How to be a good mommy

[Natasha007]

A friend who is very shy wouldn't post this so I posted it for her. Her new boyfriend just approached her the other day about "playing". During the discussion, she wasn't aware that what eh wanted was for her to be his Mommy. Now she understands this but has never been in this position. Any suggestions or thoughts about how to be a good Mommy. She said it is obvious he is not looking for the discipline side of a Mommy but more the nurturing and caring side of a Mommy. I guess she came out and asked him what he preferred. So any thoughts to help her out? Oh by the way her name is Kat.

 

[fire_breeze]

A friend who is very shy wouldn't post this so I posted it for her. Her new boyfriend just approached her the other day about "playing". During the discussion, she wasn't aware that what eh wanted was for her to be his Mommy. Now she understands this but has never been in this position. Any suggestions or thoughts about how to be a good Mommy. She said it is obvious he is not looking for the discipline side of a Mommy but more the nurturing and caring side of a Mommy. I guess she came out and asked him what he preferred. So any thoughts to help her out? Oh by the way her name is Kat.

You may wish to direct that particular question here, or even peruse some of the threads for ideas, as I'm sure this is a very popular topic.

Although, the only person who can help your friend is her boyfriend. She needs to sit down with him and ask him what he means, to give her any guidelines and to discuss limits and so forth and to go from there. And if she's too shy to talk it over with him, she shouldn't be doing it, in my not so humble opinion.

Good luck

 

[NikkiBastion]

Make him a ham sandwich and milk, tell him to pick his shit up off the floor, bitch about why his homework isn't done, then drop his ass off at the babysitter's and head out to a Chippendale's club and get hammered

 

[Natasha007]

to Fire Breeze

That was sort of my opinion that she needs to either accept the role or let it go.

 

[PaulBlart]

Make him a ham sandwich and milk, tell him to pick his shit up off the floor, bitch about why his homework isn't done, then drop his ass off at the babysitter's and head out to a Chippendale's club and get hammered

Sorry! No advise on the topic at hand. Just had to complement you on this comment. i laughed out loud during a boring meeting after I read it. Thanks for the laugh.

 

[klippert]

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[enigma3]

Make him a ham sandwich and milk, tell him to pick his shit up off the floor, bitch about why his homework isn't done, then drop his ass off at the babysitter's and head out to a Chippendale's club and get hammered

ha ha nice one...........lol

 

[SweetErika]

Don't get pregnant before you graduate High School.
Graduate high school for kryst sake
try too make it through college...and show you can commit to something
Get married and don't get divorced (extenuating circumstance do apply for divorce)
read too your kids
don't smoke....don't drink
if you consume adult beverages,don't be a fall down drunk in front of your child
don't do drugs!!!
don't curse around your kids
don't fight with your spouse in front of your kids
raise them around firearms
stay the heck off social media sites. To many nuts can find you and your kids.
be a stay at home mom

You didn't bother reading the OP, did you?

And staying at home doesn't make you a better parent than if you work. It all depends on who you are and what your financial and childcare options are. If one parent has to work 3 jobs so the other can stay at home, but never sees their kid, the kid is going to be missing out. If both parents work but the child has a great caregiver, s/he will be fine. If it's a choice between not working and paying the bills, you have to pay the bills. If it's a choice between being miserable staying at home and being happy working, the child will be better if s/he sees you happy and the time you do spend together is quality time.

Different arrangements work for different people and many combinations can produce a happy, healthy child. Try to remember that and pull your head out of your ass the next time you're tempted to make a ridiculous statement.

 

[Natasha007]

Ty

Thank you sweeterika!I couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[scriptum]

You didn't bother reading the OP, did you?

And staying at home doesn't make you a better parent than if you work. It all depends on who you are and what your financial and childcare options are. If one parent has to work 3 jobs so the other can stay at home, but never sees their kid, the kid is going to be missing out. If both parents work but the child has a great caregiver, s/he will be fine. If it's a choice between not working and paying the bills, you have to pay the bills. If it's a choice between being miserable staying at home and being happy working, the child will be better if s/he sees you happy and the time you do spend together is quality time.

Different arrangements work for different people and many combinations can produce a happy, healthy child. Try to remember that and pull your head out of your ass the next time you're tempted to make a ridiculous statement.

Not to mention that children benefit from some away time from their parents and going to daycare. It helps develope their social skills early on which will help them when they grow up and help when school finally comes. I know too many people that had a stay at home mom and then were homeschooled only to be completely lost in life when they're forced to interact in the real world to get a job.