So heres the situation ive been corresponding with an extremly attractive lady online, We both want to meet and have an nsa type relationship. The catch is shes 55 and im 22, I personally dont think its a big deal but she seems a bit apprehensive. My question for you folks is, is this too big of an age gap? Have any of you had any similar experiences? Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!!
How old is too old? New Advice please!!
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NippleMuncher
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Age only matters to the participants involved. I'm currently dating someone who is 15 years my senior, not quite the spread you're talking about, but good none-the-less.
The older that both parties are, the less that an age difference is going to matter. My suspicion on your potential partner's side is that she may think that you're a bit too young and immature/inexperienced to relate to an older woman.
What are your commonalities, shared interests, etc.? Are they sufficient to carry on a conversation longer than 10 minutes?
The older that both parties are, the less that an age difference is going to matter. My suspicion on your potential partner's side is that she may think that you're a bit too young and immature/inexperienced to relate to an older woman.
What are your commonalities, shared interests, etc.? Are they sufficient to carry on a conversation longer than 10 minutes?
We talk about all sorts of things, honestly its not too hard to carry on a converstation with her, to be honest im actually pursuing her. I am curious to try it at least once and i know she has to be curious or she wouldnt keep talking to me. Ive actually had experience with an older woman before although not quite that much older.
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The older the better as long as she creams for me
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Isn't that what nsa is for? Neither one of you plans on marrying the other, at least not yet anyway. I wouldn't do a big sales job on her but if she's willing and you're willing, who gives a shit?
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That's what I'm thinking.
You're both interested in each other thus far and looking for an NSA relationship, right? Age matters a whole lot less when it's just sex. Actually, I don't think it matters at all for an older woman/younger man NSA/fuckbuddy relationship as long as there's mutual attraction and both people are on the exact same page regarding their goals and feelings about the situation. From what I've seen and heard, vast age differences almost never bode well for dating and LTRs/marriage, but that's not what you're talking about/seeking.
So, I'd strongly encourage you to set up a meeting for coffee/a drink/a meal ASAP just to see if there's chemistry in person for both of you. Online and phone communication gives some indication, but there's no substitute for talking in person, and there's no sense in wasting your or her time with a bunch more virtual exchanges if your intent is to take it to RL and the chemistry doesn't turn out to be there for whatever reason(s). If your platonic meeting goes well and you'd like to see her again, tell her something like you feel a really positive connection and think she's incredibly sexy, so you'd love to see her again soon if she's gotten a similar vibe. Seal the deal (on your part, at least) by the end of that first date, if possible.
I hope everything turns out well for you!
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So, you go out for a drink to catch up with your friends on a Friday night. "Hi guys, I'd like you to meet my new partner". Just let your imagination work out as to what happens next.
Conversely, she takes you out to a dinner party with her friends or maybe family. "Hi, this is Mike, my new lover". Just let your imagination work out as to what happens next.
I guarantee she most certainly have thought through these scenarios. Have you?
Is your curiosity the same as hers? Why don't you come straight out and ask "Would you consider having sex with me, because I view you as a curiosity? I just want to find out what it is like to fuck someone as old as you are."
If you enjoy the friendship I suggest you just leave it as that. I doubt it would survive a liaison or even an attempt for one.
Meanwhile, have a look what was going on for her when she was around your age
http://www.besteveralbums.com/yearstats.php?y=1979&page=1
http://www.historyorb.com/events/date/1979
Conversely, she takes you out to a dinner party with her friends or maybe family. "Hi, this is Mike, my new lover". Just let your imagination work out as to what happens next.
I guarantee she most certainly have thought through these scenarios. Have you?
Is your curiosity the same as hers? Why don't you come straight out and ask "Would you consider having sex with me, because I view you as a curiosity? I just want to find out what it is like to fuck someone as old as you are."
If you enjoy the friendship I suggest you just leave it as that. I doubt it would survive a liaison or even an attempt for one.
