How to Get Over Turning 40

[freddyandeddy]

As my father used to tell me; "When I was 18, I would DO it all night. At 40, it TAKES all night."

I, too, share the half way to 100 belief. But, hey, who we kidding? 40 is a more realistic half way point

 

[Falkieri]

I just turned 40 this year, I can't say it was anything but another day. I still feel the same way I did in my 20's (other than the bones creaking when I get up in the morning...lol). As far as sex, my sex drive hasn't diminished, I've just learned a lot of new things on the road toward 40, patience and sensuality being chief among them.

Although since I haven't actually had sex since my 40th birthday, I guess I have no sex secrets to impart.

 

[ReadyOne]

At 40, I could tell a difference relative to 30, but not enough to really have an effect. The real knee in the cruve for me was 46 or so.

 

[SlowGuy]

Hey Freddy,

If you're fit, and it certainly sounds like you are, it's not such a big deal hitting four oh. It's only a milestone because it a round number. The difference between 39 and 40 or 40 and 41 is not noticeable. Other societies celebrate different ages as milestones.

My 40th was pretty quiet, but none of my other birthdays were any louder. Every birthday is a chance to reflect on who you are and where you are, and what changes you should make. Forty is no different.

In my circle of friends, the most interesting people aren't the ones who peaked in HS or college, they're the ones who continue to learn and challenge themselves.

The erections are less frequent, but you're able to make better use of them, so it's a good trade-off.

I recommend you gather a dozen of your best friends, take away their clothes, put down a tarp, and pour a gallon of warm Wesson oil over them. Then just let everyone slid around until you don't care how old you are anymore.

 

[freddyandeddy]

I prefer high quality olive oil - extra virgin! Now, I need those 12 friends...

 

[SlowGuy]

I prefer high quality olive oil - extra virgin! Now, I need those 12 friends...

As long as you use light olive oil, I'm sure you can find some takers on the board. Me and my sweetie are a little too far north to be of much help.

 

[freddyandeddy]

Yikes, I'd be scared to death of the folks on this board! I hear canola oil is just dandy!

 

[The_old_man]

Canola, Wesson, olive, makes no difference. They're all slippery.

As for the big 40, your still a youngster until your kids throw a "fiftieth anniversary" for you. (That was four years ago)

As for sex, the word around the senior center is, that as we age we turn more and more to oral sex ... until all we can do is talk about it.

We don't do much talking yet.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Yikes, I'd be scared to death of the folks on this board! I hear canola oil is just dandy!

Hmmmm, and what, exactly, it that supposed to mean? hmmm? lol

 

[freddyandeddy]

I'll have to visit that senior center, dude!

Ummm, let me tread lightly with the heavyweight poster here. Well, let's just say this place can be heaven and hell with not much in-between. Probably the most diverse group of board groupies I've seen anywhere. No matter what one posts, there will be responses all over the map, which is great, frustrating, maddening, helpful, unhelpful, joyous, vindictive, comforting, and disconcerting. In short, everything boards should be.

Of course, now that I'm forty, I can pretty much say whatever the heck I want, right? It'll either be construed as aged wisdom or senility.

Please, won't someone give a pathetic old man a cool tip or trick to try on his hot young wife (she's 38) tonight?

 

[ldlarry52]

Be glad your not turning fifty or sixty just yet and be glad your alive to be turning forty.

 

[fille]

I really didn't have a hard time with 40. Frankly, I have much more confidence and direction than I ever did before. And as for sex, well, we ladies peak later, so . . . .

