in the ass and cums on her ass cheeks and ass hole. and makes me lick it clean. then i was made to clean his cock with my tounge and mouth. and he makes my piss in my mouth

 

[bholderman]

I have to admit to feeling somewhat the same way. However, I think something that becomes some sort of relationship, i.e. a weekly meeting, can be rather dangerous, that weekly meeting can lead to emotional attachments, etc on down a road to problems.

Although she hasnt done it, If she were, I would prefre her to be doing it as a "real-life vobrator" scenario. One of those things that I'm not around (i.e. she's in Vegas), she's horney beyond all control, etc.

But that as well, has its own dangers as STDs, pregnancy (I'm the one who got fixed), etc. My conlusion is that its a great turn on, but as with sky diving if the parachute doesn't open...