How to do Breath Play...

[thegirl]

I have done the searches, read though the threads that pop up with breath in them, but as yet have not found threads directly related to breath play or choking as it is sometimes called. I have found that I am extreme in my own needs and loves of this journey.

I have had a little experience with breath play, but would like more information from a BDSM stand point. My hardest orgasims came from my experience with physically holding me down and just letting the fear turn into a new pleasure.

I know this is dangerous, hence my search for more information from those who might be willing to share.

Thanks for having such a wonderful site.

 

[EJFan]

there's a brief mention of it in this thread in the HT cafe.

you can try googling asphyxiation too. are a a couple of people here who've dabbled, but you'd prolly have better luck finding people in the BDSM forum. there's SOME crossover between forums, but members tend to stick to one or two for the most part.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

I've done this a couple of times, being choked with a scarf ("scarfing") It's pretty frightening, yet very arousing too when properly timed. Despite the occasional taste here and there I'm not a BDSM gal, and I find myself becoming more and more cautious as I get older.

Edit to add - don't try it alone.

 

[thegirl]

Thanks so much for the pointers, scarfing is a new term mmm maybe that will work better. Already promised Master none of the alone stuff.. not really into possibly dying either... but wanted to see if others had some real time experience with the subject.

Even online it seems to be a hush hush BDSM topic, so its kind of hard to find much on it.. unless it results in death I found. Was actually looking for some with the extreme side.. and experience to go with it.

Thanks for the tips.. will try those as well

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

OK, well IF you are going to do this, tell your Master to get a soft, thick scarf like cashmere. S/he should not actually tie it around your neck, just loop it around once like an "awareness ribbon" a person pins on her chest. Beyond that, I second the other persons suggestiong that you post in BDSM. As I said I am not an expert, I've just experimented. Jack of all trades, master of... well you get it. Maybe you can find people there with extensive experience who can give you better advice.

 

[thegirl]

any and all avice is always welcome, thats why I posted the question.

Will see how it works, and keep it as safe as possible too

thanks again for answering

 

[Eilan]

I know that there have been threads on the How-To boards dealing with this in the past, but I don't know if they're in The Blank Manual, and I don't know that they're terribly recent. If you wanted to find them, you'd probably have to dig a bit. I agree that you should check out the BDSM Forum if you haven't already; they have an excellent "library" over there.

My husband and I have dabbled in breath play, but only with his hands, and rarely with his hands around my neck, because I don't want him to accidentally go too far. He tends to cover both my nose and mouth with one or both hands. When timed right, it IS an amazing feeling, but you have to be VERY, VERY careful. Don't do this with just anyone; a deep level of trust is essential, IMHO.

It's often recommended that you have a "safe signal," like dropping an object on the floor, if you want your partner to stop.

Good luck and be safe.

 

[thegirl]

Thanks again for responding. I have to agree with the trust issue, there are only Two with whom I would be able to do that type of play with... and also agree that is done right it can be oh so amazing of an experience.

Have tried doing the normal searches and all but it still seems to be like a taboo even with those doing it.. I was hoping to find some brave souls who might be able to give me some hints...

Thanks again and yes I shall be careful... I like breathing too much to attempt it alone, and love experiencing life... not death...

thanks again

 

[pinkeden]

Oh wow, I was thinking about posting something similar to this.

I like breath play, and even in a non-sexual situation the rush I get during and (moreso) after "not breathing" can be amazing. Funnily enough, I discovered how much of a rush asphyxiation can be when I was 12 and was contemplating the thought of suicide. I wanted to know what it might be like to be hanged (exploring options I guess.) So I got a lovely old scarf of mine out and tightened it around my neck (was a strange kid *shrug*) and decided I kinda liked the whole thing better when I stopped and was able to breathe again, woah it was like I was breathing in pure ecstasy. It was like a burst of adrenaline, a sensation I hadn't felt before and an awesome little high.

I've only ever played by myself (boys tend to get scared when you ask them to smother you, lol), usually only with my own hands or (occassionally) a scarf tied at one end to my bed-post and looped around me like Lady Funk described), because if you pass out from lack of oxygen your release will loosen.. (At least that's what they taught me in science at highschool..)

Sexy stuff and the rush from asphyxiation, in my opinion, is a highly erotic coupling.. It's a bit hard to play with kitty and get the breath play happening at the same time with my method though.


I also enjoy "not wreathing" When i smoke my happy herbs (ever tried damiana, amongst others?), I really enjoy holding my breath for as long as I can after inhaling (I know extended inhalation of smoke can be pretty bad for your lungs, but it's a choice I make) - I start to see blurry stars and 'fireworks', things get darker, I get light-headed and that sense of euphoria tingles it's way through my body - once I exhale and begin to breathe again the rush is fucking amazing.

Now, I know smoking itself is bad for you etc., But what I want to know is am I going to hurt myself if I hold my breath to that extent (resulting in a rush of blood/oxygen to my brain when I exhale and start breathing again) If I do this repeatedly? (i,e 3 - 4 times in a sitting?)

Stay sexy fellow gaspers!

*struts away twirling a nice soft and silky scarf in her hands*

 

[princess4u]

lots of info on this site:

http://members.aol.com/OldRope/breamain.htm

 

[princess4u]

i have engaged in some breath play with one person -

i realize from reading about it that it can be very dangerous
but i found it highly erotic - makes me wet just thinking
about his hands around my throat, massaging my arteries....

 

[Quoll]

You might find this interesting.
Viewpoints on Asphyxiophilia

 

[thegirl]

Thanks ever so much for the links!! Everything I found was about the dangers and most was regarding the police and choking someone they were arresting. Does not help much when I am looking more for those with DBSM experience or things not dealing with hanging myself... you get the point.

Had an interesting experience with what I call pretend breath play, my SO simply put his hands on the side of my neck... no pressure or choking or anything, but it took me to sub space in min and I dont remember anything after that. This was after my first experiece with rope and choking and going under, so it was like my body knew how to respond without the threat of danger.

Anyway, after that my Master told me to research the subject, so here I am.

Thanks for all the input and advice and links

Keep them coming please winks this girl needs a lot more lol

 

[thegirl]

Oh wow, I was thinking about posting something similar to this.

Now, I know smoking itself is bad for you etc., But what I want to know is am I going to hurt myself if I hold my breath to that extent (resulting in a rush of blood/oxygen to my brain when I exhale and start breathing again) If I do this repeatedly? (i,e 3 - 4 times in a sitting?)

Stay sexy fellow gaspers!

*struts away twirling a nice soft and silky scarf in her hands*

From what I have read, we run that risk everytime, even with safe measures taken, as no one can tell what might trigger a stroke, but on the other side, the research also shows that the major difference between knowing its going to happen [ i.e. BDSM activities] and being surprised by it [i.e. police] might factor into how much shock the system has.

Basically all we can do is be careful.