 

[asiasiren]

40 wasn't a problem for me. Tomorrow is the problem. The big 50. It just seems such a big number all of a sudden.
I have hear it all. It is just another day. You will feel the same as the day before and the day after. I don't know. It just seems so different then all the others.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Hmm. I'll be turning 45 in a couple of months, so can't say what diff 50 will make but...
When i was in my twenties, I remember the older women at my college seeming like kind of a club I was too young to be in. I felt miffy but was also somewhat intrigued, as they seemed to be such an interesting crowd. Maybe it is much different for women but they seemed to know themselves better, be more comfortable with life, more knowing, kind of mysterious. I wanted to be one of them -- more sophisticated just thru life experience, deeper, smart. I got the message, both from them and from books such as Gail Sheehy's Passages, that the forties are the start of the the best times for women. Now that I'm there, they are. The few worries I had, which I won't go into here, have proved unfounded.
Your mileage may vary of course, which is why I coached this in terms of what has been true for me. It sounds like the fifties will be just as good, and the sixties might only prove better (except for probably health concerns). There are some impressive, brave women around here, who use this age to dare to follow their dreams. Maybe that is their secret.

As to tricks, we are all so individual -- even more so at this age. If you were a guy in his teens or early twenties, we could give you some generalities about, say, taking more time, or paying attention to your partner's responses, or even those tricks you requested, which you likely wouldn't have heard yet. Is there something specific you are looking for?
We are doing a lot of exploring lately. Hard for me to believe we are having sex every day, when we haven't done that since, if I recall correctly, before we got married. (No viagra required, either.)
I mean there are always things like those sex-swings or, say, distantly remote-controlled vibrators, if you are really looking for tricks. But going deeper into intimacy, even if it is hard for one or both of you, seems like the most important 'trick.'

 

[keptwell4u]

turn 50

 

[mntcmn]

think

You may think this is pretty dumb but consider the alternative. (I turned that one 30 years ago and still cooking with gas--or crisco if you prefer.)

 

[Felix_Jones]

40?

I gave up at thirty.

 

[culloden]

I can honestly say my 40s have been the best decade of my life.

 

[philos]

Have to say that that number is looming large ahead of me. Only a few months to go and I'm freaking out a little. 30 was nothing and usually birthdays don't bother me but for some reason this number does. Can't help but feel a complete failure on all counts and the next years look grim to me.

 

[revchev]

I'm turning 40 in a couple of months and it doesn't scare me much. I remember at 30 I went out and paid homage to my 20's but the last 10 years have been more about getting life in order (and mortgaged to the hilt!) so there isn't a good single night point of comparrison.

For me, going away with the wife somewhere to smoke, drink and screw will be all the celebrating I need. I figure as long as all my body parts work when I need them, though recovery is taking longer, then I'm not that old. I also find inspriation in other people who are doing things at my age that I would not/could not have done 20 years ago.

 

[squarejohn]

Grow old gracefully. Be a gentleman. Woman seek such me out.

 

[NomadLady]

OK, I'm drunk off my ass as I write this, so I'd like to know...

How the heck did you handle turning 40? I tried to treat it as no big deal, but my wife and friends insisted on making a big deal of it. What were YOU'RE emotions upon hitting the big four-oh? How did you handle it? Did you throw a big bash? Low-key affair? Did you and your SO/wife fuck like you were 21?

My 40th was spendt alone....having just moved after the house finally sold after the divorce...I got the tattoo I'd been wanting as a birthday present to myself.....it wasn't a big deal though. I've had more fun in my 40's than I ever did in my 20's and 30's.

 

[mustang200]

There was an article in Road and Track Magazine, nearly 40 years ago, entitled "Life Begins at 3,000 RPM. I took that to mean that "Life Begins at 40."

About the time I reached 40, I stopped counting my age on the Fahrenheit Scale and switched over to Celsius. Instantly I became 4.4C years old. I am now only 17C.

It's just a number, don't sweat it.

 

[Babalugats]

Are you single and over 40 and looking to get the most our of your life?

 

[abagail678]

How the heck did you handle turning 40? I tried to treat it as no big deal, but my wife and friends insisted on making a big deal of it. What were YOU'RE emotions upon hitting the big four-oh? How did you handle it? Did you throw a big bash? Low-key affair? By this way to get over turning 40 .
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