How to break the ice?

[alphanav1]

I must say thank you for everyone who replied to my last thread, the suggestions really helped me. I now have a new problem. I have been talking to more girls lately and asked about six out, I have gotten two numbers. The first girl I called well, something happened, and when she was ready to get coffee she was supposes to call me. Well she never did. Now the second girl I asked out yesterday.

I met her when I went into the restaurant she works as a cashier at to get a bite to eat. When she came over to me to take my order, I thought I saw a little smile, but thought nothing of it. When I got up to buy a cookie before I left I saw the same smile again. After thinking about it for a minute, I decided to ask her out, and she gave me her phone number.

I asked her out because she is really really pretty, and her smile is so beautiful. She seems nice, but in the three times, we talked, I can’t really tell.

Now my problem is this I was going to call her tonight, but I have no idea what to talk to about when I do. I am not a small talker, and I do not know if we share the same interests even. We both probably go to the same school; I doubt I am that bad at guessing age. I guess I am asking how to get the conversation started, so it can flow from there. Oh and what is the latest I should call her and the earliest for that matter, should I call her tonight or maybe tomorrow.

I know I’ll get great help, everyone here is so nice. Thank you.

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Seems simple enough. Ask general question like "Do you go to school, what you taking, what's your fav class"

then ask stuff to get knowledge of who she is like "What you like to do for fun"


Just any general question at first. SHould work out, because after awhile, she will ask you probably the same.

Ravin

 

[pink swirl]

at this stage, keep it simple really is the best advice. no need to yak on the phone with her - you're calling to set up a date, right? you can get to know each other on the date. that's why you asked her out.

so ask her how her day was, listen to what she says and then reply to what she said. maybe a few more minutes of chatting and invite her to lunch, for a drink, whatever. great, i'll pick you up at 8.

then get off the phone. learn more about each other when you can see her pretty smile and she can look into your eyes.

 

[Bridget69]

Well, if you go to the same school, you can talk about some of the things going on there. Also, ask her what her interests are and such.

 

[JRaven]

Try to ask open ended questions

Closed ended question: What are you majoring in?
Closed ended answer: Underwater Basket Weaving.

Open ended question: Sounds interesting. Tell me about it.
Open ended answer: <Here, she gets to tell you about herself without being asked the dreaded question, "Tell me about yourself.">

Jenny