how to get a good orgasm by yourself

[froflu]

I find it hard to give my self an orgasm and my boy freind finds it hard too. plus i find it hard to even cum. now my boy freind is off too war and i need to find a way to please myself. how oh how can i do this help!!!

 

[1hotbabe]

Try this site:

http://masturbation-techniques.net

 

[tigerjen]

1. Make sure you have a large block of time to
YOURSELF so you can relax......unplug the phone or
turn off the ringer........light some scented candles
(try vanilla....yum!)......burn some incense.....whatever
you feel like.

2. Have a tube of K-Y jelly or body lotion nearby.

3. I strongly recommend checking out the chapter
for masturbation in "The Sensuous Woman" by J
It is very good reading, quite informative, and she
says that your body is like an instrument, and you
have to practice masturbation like you would the
piano or violin.......

Good luck!


tigerjen

 

[SweetErika]

Great advice from tigerjen and 1hotbabe. Reading a story and masturbating can work very well, or reading a story and then fantasizing and masturbating is also a great option. For me, the stories "jump start" my arousal.

If you want a guaranteed orgasm, I'd suggest getting either the Rabbit Habit/ Rabbit Pearl or the Hitachi Magic Wand. While they're both fantastic for masturbation, the Magic Wand is very versatile and can be used for mutual stimulation during sex. We have quite the toy collection, and these are the best, hands-down. PM me if you want to know the cheapest place to get either (no, I don't sell them, but I've done a heck of a lot of research).

 

[Mysty61]

Don't put a lot of pressure on youself thinking you have to have an orgasm - lay back, relax, enjoy the feelings, and let what happens happen. A vibrator will help a lot. Check out Betty Dodson, she has a wonderful book "Sex For One", and a very good video. Here is the link for you. http://www.bettydodson.com/

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

well from the male perspective

not disregarding any of the excellent advice above. but most of use guys got good at it by following this simple advice.

Practice Practice Practice.

and most of all Have FUN

Holden

 

[s4t4n]

I find it hard to give my self an orgasm and my boy freind finds it hard too. plus i find it hard to even cum. now my boy freind is off too war and i need to find a way to please myself. how oh how can i do this help!!!

Just a little thought - are you stroking your clitoris? You didn't mention... this is the way most women get to orgasm. Like the others said, take your time and set the scene. Don't think about trying to have an orgasm. Just plan on having a lot of pleasure... don't keep saying 'i must orgasm!' or it won't happen...

For some clit stroking ideas you can read this online guide i wrote:

http://www.infosex.com/clit.htm

This is especially good for guys to read... once you've practised pleasuring yourself, get your bf to read it (if he's not gone), it shows guys where the clit is and exactly how to stroke it, with diagrams.

Another idea might be to kneel and stroke your clit against something, pillow, teddy bear, erect penis etc.

Again don't focus solely on orgasm... focus on pleasure...

oh and eh, yeh get a vibrator

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

get yerself a good vibrator

 

[froflu]

thank you very much on all the sugesstions
but i have found something better than a vibrator to me. i have a romvable shower head with plusating and preasure diffrences( is you understood that u are a sooper smartt person )

 

[FunkyGirl]

Masturbating with elf ears

1hotbabe....the link you gave was great. But the last suggestion had me rolling on the floor laughing. Read......

Elf Ear:
I tease my lips very lightly with my fingers until I'm dripping wet and after that I 'lick' my pussy with a fake rubber elf ear. You can buy them cheap from any costume shop. (I originally bought them to wear at a costume party) It feels so... great and so real! The best part about it is that you can control the movement, speed, and tension of the 'tongue' on your clit, and as a bonus, if you have a friend with you, they can use the other elf ear (Tongue) on you if they're too timid to do the 'dirty deed' themselves! The ear can be used on the pointed end for more intense pleasure or on the earlobe for more gentle pleasuring.
Submitted: 08/26/04 By: KC

 

[vargas111]

What a lucky b/f. You WANT to masturbate, WANT to orgasm! <sigh>