Meanwhile, have a look what was going on for her when she was around your age
http://www.besteveralbums.com/yearstats.php?y=1979&page=1
http://www.historyorb.com/events/date/1979
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Go fo it
I say go for it. Although for me personally this is too big of a gap. I find no interest in dating an 89+ women nor a 20 something lady. My mother is still alive and is almost 80 and my granddaughter is fast approaching the 20's. The yuck factor comes into play. However this is only my opinion and if you feel so led go for it. She could probably teach you a thing or two about sex and you should have the stamina to keep up with her.
Let us know how it goes.
I say go for it. Although for me personally this is too big of a gap. I find no interest in dating an 89+ women nor a 20 something lady. My mother is still alive and is almost 80 and my granddaughter is fast approaching the 20's. The yuck factor comes into play. However this is only my opinion and if you feel so led go for it. She could probably teach you a thing or two about sex and you should have the stamina to keep up with her.
Let us know how it goes.
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Your question-- "Is this too big of an age gap?" -- is really two questions which may not have the same answer.
The first question you are asking is the only one you are really interested in having answered: Is a 55 year old woman too old for a 22 year old man? In your case, probably not. If you are horny enough, 65 or even 75 may not be too old.
The question that you do not want to hear the answer to is the more important question: Is a 22 year old man too young for a 55 year old woman? You don't provide much information, but based upon what you do say, the answer is probably yes.
A 55 year old woman is fully grown. She knows what she wants and how to get it. If she wanted you, she would let you know. She would not need to take a poll. You may be able to supply her with a penis, but she is most likely looking for something more.
The first question you are asking is the only one you are really interested in having answered: Is a 55 year old woman too old for a 22 year old man? In your case, probably not. If you are horny enough, 65 or even 75 may not be too old.
The question that you do not want to hear the answer to is the more important question: Is a 22 year old man too young for a 55 year old woman? You don't provide much information, but based upon what you do say, the answer is probably yes.
A 55 year old woman is fully grown. She knows what she wants and how to get it. If she wanted you, she would let you know. She would not need to take a poll. You may be able to supply her with a penis, but she is most likely looking for something more.
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55 is the new 45.
As long as there's an attraction, fine, go for it. She'll adore you! And you say "We talk about all sorts of things, honestly its not too hard to carry on a converstation with her"
which is frosting on the cake.
Or frosting on something else... but I digress.
As long as there's an attraction, fine, go for it. She'll adore you! And you say "We talk about all sorts of things, honestly its not too hard to carry on a converstation with her"
which is frosting on the cake.
Or frosting on something else... but I digress.
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Age isn't the issue. I've been with a woman 40 years younger than me and it was great for us both.
The issue is whether you can relate personally, and satisfy each other sexually.
The issue is whether you can relate personally, and satisfy each other sexually.
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So a macho bump
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meeting of the minds
v's
meeting of the age
If your going to base a relationship purely by age limits, you could be missing out on something more spectacular. You clicked, and age had nothing to do with you both clicking.
Meet her, speak to her, and just take it from there.
v's
meeting of the age
If your going to base a relationship purely by age limits, you could be missing out on something more spectacular. You clicked, and age had nothing to do with you both clicking.
Meet her, speak to her, and just take it from there.
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you are right sweet
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I've dated a man 12 years older than me. Being very young I found that he didn't seem particularly mature which may be why he was interested in me in the first place. So perhaps I would consider meeting her with her friends to see how she acts in a normal situation.
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You say it's NSA, so what does age matter as long as you are both legal and consenting?
If gets beyond that than there are other considerations, but cross that bridge if you get there.
If gets beyond that than there are other considerations, but cross that bridge if you get there.
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Honestly, I have no age limitations. In college one of my regulars was 62.
Age makes no difference.
Are the two of you comfortable with each other is the real question.
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Age is all in the mind. Seriously, what is age except a number. I know people who are forty who have the mindset and life experience of an eighteen year old. And vice versa. If you're into her that's all that should matter. Go for it.
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I wish I had cougars running after me! *pouty face*
Good luck, my friend! As everyone has said so far, it's just a number... NSA means you can at the very least try it out.
And tell yourself you'll be living many guys your age's fantasy... (And many women HER age's fantasy too...)
Good luck, my friend! As everyone has said so far, it's just a number... NSA means you can at the very least try it out.
And tell yourself you'll be living many guys your age's fantasy... (And many women HER age's fantasy too...)
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