How To get over an ex

[RunningJib]

You're not the only One

Its been more years than I'd like to admit

I've had so many girl friends, lovers and wife since her and she continues to pop in my head from time-to-time

Trust me, whiskey did't help at all

 

[PattiJolene]

Good question, love hurts and l don't think you ever get over that.

 

[DarkSimian]

I feel your pain, brother. In the middle of a train wreck of a love triangle, that admittedly I created. Had some dark days, but am getting better. You need to live for YOU, and let her live her life. It sucks, but the alternative isn't any better. Hang in there, and PM if you need to talk.

 

[spankmegirl23]

You know you can a lot advice on this but till its what you want it wont go away,I have this problem with my ex and sex if he wanted it again i would and as much as i don't like him in other ways how he acted or other things he was great with that i came more then 2 times each time with him and oral oh my and we was over almost 8 years but have had a few in between there when we are in need and i tell myself i just hope one day i can wake up and tell him no but till you can say you are over him you just have to deal with it till you are date other people,Its up to you.Good luck

 

[pplwatching]

I wish I was softer. For 30 years I've begged Jesus MAKE IT GO AWAY! my libido, I mean. There must be a anti-Viagra somewhere!

You're a great straight man, James. If I didn't totally and completely adore my wife, I might reply, "There is. Marriage." <rim shot>

 

[Setanta84]

It's like any other form of grief. Time doesn't make it easier per se but you just gradually get more used to a "new normal."

With me, my worst break up was with the woman I got engaged to in my late 20s and who I now am pretty sure has some sort of personality disorder.

After a kind of whirlwind romance, the first time things got hard--I was diagnosed with a pretty severe form of cancer--she literally walked out the door and never came back. At first she said she was dropping her dog off with her uncle for a few days. Then that trip turned into several weeks. Then she took a job in a different state and told me she was dating someone else after I caught on that she was cheating while still "in" the relationship--

"Getting over" that was a process.

Step 1: I went fucking nuts. I never really thought I was the kind of person who might resemble Glenn Close's character in Fatal Attraction but it turns out that being abandoned and then cuckolded during a health crisis is enough to push me over the edge. I got obsessive and angry.

Step 2: Depression. Mind-bending, alcohol-guzzling depression.

Step 3: Lots of casual sex with people I normally would not have slept with if this had not happened to me.

Step 4: More anger.

For a while, I thought I had forgiven her but--NOPE! Turns out, more than a year later, I'm still pissed. But I've gotten less depressed feeling over time. It's cyclical. Feelings come and go. I think the advice to stop self-medicating and to go out and socialize are good bits of advice.

 

[Hypoxia]

Actually I've had it easy re: exes. I've always been a self-centered twat who felt deeply about abstractions and my own pleasure and never "fell in love" with anyone. I've lusted, sure, but not loved. I only admitted honestly to love about the time I hit Social Security age. Guess I emotionally mature slowly. Anyway, none of them really took my soul, so "getting over them" was no big fart.

 

[Satisfyme21]

I feel your pain. I miss my ex so very badly. Keep in there

 

[monanympho]

i guess - take a vacation to an exotic country and find somebody else?

 

[NOIRTRASH]

You're a great straight man, James. If I didn't totally and completely adore my wife, I might reply, "There is. Marriage." <rim shot>

I never lie, amigo. These blood pressure meds are worse than being 19 again. I fear I've become trans-black. If my voice was like Barry White or Hillary Clinton I'd be irresistible to women.

 

[randy95]

Old Age cures the old flame problem.

Not long ago I saw 3 gals I dated and luvved back in high school, 50 years ago. They existed as 17 year old goddesses in my mind. One is now as big as a blimp, one looks like a Jew escaped from a Nazi death camp, and the third looks like Mama of the old Carol Burnett Show.

I'm married 43 years, so we do collide with the right ones. She wanted the Marlboro Man and I'm him, except I quit smoking 15 years ago.

Remark about the Jewish lady and the other group is not very cool.

 

[SassyKatz71]

Just let go of what you believed in. See them for whom they really are.

 

[DropBear91]

I really need some advice. I can't get over an ex. I've tried, and I've tired and I can't do it. This is driving me fucking crazy. Please tell me I am not the only one going through this shit. I apologize for any typos I'm drunk as a skunk right now. Please pm your responces. Thanks

I broke up with someone 3 years ago out of fear because i had never experienced feelings like that and i panicked, 2 years later i wrote her an apology letter explaining what happened and she said she had forgiven me. That helped me move on. Depending on who did the breaking up that might work or might not.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Remark about the Jewish lady and the other group is not very cool.

Yuck yuck yuck shes not Jewish. Stuff your PC in your luv hole.

 

[gobears85]

I know

what not to do. Start sharing sex talk and follow it up with naked pictures.

I can attest that DOES NOT work. I wish I was being funny, I'm so not.

 

[DevilKitty]

I agree with the fake it comments. I'm not sure I have any other witty advice other than to find other ways to distract your mind.

 

[Satisfyme21]

I'm really sorry that you're going through this pain. I still think about my ex from 6 years ago, a lot. The only advice I can give is just to try to keep your head held high and just try to make it through each day. It's also good to avoid things that trigger your memories of your ex and definitely don't drink when you're sad (that was me last night). I hope it gets easier for you and you find happiness again

 

[Nurse_Athena]

learn to love yourself and know your worth, and you'll realize you deserve better than your ex. you're hung up on him and he's happily living life.

internally and externally, you are a temple that deserves to be treated with respect and worshiped in every way. The first person to do that is you. He aint even worth a thread about that loser.

I'd be moved on already and enjoying the alone time. life's too sexy and amazing to be pushed aside over a replacable nobody.

 

[Britishguy1]

Stuff like this is never easy. The best advice I ever heard was " The best revenge is to live better". So doing positive stuff like getting a new hair cut, a weekend way, shopping...all things that make make you slowly feel better. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Hypoxia]

OP started this thread 6 weeks ago and hasn't responded. Their last LIT post was 2 weeks ago. Wonder what's up?